Post # 1
So, I am sure with wedding planning, waiting, or just married life there are a lot of things that upset you and irk you. Some of those things are a big deal, but some of them are just little tiny things that really “shouldn’t” bother you but they do anyways. Normally, when someone posts about these things, they get blasted for being selfish or ridiculous. Well, here is a safe place, vent about whatever you want, no matter how silly or little, if it bugs you, get it off your chest!
Please no critiques, unrequested advice or negative comments about what people say!
I know it is silly but, it upsets me that…
my mother invited 6 people to my wedding I have never met
my fmil insists on being the center of attention and wearing an offwhite dress
my fiance doesn’t understand why some little things upset me!
it costs $50 a plate for the vendors to eat, seems outrageous
Looking forward to seeing others vent as well!
Post # 3
I’m 8 days from my RSVP deadline and we’re still missing almost HALF the responses! WTF people – the return envelope was PRE-stamped and PRE-addressed for you!!!
Post # 4
One of my oldest friends and bridesmaids blew off my surprise shower last weekend b/c one of her friends wasn’t invited and it was too far to drive. I’ve made the drive up to see her 5 million times for lesser reasons, and everyone there had to drive at least an hour – most had a multi hour trip to rival hers. She was the only dim spot in a wonderful day and it sucks that she wouldn’t join us.
Post # 5
– my mom saying that we will go dress shopping when I loose a few pounds. i’m not that big!
– no one liking the reception area that fi and i like because there isn’t a hotel attached.
– fmil keeps on telling me that we MUST have our reception at a certain place because it has a hotel. that way people can drink more. ( fi and i don’t really drink)
– my sister taking her two young sons with when we finally decided to go look at wedding dresses. ( it was ww3).
– dad wearing slippers and not brushes his hair when we went to look at venues. ( i know its silly)
– people telling us we won’t have time to take care of a dog. ( we both really want one)
anyways. thats what has been bothering me lately. lol. I know some of it sounds a little crazy, but it still burns my butter!
Post # 6
If another person asks me when we are getting engaged and if it’ll be on our trip to Europe, my head will explode. If another person asks what happened with the house, my head will explode. If I knew when we were getting engaged, I’d be sure to have already told everyone… if I wanted to talk about not getting the house, I would be talking about it.
That’s more of a vent than a silly feeling vent. thanks
Post # 7
we dont have thousands of dollars for a dream honeymoon… stop making a dumb face when we say we dont know where we are going, unless you are going to provide us with a faboulous honeymoon.
Sorry we aren’t rich we are paying for most of the wedding ourselves we are lucky if we get to do Vegas.
Post # 8
EVERYONE has an opinion but no one helps.. why??
It annoys me that I have to have my wedding in a month that RAINS non stop, squeezed into my 10 day work holiday and on my Birthday, to suit everyone elses schedule… Which, I am, Coming To Terms with, but still, secretly a little resentful about….
My FI us just as wishy washy as me, and says, “Yep, it’s good babe, book it!” And 3 days later… “You didn’t BOOK IT though, right..?” WTF? Come. On.
I’m sure I’ll be back with more….
Oh, I am also not thrilled about the $50/plate vendor meal… I mean it is the right thing to do, but weddings are always about cutting costs, this is working in the wrong direction!
Post # 9
@NatDawn–“Everyone has an opinion, but no one helps.”
Yes! This, exactly. Help me, or quiet down, for the love of God.
Yesterday, my mother told me she would “rather DIE than eat cake from a tree” (I love those tree stump cake stands. Oi.
Post # 10
People asking when I’m going to get pregnant. Um, not even married yet, can we do that first??
Post # 11
We’re having a long engagement, and FI’s sister just got engaged last week and will beat us to the altar. I KNOW it’s silly, but I’m upset anyways!
Post # 12
The one thing I’m completely angry/sad about right now is NWR, but I’m going to go ahead and vent anyhow!!
There is this house that I have been in LOVE with (and lust with) for well over 2 years now. It’s amazing. I drive by and oogle it almost every day (it’s on my way home, I’m not quite *that* creepy). When I go for walks/runs in the evening, I always have to run by this house and stare at it, because it’s so gorgeous.
It’s now for sale.
It’s also about $900k out of my price range! LOL which I knew – that’s no surprise. And I wasn’t bothered by the fact that it was unattainable – just a dream. I was fine with dreaming about it. What bothers me now is that someone else will buy it! And probably someone from NYC, who will only use it for a summer house (it has a full water view, would be amazing for parties, etc.), and they won’t love it like I would love it.
I know this is totally irrational, but it makes me want to scream. That’s MY house!!!!! It’s not fair!!! I need a fairy godmother!
p.s. here’s a picture of her (sob! sob! sob!)
Post # 13
I was annoyed that one of my BM chose to go to one of her friends birthday parties rather than accompany me to my first dress fitting. FYI my fitting was at 1pm in the afternoon and the party was way later so ??? That same BM takes forrrrever to reply to e-mails. grrrr
Post # 14
-i try soooo hard to keep in touch with everyone i care about, regardless of how far away they live, and instead of just responding to a “how are you doing?” email, my friend sent me one back saying how crazy busy her life is and she would try and respond to my email when she had a chance.i’ve gotten like 4 other long winded other emails she’s sent out to multiple people since then, and yet she is too busy to respond to me one on one.
Post # 15
My younger sister getting pregnant has completely ruined our relationship. She’s become entitled, spoiled and bitchy and my parents are catering to her every whim. She constantly brings up the fact that she is going to be a mom even in times when it is inappropriate. She keeps rubbing it in my face that her boyfriend has already bought her a ring and even though she knows my bf and I have been casually planning a wedding for the next year or so she is doing everything in her power to make sure she is “first”.
I’m more than resentful of her for her attitude. If she were being responsible I don’t think it would bother me as much but lately I get angry even hearing her mentioned or having to be in the same room with her. It makes me feel like a bad person, but I really think I hate her. I know I shouldn’t feel this way but I can’t help but feel like she has taken away from me everything I valued and “earned” by being the oldest. She doesn’t have any humility or respect and I want nothing to do with her, but I have to pretend to be supportive or risk losing my family…
Post # 16
My mother keeps pointing out every flaw in my face and body, and telling me I need to ‘look perfect’ and ‘look beautiful’ on my wedding day! Uhh… I just want to look happy, and I would be happier if she didn’t keep reminding me of my lack of perfection. She’s not being mean… it’s almost like it’s a compulsive behaviour for her. But it’s still frustrating!