Post # 1
So I’m pretty new to this wedding stuff. I am not engaged, but have been with my bf for over 9 years. Recently we’ve been more seriously talking about getting married. I have this idea in mind for his wedding band, but am clueless on what or where to look. I wanted his ring to be thick, platinum, with a diamond; or diamonds. I had this idea for the ring to have a layered look so to speak. 3 layers, top layer brushed, middle layer polished, and thired layer brushed; hopefully that makes sense. How much can I expect to spend, where should I start looking, and how on earth do I know the size without having him physically there? Pics of ideas are super welcome. Like I said, I just envisioned this. Thanks all in advance!
Post # 3
Blue nile gives good industry standards for pricing… obvioulsy some places are less or more. You pay a lot more for name brands – Tiffany, Cartier etc…
I just bought my soon to be hubby one but we tried on different fits and styles in the store first. “Comfort fit” is something to look for as men typically don’t wear rings and this will help.
As for ring size… that’s a tough one… you also need to consider ring thickness (mm) – again this is down to personal preference.
Hope that helps!
Post # 4
@anonabon: If you have a very specific idea of what you want, I’d go straight to a jeweler/etsy and have someone make a custom band for you. Before that, you should probably have your boyfriend go into a jewelery shop and use a ring sizer to figure out what size he is–better to order in the right size (or close) than have to resize in a big way.
Post # 5
I’ve been reading up on titanuim, and have seen a few articles that state to stear clear of this metal. They say it’s hard to work with, you can’t size or re-size this metal, and that it’s cheap? What are your thoughts on the different types of metals?
Post # 7
@jdhall89: Thank you as well!
Post # 8
@anonabon: Do you know what style of ring he likes? I discovered when we went ring shopping 2 weeks ago that if left to my own devices, the ring I would have picked out he wouldn’t have liked at all.
Most women have input on their e-ring & wedding band. Make sure you get his as well.
Post # 9
@anonabon: Do you know what he likes? It actually surprised me how specific my husband was with what he wanted. I think your best bet is going to be taking him into a store and having him try things on. If I had picked out a ring that I thought he liked, I would have been so wrong!
Post # 10
We went shopping together and my FI picked this band out, he loved it and thinks that the black diamonds are a little more masculine.
Post # 11
My fiance ended up going with a plain platinum band that features a brushed center. He loves it!
We purchased all of our rings from deBebians and have been super happy! They also have men’s diamond rings: http://www.debebians.com/mens-wedding-bands-with-diamonds.html
My fiance also purchased a titanium ring for him to wear when he’s doing anything rough with his hands.
Post # 12
@lulu_honey: Looks like my hubby’s ring!
I recommend your bf go into a store and get his official size. It’s hard to resize a man’s ring depending on the jeweler. Can’t he just come with you? Or is it a surprise..like are you going to propose to him?! This is getting more popular so I can’t rule it out 😉
Post # 13
My hubby wanted a yellow golf ring, but his does have the brushed centre and a diamond.
I don’t remember how much it was honestly. We just got it at our family jeweler. It’s a pretty common style.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for the advice and photos! We’ve discussed the style he likes, and I think I’m on the right path. He currently wears a thicker ring on his right hand that is silver and turquoise, so I know for sure he’d comfortable with a thicker band. Also, he’s a programmer so he doesn’t do a lot of intense labor lol.
I was leaning toward the black diamonds as well. I think I know his style pretty well also because I pick out clothes for him all the time, and I’m way more trendy than he is 😉
Proposing to him…out of the question. He’s very traditional in that sense. I suppose that I wanted it to be more of a surprise because we’ve waited so long, and I don’t know, I thought it would be more special that way! My thought was to pick a few styles that I liked, online, then show them to him to see what his opinion was. He told me that he for sure wants platinum but that’s about all I got out of him, because he turned around and asked me what I think would look best. This is why I’m at sort of a loss. I want it to be masculine, not overwhelming or too plain. I’ve got some thinking to do.
Has anyone had issues with sizing platinum? Sorry to repeat this portion, but I’ve been reading up on titanuim, and have seen a few articles that state to stear clear of this metal. They say it’s hard to work with, you can’t size or re-size this metal, and that it’s cheap? What are your thoughts on the different types of metals?
Post # 15
Titanium was orginally an industrial metal. However it has become really popular for wedding rings–especially men’s rings. It does have its downsides. You can’t have custom designs made with it, or have it resized. It is very durable though–much more so than gold. The price of titanium is much cheaper though than other precious metals. It can also be engraved.
I would recommend having your fiance look at rings. My fiance picked out his ring–it’s totally not one I would have picked out for him. (It is also titanium).
Post # 16
@anonabon: Ok haha I didn’t know 😉
It’s super hard to size a man’s ring so it’s best you know exactly which size he is. Honestly though it can vary depending on the ring, meaning what shape. A flat band can fit totally different than a round band. For instance my DH was a size bigger for a flat band. I’ll post a pic!