Post # 1
So I just booked the venue for my January 1st 2011 wedding. I have been anxious to move forward with planning, including coming up with a guest list.
As my side of the family is only inviting about 30 people we already have our guest list set. My fiance and I have also come up with our guest list.
The only people who have yet to come up with a rough list are my in-laws. I asked my father-in-law this morning during our morning commute (we work in the same building so we carpool) and his comment was that its “too early”. I was a little taken aback since they’re planning to invite the majority of the 250 guests and I would like to have a better idea of how many guests they want to invite.
Is it too early to have a guest list?
Post # 3
I don’t think so at all! You should be sending out STD soon if you plan on doing them.
Post # 4
I personally made the guest list before I booked the venue. Otherwise I wouldn’t know how many people to tell the venue as an approximate number (which determines everything it seems like). Also, it gave me a better idea of how much per plate we could spend (some places were automatically ruled out due to the cost per person with our number of guests).
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s too early. I already have mine pretty much done, and my wedding is July/11. I mainly did it this early because I’m so far away from the wedding location/home (4000 miles) so I wanted to get it out of the way to send out the save the dates this summer, so it’s one less thing to worry about when i’m home and doing the bulk of the planning.
I say go for it, especially if you’re sending out save the dates 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t think so, a lot of decisions are based on your guest list
Post # 7
The first thing we did was decide on roughly how much we were willing to spend. The second thing was formulating a preliminary guest list. It’s 100% not too early to start thinking about who you want to invite, but be careful if you send out save-the-dates! Even though we pondered over our guest list for months, I regret sending save-the-dates to a few of them.
Post # 8
No!! I think it’s one of the first things you should do. It will help determine cost, location, # centerpieces, etc. It’s very important. Also, since you’re getting married in less than 8 months and on a holiday, you’ll want to get your Save the Dates out soon.
Post # 9
it is absolutely not too early! we have already had one fight about it (not us, but with parents) and i’m glad we did it before we sent out STD’s because we’ve had to tweak our list some. some people we wanted on our “A” list, who would have gotten STD’s are now on the “B” list and will not get an STD.
Post # 10
You really can’t be too early with the guest list. For one thing, it is crucial to planning and budgeting. For another, it takes FOREVER to gether all of the addresses. FOREVER. I’m planning on sending out my invites in a week (!!!) and I’m still looking for a few stragglers.
Post # 11
I made mine before I booked my venue. Otherwise I wouldn’t have known what kind of capacity or food/beverage minimums would work for us.
Post # 12
Not at all! I’ve had my list made up for 4 months and we aren’t getting married till April 2011. We have added people who didn’t think of. When you go to look at venues they ask you how many guest you are inviting. It is a good thing to know. I say dig in, it’s less than a year and it’ll be going by fast!
Post # 13
My wedding isn’t until well into 2012 and I made a list – just to get an idea of how many people I wanted to invite. It’s obviously not set in stone at this point, but it was good to see who I really wanted to be there.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Not at all! My wedding is a week after yours and we already have our guest list almost finalized and are sending out save the dates within the next couple of weeks!
Post # 15
Hi date twin!!
No it is not too early to start a guest list. Maybe he just doesn’t know how important a guest list is right now. He probably thinks that you are ready to send off invites. Maybe you should ask your FMIL to do it.
Post # 16
Our guest list was the first thing we did, before we booked a venue or anything else. If your FILs aren’t willing to make their list (and how generous of you to let them invite a “majority” of 250 people – not many couples would let their parents do that!) then I think your FH needs to do it on their behalf. They can check the list and make amendments and then you’ll have your numbers. If that doesn’t work either then I think you’d be within your rights to not let them have a guest list.