(Closed) The Housewife

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your opinion of housewives?
    I'd love to be one, but the idea makes me feel guilty for not contributing to the household income. : (60 votes)
    15 %
    I respect women who choose to be one, but it isn't the right choice for me. : (98 votes)
    24 %
    I want to be one, but we can't afford to live on only his income. : (74 votes)
    18 %
    It is not for me, and I have a little ill-will towards those who choose that lifestyle. : (82 votes)
    20 %
    Other - I'll explain below! : (19 votes)
    5 %
    I already am a SAHW or plan to be one in the future : (71 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would love to be one, but I couldn’t just sit around all day and have leisurely lunches.

    If I didn’t work I’d spend a lot of time volunteering (probably with animals) and also a lot of time at the barn.

    Unfortunately my passion is horses and I cannot make money in my passion. So if I had the funds to be a “housewife” I probably would. But I’d be more of a “barn wife” then a housewife.

    ETA: I would probably also be a perpetual student. I’d get a masters in something. Probably learn another language. I love learning just to learn and it’d be great to have the time and money to just continue to educate myself.

    Post # 4
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    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, I have a lot of respect for women who do that.  To me, housewife = you do all the cleaning/cooking/etc. since you’re home all day while your husband works.  I COULD NEVER DO THAT!!!  I hate cleaning.  It makes me want to vomit (bit of an exageration but, you get the point).  I’d much rather go to work all day then clean/grocery shop/do chores all day.  I don’t understand why someone would go to college and then choose to be a housewife though.  That just kind of seems like a waste of time/money/energy.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would go insane. I have to contribute to society in a bigger way than keeping my house cleaned! I have way too many goals outside of the home to ever be a housewife. I think that even with kids, I couldn’t do it longer than a year or two!

    Post # 6
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    9825 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Personally, I think it’s fantastic. If I had the financial situation to map out my domestic life (running the house, travel, time to explore hobbies) and enjoy myself, I totally would. I’d probably do charity and volunteer work to acheive balance.

    I think women who do this get a bad rap, but if I was being entirely honest, I’d like the same kind of freedom.

    Post # 7
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    568 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I definitely want to be a SAHM but before kids I will be working.  As appealing as it sounds I do no think I would actually like it pre-children.  FH just told me the other day that could take as long as I want before working when I move to Wisconsin but I don’t think I will take him up on that.  Maybe my mind will change once I get there, who knows. 

    Post # 9
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    If we could afford it, I would love to do it. I enjoy cooking, cleaning (yes, I actually like cleaning!), and keeping up the house. We don’t have kids yet but I would love to stay home with them until at least middle school. Like others I would need something else though, like volunteering.

    I have a B.S. degree and earn more than my SO, so this most likely would never happen.

    Post # 9
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    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’d like to be home at least while we have young children. That is, if we can manage it financially. I do think it’s important for women to have an identity outside of the home as well though.

    Post # 10
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I don’t want to be disrespectful… so i’ll just say I don’t really “get” staying home if you don’t have kids. At least as a permanent situation. But thats just me. 

    Post # 11
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I couldn’t do it. It’s not that I love working, but I would just feel totally left out of the whole working world, like I was suddenly so different from DH. And I just couldn’t get comfortable with the fact that it was ‘our’ money even though DH was the only one going to work. It’s strange, but I like the fact that I make more than him, it makes me feel more important (DH does nothing to make me feel this way, it’s all in my head).

    I actually have less prejudice against housewives with no children than I do SAHM’s, which is very strange. I think it has something to do with the fact that I was raised by a SAHM who hated it, but still refused to join the workforce or go to school. She took out her unhappiness on me and my siblings resulting in a lot of emotional issues. We’re all fine now, but I look back on our childhood and realize that’s why some people just aren’t cut out to stay at home. A stay at home housewife? Sure! There’s less overall expenses with no children, so why the heck not? And you aren’t messing up anybody’s life if there are no kids to raise. It’s like a cool status symbol.

    Post # 11
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    2398 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would lose my everloving mind.

     

    Post # 12
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    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I just wonder what I would do with all that time on my hands. As it is, I’m looking for a hobby, because at the end of the day, I’m usually bored, and watching TV doesn’t cut it.

    Post # 13
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    Ask me that in my 20s and 30s?  The answer would have been a definite negative, now?  I’d do it in a heartbeat!  I love my job but would much rather not have to work.  I would love to concentrate on designing clothing and volunteering of some sort.  Probably outreach for other Army wives.

    ETA: I turn 40 a few months ago,.

    Post # 14
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    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wish I could be one and I have a college degree…in fact two college degrees.  I used to be that person that didn’t understand girls that wanted to stay at home.  I’ve completely changed my mind, but just can’t afford to do so. 

    Before I went to college, I was single and not banking on some guy to take care of me.  Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.  It was the best option for me to stay in school and finish.  What if I never did get married?  What if my spouse never makes enough for me to stay at home?

    It’s the same thing when moms try to convince their children to forego going into the pros to finish their education first.  Yea it could be a waste of time and money to go to college, but hey…what’s the likelyhood of you making it long enough to take care of yourself the rest of your life?  You never know when you are going to need it and it’s good to have something to fall back on.

    I’d definitely go insane at home too, but I would love to volunteer and get involved.

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