Post # 1
My friend and I spent the afternoon yesterday addressing invitations while our kids played and hung out. I realized something at one point. There are LOTS of little things that just don’t matter to me this time around. 2nd envelopes, not doing them, fancy stamps, not really important, fancy decotations and little details I obcessed over the first time, I really don’t care. Don’t get me wrong, we have a monogram that my friend made for us that’s going on some of the wedding things, I did want purple shoes, and spent time finding the perfect pair, and there are details that I want to be perfect. However, there are just some things I have decided aren’t worth stressing over. For me, the most important thing to me is being able to marry my man and be together forever, and having our friends and family there to share that day with us!
Are there details you obcessed over the first time that you don’t really care about this time around?
Post # 3
I care this time around. But since I’m older..have a bit more sense of what MY style and what his style is, I’m not stressed a bit at all. It’s all somewhat clear as far as a vision of things.
The two styles are totally different, but this one will be much smaller, but yet more elegant in many ways. And I think I really like that!
I’m like you..shoes are it! I have to have on hot shoes…got em..check!
Post # 4
Though technically this is my second marriage, in a lot of ways it seems like my first. I wasn’t able (or more accurately, "allowed") to have many of the things I wanted in my first wedding – a nice venue and dinner, a reception filled with laughter and dancing, and yes, some signature cocktails! I DIYed a lot of things the first time around, too, only in the realm of making my own food and spending hours decorating the hall.
This time, I’m doing things a bit differently. Not only has my style matured along with me, but so has my knowledge that I don’t want to be one of those brides running around like a crazed woman and pulling all-nighters trying to get everything completed before the big day. I do plan to do many things myself….STDs, invites, programs, and such…but I plan to have them done as early as possible so that I can relax during those last few days before the big day. Having a longer engagement this time will definitely help with that!
So, in some ways, it’s the same, but in others, it’s vastly different. Not only am I marrying a wonderful, caring, and supportive man, but I’ll finally be able to have the family I’ve always dreamed of since I was a young girl. In my case, patience has really made the difference! After all, what does matter the most is the marriage itself and not all the details of the wedding day.
Post # 5
Interesting topic. As this wedding is a much smaller afair and lacks the intricacies of the first, I find myself with not enough to do. I’m almost concerned with my lack of concern. I’m quite happy leaving the details to the chapel where we’ll be holding the ceremony, including the flowers and whatever. And I agree, it’s not that I don’t care, it’s that while fun, it seems unnessesary.
It kind of makes it more funl FI is giving me carte blance on all of it, and I feel like this time I can afford to have a sense of humor about it all. (Raiders garter anyone?) My shoes are AWESOME, and I insisted on awesome invites b/c they tie it all together. Other than that, I’m pretty flexible. Right now my biggest challenge is finding musicians to make me copies of Black Sabbath’s "Iron Man" using different instruments (different story for a different day…)
Post # 6
Oh there are all sorts of little (and maybe not so little) things I am not doing. No ceremony or reception flowers cos we are getting married in a garden and the conference center is elegant enough already. No limos, no bouquet or garter tosses. No programs, no place cards, no registry. Only photography for the actual ceremony, I do not need pics of me getting ready, etc.
Heck, at this point I would be grateful if Iould get my BMs together to go order their dresses!
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat.
I’m putting all of my effort and energy (and $$$) into what I LOVE. I’m DIYing silk flowers because I don’t want to mess with real ones – they’ll be beautiful, but I know it’s not the same for some people. I’m letting the BM’s pick their own dresses – armed with guidelines and a swatch. No seating chart – I don’t think, BUT my cake topper will be fab, the venue is awesome, and my invites will be exactly what FH and I want.
Honestly – I’m so happy to be marrying this wonderful man – it could be in somebody’s driveway in the rain and I wouldn’t care.
Post # 8
Querida, it’s funny you mention that; I’m always telling FI I’ll marry him on the back porch in sweats!
Post # 9
I didn’t have the big wedding the first time around, so for me this is a big deal. There are many things I’m willing to not worry about and maybe that’s part of the growing up experience. I’m not doing the fancy stamps or 2nd envelopes, we’re also not wearing fancy shoes (flip flops). I’m not going to worry about rain, or mud, or everything not going absolutely perfect.
If we had decided to not do the whole wedding thing, it wouldn’t have mattered, all that matters is that this time I’m getting a great guy that loves me and my daughters and that’s all that matters in the end.
Post # 10
I haven’t started planning yet but this time it will definitely be different. I will absolutely do things my way in which they reflect my style. I’m not sure how it will be but I can say that I’m sooooo happy I know I won’t sweat the small stuff.