Post # 1
I thought I would make it easy and affordable on everyone and just go with the mismatched looks and have them all wear similar tones and it has been the biggest headache. Nobody seems to really get it. Then you get some of them pushing the boundaries with the tones and make you feel like a total bridezilla when you tell them it’s not like the billions of pictures you sent them. ARGGHHH. /end rant.
Post # 3
I sometimes think the “pick your own dress” option makes it harder on the bridal party! Good luck in getting them all on the same page!
Post # 4
This is so what I wanna do but my maids dont wanna make ANY decisions. They just keep saying whatever you want Hope. But I think in order for this idea to truly work you should try to find twice as many dresses as you have maids and then let them pick from there.
Post # 5
We all went together to pick out their dresses. Before the appointment I set boundaries, like each dress has to be a specific color, specific fabric, and specific length. Then the girls could each pick their own style dress: spaghetti straps, sleeveless, asymmetrical, ruched, pleated, pockets, sweetheart, v-neck, peplum … each bridesmaid had a completely different style dress that coordinated with everyone else. So they felt comfortable, I wasn’t stressed because they stuck to my guidelines, and they looked fabulous.
ETA: I pretty much had to have each girl wear a different style because they vary in height from 4’10” to 6’3″ and all sizes/shapes in between.
Post # 6
SO agreed. The girls ended up spending more money then If I’d pick the dress and now my poor last girl is having the hardest time beacuse the other two got long dresses so she has to have along one when thats not what she wanted.
its not what I wanted either. its just all been a compltete and total disaster!
Post # 7
@MapleMoose: how many girls did you have?
I only had 2 so at first it didn’t matter. then I got a third and now its a disaster!
Post # 8
Feel you, and I only had 1 girl to deal with! I ended up buying her shoes and mailing them to her because as many times as I said “just buy shoes and find some gold or pearl jewelry” all she did was say “whatever you want, just let me know” and buy an ugly silver headband.
Post # 9
@alishaloo: I had 5 bridesmaids. I just added this to my comment above but my girls range from 4’10” to 6’3″ and all sizes/shapes in between. So choosing one style that looked great on everyone would have been more of a headache than I was willing to deal with!
So hang in there.. it can be done lol
Post # 10
These were my guidelines:
Length: Not a long dress
Sleeves: can be whatever they want
Color: Beige tones, taupe, light pink, light peach
Fabric: Whatever they want!
Any shade of brown pants and vest. (no khaki)
I really though these guidelines were pretty loose… but gave them the perameters they need. I have no idea what is so hard for the guys but they are seriously having trouble finding brown pants and a brown vest and they keep trying to get khaki.
And some of the girls I think waited too long because they thought these were “Fall colors”, when in fact they were summer colors because now it’s a bit difficult to find something. I have posted SO MANY dresses for them and I’m still getting questions on the colors.
If I had to do it all over again, I would have picked 20 dresses and forced them to choose from those dresses.
Post # 11
At first I gave my BM choices… and they didn’t like them and kept complaining. So I went in, and chose 1 dress. They still don’t like it, but they aren’t complaining now. and they all will wear that dress.