Post # 1
I have heard so many stories about married men taking their rings off when they are out with their boys. At first I thought it was just a small % of guys, but I swear I keep hearing about it. Obviously I would expect my FI to wear his ring out and he says he would, but I am starting to get nervous about it! I dont understand why men think its ok, but if a woman would take off her rings it would be the end of the world!
How do you bees feel about it? Have you noticed this trend too?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t listen to all the stories. Stories like that make me lose faith in men/people in general. I’m fairly certain that my husband wouldn’t do that, but stories like that make doubt creep into my mind. Same with strippers, etc.
On the other hand, I’ve heard of poachers, or women who go for men WITH rings, so maybe they are avoiding that?
And for what its worth, I rarely wear my ring because we don’t have insurance on it yet, but my husband ALWAYS wears his. Does that make you feel better? 🙂
Post # 4
I hadn’t heard that. For what it’s worth, my husband NEVER takes off his wedding ring. He’s very superstitious about it. He’s of the mind that once I put it on his finger it won’t ever come off again. Not saying that those guys don’t exist, but if I were you I wouldn’t stress myself out about it. Your FI says he’ll wear his ring out, I think you should trust him on it.
Post # 5
Sure, it happens. But I don’t think it’s super common. FWIW, I don’t know any married men who don’t wear theirs all the time
Post # 6
Hmm. well, we both take off our rings to cook (yes, sometimes he cooks!) and we even installed a little ring hook in the kitchen. otherwise we never take them off. he would kill me if i took mine off and he wouldn’t think of it.
well, except to make it do little whirly-spinny things on the table when we go out to eat 😉
have you talked to your fiance about this concern?
Post # 7
@ellabee: Haha, my husband ALWAYS does this, as he claims, ” to check the balance of the table.” Um, ok, sweetie. 🙂
Post # 8
i havent heard about this but i hope it’s a very common behavior! there are all kinds of dirtbags out there, though, so i’m sure it happens. it seems like some people don’t take marriage very seriously any more…
Post # 9
@cabanagrl9: I wouldn’t get too concerned. I hadn’t heard of this trend to be honest, but I think you should have nothing to worry about. I’ve never seen my father without his wedding ring…ever. I’ve always thought it was sweet, and a sign of great respect to my mother.
Although depending on how much he uses his hands you might have to deal with a few dents!
Post # 10
@farmgirl2106:LOL. Mine doesn’t justify it at all, in fact he makes fun of me because I can’t get mine to spin, even though mine is “better for spinning” than his!
the only kind of people that i know who do this are ones who never took their marriage seriously in the first place. like not seriously at all, not even their wedding.
but seriously, if you’re worried, ask him how often he plans to wear it and what it means to him. until you talk to him about it he will have no idea you’re even thinking about it
Post # 11
DH often forgets to put his ring on when he goes out and I bug him about it, but I trust him and I know that ring or no ring, he’s not going out with his friends to pick up other women.
Unless your DH has given you any other reasons to doubt his integrity, don’t listen to the stories. They have no relevance to your particular relationship.
Post # 13
My fiance plans to ditch the ring after the wedding & get ring tattoo after, so I guess I don’t have to worry about this 🙂 But no- I haven’t heard of this as a common thing either. It would make me worry though if it were my husband doing it- what reason would he have other than the obvious?
Post # 14
My husband wears his ring all the time. Even when he is showering and sleeping. If he were to take it off when going out he would lose it – hes not that dumb haha
Post # 15
I dont think that my FI will necessarily do it, but it does happen and more often then we would like to think. He tells me when his friends take their rings off. I wouldnt care as much if I knew he didnt wear it all of the time or “forgot” to put it on sometimes. It would bug me if he wore it all of the time and then slipped it in his pocket when he walked out the door. I have never heard of any of these guys cheating, but the whole concept is annoying!
Post # 16
Ultimately, you gotta trust that he’s not one of those guys.You know the kind of man he is and that isn’t gonna change when you marry him. If he isn’t the kind of guy to go out with his buds and take off his ring now, then he probably won’t do it when you’re married. But I agree with the previous posters – If you’re genuinely concerned about it, ask him 🙂