Weddingbee boards

UGH!....bees, I gotta vent.

So many of you probably know that I have a moissanite e-ring, which I love so freaking much! And today my FI and I went into Leroy's to look at diamond wedding bands. Well, the guy was super helpful and then asked if I wanted my ring cleaned and before he took it back he asked if it was from Kay's, Zales, etc, any of the sister jewelers? and we of course said no because it wasn't. So he took my ring back, looked at it, steamed cleaned it, came back and then asked "What kind of stone is that?"

omfg. HOW RUDE! Was I going to lie? no. Did I want to lie and try to pass it off as a dimond, not at all. But it was rude and disrespectful to question what my ring was, am I wrong? My FI was very offended because he brought up the point of, why is it any of his business? and if my FI were to get me the ring and not give my the details because they don't matter, how would he answer that in front of me if I didn't know anything about Moissanite and if it was one?

After that, we left. I didn't find any bands that I liked to go with and after seeing sets, have decided to set my stone into a matching set that MoissaniteCo has (I posted about it as well). Anyway, I just wanted to vent. I don't understand why anyone would have the nerve to ask questions like that. If I ever thought someone's ring was a fake diamond, or a moissanite, or different stone, whatever, I would NEVER ask them if it was. If I thought it was pretty, I would comment, but I would never question because it's just RUDE...what if they coulnd't afford something expensive? I mean, that's not the meaning of an engagement ring anyway, its the sentiment behind it. So for someone to ask, even though he was a 'jeweler' just astounds me. Ugh.

Just annoys me, I'll get over it, but had to talk about it somewhere. :P

Sorry, I really don't think that it's rude. Obviously whether it's rude or not is highly subjective. You personally wouldn't ask someone that, so yes from your perspective it's highly offensive.

I wouldn't be offended at all. It's not a diamond, as the jeweler could tell, so what's the harm in his curiosity?

He probably just thought it was a pretty stone he wasn't familiar with. Unless there was tone in his voice that I wasn't there to hear.

I find it along the same lines of asking any girl about any jewelry she's wearing. I see a girl wearing an unusual necklace and I think it's pretty, so I ask her. I've even asked a few people I know casually, very very politely, if they knew what colour their stones were. It's just conversation about the pretties.

And also, as you said yourself, he is a jeweler. He is in the business of gemstones. 

I agree with pp's- my guess is he was just curious and/or wanted to make sure that he didn't harm the stone when he was cleaning it. 

Some stones react differently to different cleaning methods (heat especially), and if he could tell that it wasn't a diamond he may have just wanted to be sure that he wasn't harming the stone unintentionally.

I also don't think it was rude. He is a jeweler-- why wouldn't he ask? His job is to know about stones and since he didn't know what type of stone it was, it makes sense for him to ask.

Sorry I think you're wrong. The question isn't rude. As PP said he's a jeweler and clearly he knew it wasn't a diamond and was curious. If you had a sapphire and someone asked what stone it was would you be offended. No. Honestly I only think you were offended because you want to pass it off as a diamond. just my opinion though.

Yeah, I'm going to agree with everyone else here and say that wasn't rude. He's a jeweler, so it's his job to learn about different types of gemstones.

Also, maybe he wanted to point out that wasn't a diamond beforehand because some unscrupulous people might claim he switched it out or something. 

I also agree... He wasn't being rude.

I'm not sure why you're defensive about the fact he asked what it was. If I were wearing a stone that wasn't obvious as to its identity, I wouldn't have a problem telling him what it was. Even if I didn't want to share that information, I wouldn't take his question as though it was insulting me.

Is there a reason you're taking this so hard?  Like has someone questioned you before?  I think that's one of the most polite ways to ask someone about their ring.

I don't think it was rude at all.  Maybe he was curious, maybe he needed to know to clean it. 

Of course to a lot it doesn't seem rude, and I should have added in my post that he was snoody about it when he asked, and then after we told him it was moissanite, distanced himself and became less helpful. He was acting kind of like "oh, well its not a diamond, so they cant afford what we are looking at now" thats the tone he was carrying. If his tone had been different and he would have asked out of curiosity, it wouldnt have bothered me, but it was how he said it that I found to be offensive.

@heyitssamyrae: That's fair.  I'm sorry he treated you like that.

<3 a fellow moissy owner