- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I understood a bit later on the planning process that if your parents are paying for part or the whole wedding, it is your mother’s wedding. We have been fighting over who the photographer is going to be, what to serve on the buffet, and what color should we use for the decoration. My problem is that I have a very budget oriented mom who will pay for the whole wedding.
Yes, you all must be thinking that that is not a problem, and that I will not have to put on a dime for the wedding. Well, you’re wrong. I am happy that my parents will pay for it, however, I want to do the wedding my way. If I was paying for it, I know things will be different. And in the end I will pay for some things just to have them done my way (which will of course hurt my mother anyways).
The first time we discussed the budget she insisted on saving on the photographer, having the cake done at a very average place and have a live band that no one’s ever heard of- all to spend more money on decoration. Me, on the other hand, I rather have a good DJ (to save some money), anything as decoration, but really spend money on the cake and the photographer. In the end, what you have left are the memories and the pictures, am I right?
We have had our fights, luckily some family members have sided with me and she’s sort of understanding that we need to find a middle ground. I guess that when our mother’s got married they also had a dream wedding in mind that did not take place because of their mothers’ plans. So now, they want to have the wedding of THEIR dreams for their daughers. I have a friend who actually told me that in an argument with her mother, her mother actually said “but this is my wedding”!
I guess I made my point!