Post # 1
I am in the early stages of planning our wedding. It is definately going to be somewhat non traditional and it is definately going to involve FH and I saying I do in our own words. Now comes the hard part…who do we invite? It seems so simple. Make a list of all of the people you love and want to share your day with. What if 50% of the people HATE the other 50% of the people? Who do you invite? Do you have two receptions? Do you expect people to suck up past hurts and just “be nice” for the day? During our courtship we have seen many friends that were couples break up and forge new relationships. None of these people get along with each other now. Dinner parties are simple, we alternate which “side” of the couple we are going to invite and do something alternative with the other “side.” But now I run the risk of hurting feelings or putting people in awkward positions. Has anyone else faced this problem? What was your solution?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Kindred Oaks, Georgetown
I think that friends should be able to get over their difference or just let them go for the day. It’s your wedding day. They should be there for you, not their drama. I’ve got a couple people on my guest list that aren’t the best of friends but I’m hoping they can be mature enough for the 5 hours they’ll be together.
Post # 4
I have friends who have split and family members who have falling outs and we invited everyone. If it’s a big enough issue, one of them won’t come; if they can be adults about it, they’ll sit on opposite sides of the room and ignore it for one night; and if a fight happens to break out, kick them out or have security/designated family member do it.
Post # 5
If they care about you they will suck it up for one day and sit on opposite sides of the room. Or they can always RSVP no. Don’t stress yourself out too much trying to accomodate people and their drama.
Post # 6
It’s your day and you need to worry about you and your FI. If some ppl don’t like each other, well they can just get over it for one day. Seriously, unless you think some guest might cause huge scenes or fight at your wedding, I wouldn’t stress over it and just think about the people that you would want to share your day with, regardless of what they think of each other.
Don’t fret!! *hugs*
Post # 7
I agree with mrsmurraytobe, this is your day. I understand where you are coming from, and we had the same issues when making our guest list. At the end of the day, now that my list is down and invitations are out, if people want to be there they will be there. If someone is worried about social awkwardness enough to miss out on the most important day of your life, then that’s their decision. Invite everyone who you want to spend your day with and I promise you will feel better. If someone is really that uncomfortable by someone else then they can make the decision whether to go or not.