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Why is that crazy? The mother/son dance is much less common than the father/daughter dance. If he doesn't want to do it, I don't see any need to convince him.
I don't think that's crazy at all, but that's possibly bc I'm in Oz and we don't really do those here. I don't think it's a good idea to go to his mum behind his back though - it's his wedding too, so if he doesn't want to do it, skip it. Perhaps he and his mum could join you & your dad on the dancefloor towards the end of your song instead.
I don't care for weddings where they have a whole bunch of scheduled dances, and my then-FI doesn't care much for being the center of attention. So what worked for us was the two of us had our first dance, my dad and I did the Daddy/Daughter Dance (and had the whole place in tears! Including ourselves! LOL!), and then we opened it up to everyone. My hubby then danced with his mom for a couple songs during the night, but not as an exclusive Mother/Son dance. It worked for us, maybe it will work for you, too. That way, they can dance together, but he doesn't have to be in the spotlight, if that's his reasoning behind not wanting one.
There's nothing wrong with having no mother/son dance! I think it's up to him to discuss this with his mom though. And you could always do the combined 'parent dance' if he just doesn't want to be alone on the dance floor. At one of the weddings I attended this summer the other parents cut in and then the mother of the groom/father of the bride danced together! Do what you both like.
Yeah, there is definitely no need for it. If he doesn't want it, then it's no big deal for you to go ahead and have your father/daughter dance.
I think the father/daughter dance would be the one that people would miss of the two. I've actually been to a few weddings where the groom didn't dance with his mom. NBD for me. You can dance with your dad, he doesn't have to follow suit.
Are you guys having a first dance together? Does he not want to dance with his mom because of their relationship? Or because he does not want to be the center of attention? Or just because? I agree with the other ladies that it would not be awkward to only do a father/daughter dance. However, if his mom does want to dance, but your FI doesn't want the spotlight you can do a dual father/daughter mother/son dance to take some of the pressure off.
my husband doesn't want a mother/son dance either - but in his case, his mom will more than likely be in a wheelchair at our wedding - and she already uses a walker...she can't get around well and he doesn't want to make her uncomfortable - PLUS she's extremely self-concious and doesn't like being the center of attention. I'm TOTALLY doing the daddy/daughter dance though. :)
do a parents dance. so that you dance with your dad the same time he dances with his mom. That's what we did, it was less awkward to have four people out on the floor at once.
Skipping the parent dances is not crazy at all. Most people in real life don't even have them and no one says anything about them being skipped. If that father/daughter dance is important to you, sit down with your FH and ask if it's ok for there to be that dance. Otherwise dance with your father but not have it as a spotlight dance so that it doesn't feel awkward. Also, if he doesn't want to dance with his mother, it's ok to skip it but don't force him to participate "becasue everyone else does" as that will simply cause resentment between you. Only you and your FH can decide what works and what doesn't.
If he doesn't want to do it - don't make him. It is his day also. I actually have never seen a son/mother dance. It won't be awkward at all!
Mine doesn't want to do it either, so we're not. I don't think anyone is going to notice.
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Hi Hive!
Tell me if this sounds crazy, but my Mister doesn't want to do a Mother/Son dance. I REALLY want to have a Father/Daughter dance. Would it be totally crazy to skip the Mother/Son dance but still have a Father/Daughter dance?
I haven't talked to his mom yet but if she wants to have the dance, I'm going to try and help him/her find a short song that they can dance to.
I appreciate all your help in advance!