The "I don't think I can pull this off" feeling

posted 2 years ago in June 2015
Post # 2
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Tarp Chapel

I understand what you are going through! As I look through all the decor that my mother and I have bought I just think… How is all of THIS going to fit together? To get rid of half the stress, I had chosen a venue where everything is going to be set up for us (linens included!), all we do is set up our own centerpieces. They even do the cake, so literally all we have to do is show up! So that stress has really subsided.. but I have seen many weddings come together, my best friends wedding (that I was MOH in) was a total DIY wedding, and it came out absolutely gorgeous in the end. The stress endded up being all for nothing, and it was so worth it looking back at all of the pictures after the wedding. I think stress was our main motivator, honestly. Just with the nature of my job, and his job we just don’t have time for wedding stress on top of real life. 🙂

Post # 3
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ SkinnyLatte17—Oh I knowthis feeling. I started to act like a little wedding planner myself. Like it was a second job. Organised everything in a book and make appointments and have money labelled in envelopes for payments. Ideas printed and kept in the book for refferences. I tell you this is definately work and all the stress is on you. So dont worry be organised and don’t delay. I’m trying to think positive. 

@ Mizzbouvier14—my thoughts were similar to yours. My MOH wedding was DIY and turned out great. But I didnt want the extra stress so I booked a decorator.

 

 

Post # 4
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

SkinnyLatte17:  YUP. It, along with the first time I taught children in a classroom, wore an engagement ring, and fought a ticket in court were cold-water wakeup calls to the fact I’m a G-R-O-W-N-U-P W-O-M-A-N. Weird feeling, huh?

Don’t worry. I’m sure this isn’t as difficult as having a child and realizing you are responsible with keeping another human being alive. I know that will be a mindwarp to the Nth degree for me when that happens. 

Just roll with it. When I start thinking and planning, I imagine it’s just like in college when I used to throw blow out benders at my apartment that started as innocent margarita nights. It’s just like that but with a much bigger budget, better clothes, and (hopefully) better alcohol-tolerant guests. 

Post # 5
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1104 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m a June 2014 bride and I felt the same way! I look at it similarly like I did when I was starting high school and thinking about college. It was just so foreign and so far away, that I couldn’t conceptualize it. But as time passes, you prepare and you keep getting a tiny bit more prepared and by the time you get there, you are ready! I also recommend some help to guide you along the way, like a day of coordinator (who helped A LOT). 🙂

Post # 6
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can relate….. I’m planning a traditional Syrian wedding for 530 guests and I’ve only been to one before and it was totally non traditional, so I have absolutely nothing to compare to. 

You have plenty of time my dear, do one thing at a time, get a wedding book and organize every single paper, contract, idea….. You will do great 🙂 

Post # 7
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MrsPiggles:  530 PEOPLE???? I don’t even know that many people on facebook!!! I quit! I wanna be a kid again and have my mom bake me cupcakes for my special day!!

Post # 8
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

coffeedrinker:  70 of those people is my side, including family and friends. haha!! 

I’m not thrilled about the list but that’s their tradition……they invite everyone and their families are HUGE! 

We shall see how things turn out….. I’m a bit nervous about it. 

PS, I’m still asking my FI to go to Vegas and get it over with. He won’t…… 

 

Post # 9
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1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

SkinnyLatte17:  At times I feel a little overwhelmed (i’m also in my final year of studying/working full time/MOH in my friends wedding) and it’s kind of like wooooah I need a second me! But you still have some time up your sleeve so it’s definitely do-able.

If you have BM’s/family members/friends who offer to help, take them up on it! Even if it’s just to get opinions on things and help you make a decision. I’ve tackled our planning one thing at a time so I could really focus, check it off the list and move on the next. I think it will be so satisfying to see it all come together on the day and see how the hard work has paid off!

Don’t stress, make lots of lists and don’t feel the need to second guess yourself, if you and your FI love something, go with it!

MrsPiggles:  Wow that is a LOT of guests!!!! How amazing, i’d love to see it! I can imagine there will be a pretty amazing vibe on the day with all those people!

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