The hardest part about being a bride…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree. The hardest thing is telling myself that not everyone wants to hear about every little detail and that my wedding isn’t everyone’s most important thing lol – that and keeping my mouth shut on FB bc of how few people we’re inviting!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it’s also pretty difficult for me to keep things a secret. I want to show everyone my shoes and my dress and everything else…but I feel like I’m either bragging or other people don’t care that much yet…lol.

But the hardest part for me has been how emotional I get about everything lately. It’s pretty ridiculous. Usually, I think I can count in one hand how many times I cry in 6 months. And in the last month, I think I’ve teared up about something at least once a week. Granted, I have lots going on…but still!!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Probably since I’m $25,000 in debt, having to put my money towards my wedding instead of towards my debt. (I would wait to get married after my debts are paid, but FI is very adamant about not waiting!)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Budget is a challenge for me. It’s hard not being able to afford ”reasonable” costs like many other brides : I either have to cut the item off the list (flowers, cake …), or fix a very low, unrealistic budget for it. So we’re cutting off the list. For some things it’s okay, really. It doesn’t feel necessary to us anyway. But for other items, it’s almost heartbreaking.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Having to listen to so many different ideas/opinions/questions from a variety of individuals. I am so tired of talking about the same things over and over. I really don’t mind talking about my wedding if people ask, but my mom and FMIL both have this habit of bringing the same things up over and over again. It has started wearing on me recently. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Making myself happy instead of trying to make everyone else happy instead 🙁

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@pandaroo:  Honestly, I’m struggling to justify spending the money most of all. Second on the list is the fact that people keep asking me about wedding stuff like it’s all I have going on these days. Lately my response is to just get stumped for a couple seconds and then explain why I haven’t even had time to think about wedding stuff since last month. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@pandaroo:  Letting go of the little things! Sometimes I have the cutest ideas but they don’t fit in the budget so I have to let them slip away into the garbage of my mind. Some things were so perfect too! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@pandaroo:  I’ve luckily been able to cut a lot of costs though. My dress I’m getting for free from my mom. My venue includes on-site catering and decorations. My MIL is doing my STDs and invitations for free. My mom is doing my flowers and paying for my photographer. I’m getting a free DJ. But even after all that, it’s still looking like everything will cost around $5k-6k. Venue will be $4,000 for 75 guests, so that’s really most of what I’m paying for. But even though that’s cheap compared to a lot of what other brides are paying, that’s still $5,000 I could put towards my loans!!! 🙁

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ImmaBee:  Thank you!!! +5000

 

The hardest part is listening to everyone’s “advice”…it got old after the first year. Especially with my mom. She forgets everything I tell her, my FMIL is the same way. The other day my FMIL asked my FH if I was wearing a wedding gown.

… I showed her pictures of me in my gown a month or so before. Texted/Emailed her pictures when I bought it 6 months before. And described it in great detail everytime I saw her.

No. There isn’t anything wrong with her mentally.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@lolita39:  OMG, I can relate to the forgetfulness! We visited with FH’s parents this weekend (we live 5 hours away so don’t see them super often). FMIL is big on repeating things, and I think she asked “so you want to do the rehearsal dinner at a restaurant near the hotel?” at least 8 times in a 2 hour time frame.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The hardest part is managing everybody else. I get questioned endlessly what I want ppl to wear, go, do, say, when to be where, what I want, every minute, every thing, down to the color of socks they’re wearing. can they do this. Can they do that. 

I want to scream I DONT CARE, stop asking me things, use ur brain, ur best judgement, make an effort instead of the easy route of just being told what to do. I don’t have time or energy to choreograph everybodys entire wedding experience. I’m planning the entire wedding myself.

And when I ask u to help me with something (FI), dont just ask me how to do it, just figure it out! Otherwise I might as well do it myself!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@BeeG35:  

@lolita39:  

I can totally relate!

 

My mother calls me a few times a day just to ask me questions. “Have you thought about what jewelry you’re going to wear?” “You should invite 10 more family members” “I found the greatest picture of a ceremony arch!” ….mom…I’m working. 

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