Post # 1
For me it is not telling people about the cute things I have bought or have planned so that I don’t ruin the whole wedding day. I got my garter today on whim trip to hobby lobby which just opened in our area and I am in love with them and it is so challenging not to just be excited with others about these feelings! Guess thats what the Bee is for =]
What was/is the hardeset part of being a bride for you??
Post # 3
I agree. The hardest thing is telling myself that not everyone wants to hear about every little detail and that my wedding isn’t everyone’s most important thing lol – that and keeping my mouth shut on FB bc of how few people we’re inviting!
Post # 4
I think it’s also pretty difficult for me to keep things a secret. I want to show everyone my shoes and my dress and everything else…but I feel like I’m either bragging or other people don’t care that much yet…lol.
But the hardest part for me has been how emotional I get about everything lately. It’s pretty ridiculous. Usually, I think I can count in one hand how many times I cry in 6 months. And in the last month, I think I’ve teared up about something at least once a week. Granted, I have lots going on…but still!!!
Post # 5
Probably since I’m $25,000 in debt, having to put my money towards my wedding instead of towards my debt. (I would wait to get married after my debts are paid, but FI is very adamant about not waiting!)
Post # 6
Budget is a challenge for me. It’s hard not being able to afford ”reasonable” costs like many other brides : I either have to cut the item off the list (flowers, cake …), or fix a very low, unrealistic budget for it. So we’re cutting off the list. For some things it’s okay, really. It doesn’t feel necessary to us anyway. But for other items, it’s almost heartbreaking.
Post # 7
Having to listen to so many different ideas/opinions/questions from a variety of individuals. I am so tired of talking about the same things over and over. I really don’t mind talking about my wedding if people ask, but my mom and FMIL both have this habit of bringing the same things up over and over again. It has started wearing on me recently.
Post # 8
Making myself happy instead of trying to make everyone else happy instead 🙁
Post # 9
@pandaroo: Honestly, I’m struggling to justify spending the money most of all. Second on the list is the fact that people keep asking me about wedding stuff like it’s all I have going on these days. Lately my response is to just get stumped for a couple seconds and then explain why I haven’t even had time to think about wedding stuff since last month.
Post # 10
I SOO agree with the money aspect, after getting quotes back from caterer’s I was really ready to just call it off! I sit and think of all these people I am paying for and it seems so wasteful! You put the word wedding near something and suddenly its 5x more expensive, and it is so frustrating. I also feel like it seems all these other brides have an endless budget and I know it isn’t true so it is nice to see some other budgeting brides! I keep thinking of all the other things that I could be spending this money on, but as @stephee: said we should be doing what makes US happy!!!
That’s not to say I haven’t cried and been at some low depressed points during the process @MrsP0801: !!!
That is why I am so happy to have all of you other bees!
Post # 11
@pandaroo: Letting go of the little things! Sometimes I have the cutest ideas but they don’t fit in the budget so I have to let them slip away into the garbage of my mind. Some things were so perfect too!
Post # 12
@pandaroo: I’ve luckily been able to cut a lot of costs though. My dress I’m getting for free from my mom. My venue includes on-site catering and decorations. My MIL is doing my STDs and invitations for free. My mom is doing my flowers and paying for my photographer. I’m getting a free DJ. But even after all that, it’s still looking like everything will cost around $5k-6k. Venue will be $4,000 for 75 guests, so that’s really most of what I’m paying for. But even though that’s cheap compared to a lot of what other brides are paying, that’s still $5,000 I could put towards my loans!!! 🙁
Post # 13
@ImmaBee: Thank you!!! +5000
The hardest part is listening to everyone’s “advice”…it got old after the first year. Especially with my mom. She forgets everything I tell her, my FMIL is the same way. The other day my FMIL asked my FH if I was wearing a wedding gown.
… I showed her pictures of me in my gown a month or so before. Texted/Emailed her pictures when I bought it 6 months before. And described it in great detail everytime I saw her.
No. There isn’t anything wrong with her mentally.
Post # 14
@lolita39: OMG, I can relate to the forgetfulness! We visited with FH’s parents this weekend (we live 5 hours away so don’t see them super often). FMIL is big on repeating things, and I think she asked “so you want to do the rehearsal dinner at a restaurant near the hotel?” at least 8 times in a 2 hour time frame.
Post # 15
The hardest part is managing everybody else. I get questioned endlessly what I want ppl to wear, go, do, say, when to be where, what I want, every minute, every thing, down to the color of socks they’re wearing. can they do this. Can they do that.
I want to scream I DONT CARE, stop asking me things, use ur brain, ur best judgement, make an effort instead of the easy route of just being told what to do. I don’t have time or energy to choreograph everybodys entire wedding experience. I’m planning the entire wedding myself.
And when I ask u to help me with something (FI), dont just ask me how to do it, just figure it out! Otherwise I might as well do it myself!
Post # 16
I can totally relate!
My mother calls me a few times a day just to ask me questions. “Have you thought about what jewelry you’re going to wear?” “You should invite 10 more family members” “I found the greatest picture of a ceremony arch!” ….mom…I’m working.