The issue of pornography!

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kacey23:  nope, I believe that sex is between two people. even though it is on tape, paper or whatever, porn brings foreign people to the sex life of the couple.

 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I agree with what your church is preaching. Porn is very dangerous and I do not think it is acceptable, whether that be in a marriage or not. God created us to love our spouse and our spouse only. Your eyes are for your spouse only—not for other people. We are to keep our eyes on eternal things, not on sinful, worldly things. It doesn’t matter if it is in the privacy of your own home. You (people in general) are still watching someone that is not your spouse…someone that is not part of your marriage covenant. If someone is having issues with intimacy there are counselors and books on how to boost intimacy in a biblical way. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Kacey23:  I’m a Christian and in agreement with you.  Whatever a married couple chooses to do together is nobody’s business but their own.  Porn is like anything else that can be used or abused.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Kacey23:  It could or not.  In our case we sometimes enjoy watching porn together and it’s not a big deal, just something fun to do.  We’re silly a lot so we mainly make fun of them and hardly ever get through an entire movie anyway. 

I think if both people in the relationship agree about it there won’t be any problems or issues.  But if one person is highly offended by porn and the other person cares about their partner’s feelings it wouldn’t be a good idea to hide or lie about it.  At least, imo it’s not, I don’t like lies or secrets.  As long as my husband and I communicate about it and share it together it doesn’t bother either of us. 

Similar to drinking alcohol – if both people are on the same page about drinking, don’t abuse it, hide it from each other or lie about it, it’s not harmful in moderation. 

It’s helpful for couples to have the same moral viewpoint about these kinds of issues.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Kacey23:  a likelihood definitely exists.  We’ve lived it.  Porn has damaged our relationship.  While we are on our way out of that, it still happened.  I wouldn’t have said porn was a big deal a year ago, but now, I definitely think it has power to alter relationships.  

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@donna_saur:  wow, I am so sorry you are going through that, but I am also glad you are working it out.

I believe porn is like a drug, a little bit at first might sound and feel OK, but soon later it will become an issue.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@AnaA:  thank you!  And I agree with you!  It can become an obsession and lead to other behaviors.  While I know this is not true of everyone, it is not a risk I would never allow to be taken again in my relationship.

OP, all of this to say – no, I don’t think pornography has a place in a Christian relationship/marriage.  And once the damage is done, it’s a hard road back.  

Post # 12
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Helper bee

i’m anti-porn but not for christian reasons. i was raised in a catholic home but by the time i was born the traditions kind of wore off.

that being said, i think is 100% inappropriate for ANYONE in a committed relationship for many reasons. i personally don’t like the idea of my fiance “getting off” to the image of someone else. not okay with me. i think it puts unrealistic expectations in their minds, i think it makes people feel insecure, etc.

i just don’t like it. i personally consider porn a form of cheating. i know that’s extreme by a LOT of people’s opinions but my fiance has known this since day one and he agreed to abide. everyone has things they will and will not tolerate in their relationship. porn is not one i will budge on.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

So for those that are saying porn is not okay due it bringing a foreign person/people into the relationship, if you were to tape yourselves, would that be ok?  For example the Tommy Lee and Pam Anderson thing, would it be okay for them to watch themselves?  I’m asking purely out of curiosity (I’m okay with porn, but I believe it can be a slippery slope like alcohol).

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@Kacey23:  “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at another lustfully has already committed adultery with them in their heart. Matthew 5:27-28

I’m Christian, I believe in the spiritual realm. I believe that satan is here to “Steal, Kill & Destroy” John 10:10, and I believe that Satan hates marriage. – I believe that he will use porn to destroy relationships, make our mind’s wander from our spouse, etc.

I also know Jesus wouldn’t watch porn, and since I aim to live like him…. I opt out (as does my husband)

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, in our case we watch way less than we did before.  Maybe we drink more now though, lol. 

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