Post # 1
So I thought I knew what I was doing but I guess I was wrong. This is how I set up my RSVP cards. I’m trying to elmiminate confusion as to who is or isn’t invited. Is it okay if I write in the name of the guests invited on the line? How does this traditionally work?
Please respond on or before May 13, 2028
___ of __4___ guests will attend
Post # 3
Usually you leave the line blank so the people can fill in guests names. I think they will know how many to invite by the __ of 4 guests.
Post # 4
I had the guest write their name, but you could do it yourself. I kinda wish I would have because I’m having a hard time reading names!!
Post # 5
The M_________ is there so guests can write the names of the people attending the wedding. ie Mrs. Jane Smith So it does make sense for you to write their names on the invite. What is only 1 person of 2 can attend etc?
Instead of the M__________ you can write “Names”
Post # 6
That’s true @jaylii9. And actually my invites are already done and there’s just a blank line.
___ of _____ guests will attend.
Post # 7
My RSVPs have the M______. Most guests have used it to start Mr or Mrs, etc., but my adorable sister used it as the first letter of her name (Megan). 😛
Post # 8
I guess my ordeal is a little different. My invites are non-traditional. They’re seal and send and there is no inner/outer envelope. I want to make sure people know who is and aren’t invited. Do I add everyones names to the outside of the invite? I was planning on writing their names on the line myself but I guess I woudn’t know exactly who was coming and wasn’t.
Post # 9
As Jaylii9 pointed out, you won’t know which of the invitees can make it if you fill out the line.
If you want to really specify who is coming, you could try something like:
Please respond on or before May 13, 2028
[invitee #1] ___ happily accepts ___ regretfully declines
[invitee #2] ___ happily accepts ___ regretfully declines
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
Our were also nontraditional and we filled in the names ourselves before mailing them. It made things a lot easier in the end.
Post # 11
ok no joke. every rsvp i have had with people whos name starts with an M has used the M to begin their first name. oy.
Post # 12
I prefer to leave it blank for two reasons.
1) It takes too long to hand-write in the names.
2) Like you said yourself you may not know who is coming. For example, I inivted my friend and her family (3 kids) to our wedding. She called and asked if it was okay to leave the husband at home with the kids and she bring her sister as her date. I of course didn’t mind. So when she turned in her RSVP card she wrote in her name and her sisters.
Post # 13
@ FutureMrs.Taylor – It sounds like you’re actually concerned about making sure people you don’t want to invite don’t end up inviting themselves because of the wait the RSVP card is set up. For example, Cousin Jane wants to bring her boyfriend even though you’re just inviting her, not her plus guest. Is that the case?
Post # 14
I’m so glad you posted this…..I’ve been wondering the same thing. I’m not having inner envelopes either so I was wondering how to specify exactly who is invited because I keep hearing that person A is bring their date even though person A’s date is not invited, etc. I am wondering if I should do it on the addressed part of the envelope or on the RSVP itself. I also heard that some people forget to fill out the M____________ part and then you play the guessing game determining who the RSVP is from.
Post # 15
@Irwood – if you find out let me know! I also don’t want random people being invited or people to replace someone else with someone I invited.
Post # 16
Don’t forget to number them on the back if you leave the M___ blank. That’s what I did and I got one guest who remaines a mystery to this day. Not put their name on it and just check off, Will not attend. WTF?
This maybe more work but what about something like this…
Please circle how many will attend.
1 2 3 4
Might make it a little more straight forward. Although, there will be some that might put 5 or 6. You know… those people…. lol