Post # 1
DH and I have been married for 4 months and we’ve both wantd to start a family for over a year now. We haven’t ‘officially’ started trying, but I have come off my BCP and all the other medications I’ve was taking (anti-anxiety meds) except for my allergy pills, I figured I’m not going to suffer with that until it’s absolutely necesairy. The reason we haven’t really started trying yet is because of our debt. He JUST finished school and we found out this week that he got the job that he was hoping to get (yay!) and starts next week. We’ve been surviving on student loans, lines of credit an my income for the past 4 years. We’ve worked it out that it will take us a full year to pay off the consumer debt (lines on credit and credit cards) and another year after that to save enough for a down payment on a house. I’m turning 29 in June and DH is 34. That puts our first pregnancy at 31, if we concieve right away. Should I be worried? Everything I read is telling me fertility drops drastically in your 30’s. Does anyone have any experience with this? Should we start now? I dont relish the idea of having babies in a 2 bedroom apt, but I dont want to miss my chance either!
Post # 3
I am in the same boat and trying not to worry. I am 31 and DH is 38 and we haven’t started trying yet. I am freaking out about time! My sister had her first at 34, and her second at 36, so I am using her as my guide.
Post # 4
We will be having kids at about the same ages as you, and I’m a little worried as well, but I try not to get freaked out about it. My husband’s aunt just had her first child at 42!! She didn’t have any complications, and has a happy, healthy, baby boy. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m 38 and just went off the pill. Not ideal but its what I got 🙂
i have friends who needed IVF at 23. I have 2 friends who got pregnant on their first try at 41.
The Internet freaks people out. Stop reading it! Yes, there are more risked as you get older, but the difference between 29 and 31 is minimal. Unless you already know you’ll have trouble conceiving, don’t worry about it too much
Post # 6
@capergrrl: While its true your fertility drops by approx 80% in your 30s, it’s not likely to be any more difficult to conceive until your mid-late 30s. If you are that worried, go see a dr. They can tell you how your levels are.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Atrium at the Curtis Center
I had zero issues conceiving, and I’m 32. I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 8
@capergrrl: No, I wouldn’t worry. Do you have any signs that you have fertility problems? If not, I don’t think it’s a concern. I am not sure it’s a concern so much about conception as it is birth defects after age 35. If it makes you feel any better, my mom had me at 36 and my sister at 40… she did have a miscarriage in between us (but that’s pretty normal), and she didn’t take long to get pregnant either time. We’re perfectly healthy etc.
I would definitely wait until you’re at least out of debt before TTC.
Post # 9
It’s different for every woman. Some women can conceive easily well into their 30’s and even early 40’s, while other women such as myself are infertile from the get go and will need fertility assistance to conceive at all. Like a PP said, if you are truly concerned about it, visit a doctor and have your fertility assessed.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
most of my friends had their first kid when they were about 35. none of them had a hard time conceiving.
Post # 11
I stressed a about this too. I’m 33 so i was worried it would take forever. Well..We got pregnant on our honeymoon right after going off BC! 32 weeks today and baby is doing great!
Post # 12
So they say… IDK, I do not want to start trying until at least 33-36. (I’m 26 this year.) We shall see!
Post # 13
My mom conceived my sister at 34 and me (without even trying!) at 39. I know that’s not universal, but some women definitely stay very fertile!
Post # 14
Thanks for your input posters! i’m a worrier by nature, so I probaby shouldn’t be looking online in the first place. What about male fertility? does it drop significantly at any point?
Post # 15
@capergrrl: nope! Men can have children until they are creepily old!
Post # 16
Don’t worry. I got married when I was 32 and got pregnant on our honeymoon. : )