- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I am having problems making decisions today and could use some advice from real people: Through my job, I am in charge of 25-30 volunteers, of which my fiance is one. Also in the group is – follow me here – the husband of the CEO of the company for which my fiance works. Now, since my fiance joined the volunteers two years ago, the whole group has harassed us about getting engaged. This week I had occasion to e-mail all of them, so I took that opportunity to tell them all the good news. Just about all of them have responded with their congratulations and the usual happiness/follow-up questions.
Here’s the part that has me in a tizzy: The husband of the CEO called me and, after offering his congratulations, just about demanded an invitation. Usually, I go out of my way to give this man everything he wants not only because his wife could have my fiance fired in the blink of an eye, but because I work for a non-profit and he donates a significant amount of money every year. And, truth be told, I really LIKE the guy. If we were getting married in the area, I wouldn’t hesitate to invite them. But we’re getting married on a cruise (and our guest list – because of my HUGE family – is already at 175). Now I wonder if I should invite he and his wife to the cruise. It would be good for my fiance’s career (and our “best woman,” who also works for the company) and the difference between 175 and 177 is so minimal. But then what about the other volunteers? Can I invite just these two and not the rest? Can I ask them to keep their invitation a secret? Do I really want the CEO of my fiance’s company there, watching me sob out my vows? Oh, I am so confused!!!! Can you help?!?!