(Closed) The mismatched bridesmaids/groomsmen was obviously a bad idea…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I sometimes think the “pick your own dress” option makes it harder on the bridal party!  Good luck in getting them all on the same page!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This is so what I wanna do but my maids dont wanna make ANY decisions.  They just keep saying whatever you want Hope.  But I think in order for this idea to truly work you should try to find twice as many dresses as you have maids and then let them pick from there.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

We all went together to pick out their dresses.  Before the appointment I set boundaries, like each dress has to be a specific color, specific fabric, and specific length.  Then the girls could each pick their own style dress: spaghetti straps, sleeveless, asymmetrical, ruched, pleated, pockets, sweetheart, v-neck, peplum … each bridesmaid had a completely different style dress that coordinated with everyone else.  So they felt comfortable, I wasn’t stressed because they stuck to my guidelines, and they looked fabulous.

 

ETA:  I pretty much had to have each girl wear a different style because they vary in height from 4’10” to 6’3″ and all sizes/shapes in between.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

SO agreed. The girls ended up spending more money then If I’d pick the dress and now my poor last girl is having the hardest time beacuse the other two got long dresses so she has to have along one when thats not what she wanted.

its not what I wanted either. its just all been a compltete and total disaster!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MapleMoose:  how many  girls did you have?

I only had 2 so at first it didn’t matter. then I got a third and now its a disaster!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Feel you, and I only had 1 girl to deal with!  I ended up buying her shoes and mailing them to her because as many times as I said “just buy shoes and find some gold or pearl jewelry” all she did was say “whatever you want, just let me know” and buy an ugly silver headband. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@alishaloo:  I had 5 bridesmaids.  I just added this to my comment above but my girls range from 4’10” to 6’3″ and all sizes/shapes in between.  So choosing one style that looked great on everyone would have been more of a headache than I was willing to deal with!

So hang in there.. it can be done lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

At first I gave my BM choices… and they didn’t like them and kept complaining. So I went in, and chose 1 dress. They still don’t like it, but they aren’t complaining now. and they all will wear that dress. 

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