Post # 1
I only got 3 things that were actually on my registry at my shower yesterday. I hate that I’m upset over this because I feel awful for feeling this way, but I can’t help but be dissapointed.
Measuring spoons and tupperware? Got that.
4 cutting boards? Didn’t even ask for 1.
3 sets of nested mixing bowls = 18 mixing bowls: Isn’t this why people make registries in the first place?
A $180 set of 4 steak knives? Now I just feel GUILTY GUILTY GUILTY, those cost more than anything else we even asked for 🙁
It was a beautiful shower and I am SO incredibly thankful to be gaining such a wonderful family, I’m just a little bummed that almost no one considered that we’re both 27 years old, have been living on our own for several years, together for over a year and have most of this stuff already. What’s the point of having a registry if everyone is just going to assume they know better?Sorry for the bitchfest ladies, but I really needed to vent. Fiance just doesn’t get it.
Post # 3
I can understand your frustration, but keep in mind that there is still a bit of time before your wedding and the odds are that you’ll get at least a few more things on your registry. As for the duplicates, it may be that the place they bought them from didn’t update the system promptly. Perhaps try exchanging a couple of the extra bowl sets for something else on your registry after your wedding.
Post # 4
I am sorry you are upset. Did your presents come with gift receipts? Can you return them?
I also got very few items from my registry but my friends and family got me lot’s of activity type presents. Like Movie night out Gift Cards, Restaurant Gift Cards, Spa Day Gift Cards, Movie night in basket, etc. So I felt so loved that my friends and family knew me well enough to know that activities mean more to Darling Husband and I than cutlery etc.
Do you think maybe your friends and family were thinking that they were getting something really thoughtful? Do you really like to bake and that’s why you got so many mixing bowls?
Post # 5
Were there gift receipts? I just had my shower and did get a lot of things from our registries, but there were also plenty that were not. Almost everyone included receipts though, so we will probably end up exchanging some things. There’s no point in having 4 of something you already have when you can spend the money on another item you’d really like to have.
I suppose it depends on the guests’ preferences and what they like to do. I always get stuff off of registries or something I KNOW they would like/need.
Hopefully you can exchange some to get a few things you really want.
Post # 6
Hopefully they included gift receipts! If not, re-gift or donate. At least with the donation you’ll get a tax write off. I know you’re disappointed, but like you said they are nice people and they thought they knew best. Just take a breath and you will feel better in a few days. Focus on what’s important after you calm down and you will realize that this is just a very small annoyance on the road to your wedding.
By The Way, you are going to really love those knives and you wont believe the difference they make in prep time.
Post # 7
I went through the same thing, and no gift receipts. I gave my old bowls (still like-new) to my sister who is starting out and donated my old steamer/rice cooker. I still have an extra rice cooker in my spare room, I haven’t decided what to do with that one.
Post # 8
Some came with gift receipts, some didn’t. A lot of duplicate stuff didn’t. And then there’s the fact that I feel guilty about wanting to exhange them, but I think I’ll have to suck it up. Also, the shower was all FI’s family/family friends, mine are 900 miles away so no one other than Future Mother-In-Law really knows me that well. I should just be thankful that no one went the lingerie route!
I guess I would just advise against using myregistry.com, it seems like people really aren’t comfortable with it or it’s just not as user friendly as I thought…
Post # 9
Don’t feel guilty. It’s expected that some things will be exchanged. People never know exactly what you have or need. It’s even more to be expected if you don’t buy from the registry.
We got almost $200 worth of stuff to make ice cream! Fancy ice cream maker, fancy little ice cream bowls, a little cookbook with recipes, and a really nice scooper. I don’t even really like ice cream! lol. We only kept the scooper. Everything else we took back. In the thank you note I thanked them for their creative and summery gift that was so much fun and didn’t mention how much more grateful I was for the other stuff I was able to get from crate and barrel with the store credit! 😀
Post # 10
@hellomrsko: I registered for two different sets of mixing bowls from two different stores. I got them from some of our guests. At first, I thought that I would return one set, instead I still have both sets. I love having a range of sizes with the bowls. I felt like an idiot when I double registered for those, now, they’re great!
Post # 11
Aww, that stinks! I would try to return what you can. Sometimes, you can tell what store they came from, and you can return for store credit with or without a receipt. I agree with @brox:. I have a collection of mixing bowls that I use all the time, and love them. If you cook a lot, you can use them for all kinds of things.
You shouldn’t feel bad for feeling the way you do though
Post # 12
I understand the feeling, we got mostly things off of our registry and a few great non-registry items that were really thoughtful. However, his aunt bought us things off of QVC for both our shower and wedding and I felt horrible but they are not at all my style and duplicate some of the registry items we picked out and others already bought. I’ve thought about donating since i can’t return them but I haven’t brought myself to do it yet. Also, my co-workers were very generous and collected money to give us a gift card but it is to a store we didnt register at. Instead I would have liked to use that money to buy the other registry items we didn’t get . . . in the end you have to be thankful for people’s generosity and remember that they are well meaning but I think it is natural to feel the way you do!
Post # 13
@Lo: I am pretty sure you CAN return to QVC! I had trouble with an order from an older friend and I just called the number on the inside of the box. Since I knew the name of the giver, they were able to look it up and sent me what I needed. Others have told me they returned stuff she’s given them for credit to get other stuff.