Post # 1
UGH!….bees, I gotta vent.
So many of you probably know that I have a moissanite e-ring, which I love so freaking much! And today my Fiance and I went into Leroy’s to look at diamond wedding bands. Well, the guy was super helpful and then asked if I wanted my ring cleaned and before he took it back he asked if it was from Kay’s, Zales, etc, any of the sister jewelers? and we of course said no because it wasn’t. So he took my ring back, looked at it, steamed cleaned it, came back and then asked “What kind of stone is that?”
omfg. HOW RUDE! Was I going to lie? no. Did I want to lie and try to pass it off as a dimond, not at all. But it was rude and disrespectful to question what my ring was, am I wrong? My Fiance was very offended because he brought up the point of, why is it any of his business? and if my Fiance were to get me the ring and not give my the details because they don’t matter, how would he answer that in front of me if I didn’t know anything about Moissanite and if it was one?
After that, we left. I didn’t find any bands that I liked to go with and after seeing sets, have decided to set my stone into a matching set that MoissaniteCo has (I posted about it as well). Anyway, I just wanted to vent. I don’t understand why anyone would have the nerve to ask questions like that. If I ever thought someone’s ring was a fake diamond, or a moissanite, or different stone, whatever, I would NEVER ask them if it was. If I thought it was pretty, I would comment, but I would never question because it’s just RUDE…what if they coulnd’t afford something expensive? I mean, that’s not the meaning of an engagement ring anyway, its the sentiment behind it. So for someone to ask, even though he was a ‘jeweler’ just astounds me. Ugh.
Just annoys me, I’ll get over it, but had to talk about it somewhere. 😛
Post # 3
I don’t think it was rude. It seems you were reading something into his question that probably wasn’t there.
Post # 4
I agree with PP, I don’t think he meant any harm, it sounds like just pure curiosity.
I’d imagine you would get that questions quite a few times with a diamond sim.
Post # 5
I dont think it was rude at all. He is a jeweler and probably could tell it wasnt a diamond so he wanted to know what it was. 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t think he meant any harm. He probably knew it wasn’t a diamond or a cz and was curious. As long as he wasn’t loud and drawing attention to himself and you guys, I don’t really see the issue. You said he was super helpful so I think this is one of those times when you should give a person the benefit of the doubt.
Post # 7
I agree with the other posters.. As a jeweler he has a natural interest and possibly even a good reason to ask. I think you’re reading a judgemental-ness into the question that wasn’t intended. And if your husband had been trying to pass it off to you as a diamond when it wasn’t.. well that’s his mistake and he deserves to get found out!
Post # 8
I also don’t think that it is a rude question – he is a jeweller, could obviously tell it wasn’t a diamond, and was curious as to what type of stone it was. I think that you are reading more into the question than you should be. I think you need to take a deep breath, calm down, and think about it rationally.
Post # 9
Sorry, I really don’t think that it’s rude. Obviously whether it’s rude or not is highly subjective. You personally wouldn’t ask someone that, so yes from your perspective it’s highly offensive.
I wouldn’t be offended at all. It’s not a diamond, as the jeweler could tell, so what’s the harm in his curiosity?
He probably just thought it was a pretty stone he wasn’t familiar with. Unless there was tone in his voice that I wasn’t there to hear.
I find it along the same lines of asking any girl about any jewelry she’s wearing. I see a girl wearing an unusual necklace and I think it’s pretty, so I ask her. I’ve even asked a few people I know casually, very very politely, if they knew what colour their stones were. It’s just conversation about the pretties.
And also, as you said yourself, he is a jeweler. He is in the business of gemstones.
Post # 10
@agirlwithdreams7: I’m sorry this upset you. Did you actually tell him what it was? From the way I read your post, it sounds to me like he might have said it out of curiosity ? Was he snooty about it? I mean, you’re right- it’s really none of his business, you were there to buy a wedding band, not discuss your ering, but he IS a jeweler. From what I’ve read about moissanite, many jewelers enjoy working with it & are quite intrigued by it…
Post # 11
I agree with the previous posters that I don’t think it was rude. More like professional curiosity. I think you’re reading way more into this than is actually there which may be somewhat revealing about your own feelings about “other stones”. Also he might have been asking to make sure he wouldn’t damage the stone during cleaning. Diamonds can handle much harsher cleaners than other, softer stones.
Post # 12
Lots of people wear mossinite as mossanite so maybe he thought it was one and just wanted confirmation.
P.S. Mossanite is a gemstone so be proud pretty lady!
Post # 13
I agree with pp’s- my guess is he was just curious and/or wanted to make sure that he didn’t harm the stone when he was cleaning it.
Some stones react differently to different cleaning methods (heat especially), and if he could tell that it wasn’t a diamond he may have just wanted to be sure that he wasn’t harming the stone unintentionally.
Post # 14
Yeah, I don’t think that was rude at all. I have a blue topaz ring that was my grandmother’s that I wear on my right hand almost every day and people ask me what kind of stone it is all the time; how is that any different?
Post # 15
I think it is a jeweler’s job to ask what stone you have- or at least how they make conversation.
Maybe he was asking because he DIDN’T want to be rude and assume anything.
Post # 16
I agree with all the PPs, I think he was just curious. 🙂 Dont take it to heart, gemstones are beautiful and unique!