(Closed) The longer I wait, the more I mess it up…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Well, how did you both find out neither wanted to call the engagement off? Why wasn’t it back on once you 2 made up? You said you bring up getting married on occasion. Is he still open to it or does he shut down? He may have cold feet and scared of what you’ll say if he asks. Or scared you guys will get engaged again and break it off again. Men are far more sensitive that we give them credit for. My mom once told me that the most fragile thing in the universe in the Male Ego.

Post # 4
869 posts
Busy bee

I’m not sure what the solution is, and every relationship is different.  That being said, most guys I know would distance themselves even further if they found out their girlfriend was printing off pictures of wedding rings for him to find….

How do I nudge this along without messing it up more than I have?  Not sure how to nudge it along, but printing rings might mess it up further… Just my opinion.  Hope things work out! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Communication is important.  It sounds like he doesn’t know that you actually do want to marry him and that you realize you were wrong back in August.  He may be scared that if he does propose you will “call it off” like you did before.  I’d say just hash it all out and let him know that you’ve always wanted to be with him (even during your medical issue) or if you want, ask him again like you did before!

Post # 6
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I know this is really hard but not too long ago my SO and I had “the talk” about the whole marriage thing….it kinda turned into an argument..he said that he wanted to marry me but he did not like me bringing it up all the time or making hints at him. he said he wants to do it on his own and it would mean more if it was a suprise. like a complete surprise without me hinting er anything. maybe thats what he wants to do? i think if you keep pushing and hinting it will prolong it and he will get frustrated. I completly stopped talking about it after that and for V day I got what my SO calls a “pre engagement” ring. I wish the best of luck to you and I know how you feel with the false hinting from him and promises. ๐Ÿ™‚ It will happen!

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