Post # 1
My FI’s best friend of 11 years passed away three months ago from a car wreck. That was a really bad time for him and for us. He was supposed to be our best man when we got married, we had already asked him even though we werent engaged. He is gone now, but i still feel guilty trying to put another in his place, like im betraying him. My FI feels the same way, but he said for all intents and purposes his brother can be the best man. What are some ways that we can make a tribute at the wedding to our missing best man?
Post # 4
How sad…I’m so sorry for your loss!
Can you honor him in some way maybe in the program and saying a little something at the service before a reading? Calling him your “honorary” best man who has the best seat in the house or something?
Post # 5
I have not dealt with this, but I would suggest not making a huge deal out of it since this is your wedding, not a funeral. I apologize if that sounds hearltess, but please know I do not mean it that way. It sickens me to think that your FI has to go through the most important day of his life without his best friend. My heart goes out to both of you.
I am tying my grandma’s wedding ring to my bouquet as a rememberance. I’ve heard of people leaving an empty chair with a rose or something on it. That may be a thought? If all of the groomsmen knew him maybe you can get those pocket scaves ( I don’t know what they are called) with his name on them?
Sorry if those aren’t quite what you are looking for, but they are the only thing I can think of. I like PP’s idea too. He does indeed have the best seat in the house 🙂
Post # 6
PPs’ ideas are all great. Perhaps the groom or another friend could say something during the toasts/speeches about how good a friend he was to you and how supportive he was to your FI, so that it’s a respectful tribute instead of something too funereal? What about a moment of silence during the toasts?
Post # 7
@MEGZ06: I think your idea may be best, with the ring tied to your bouquet, except maybe a picture of him tied to the loop under FI’s boutonniere. I really dont want to talk about him out loud because it will make my FI cry. The program idea is good too, maybe mention him in the acknowledgements. If not for him, my FI wouldnt be the wonderful man he is today.