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I asked my close friend recently if there was a certain moment she knew her FI was 'the one' and she didn't have an answer. So now I want to hear your stories, when did you know your SO was perfect for you? Did you at all?
Ill start...
We spend a lot of time apart becuase of the military so we keep seperate notebooks and write down all the times we are thinking about each other. We were going over our books together when were were finally in person and noticed that not only had we both made lists of everything we wanted to accomplish in life, they were strangely errily similar and we hadn't talked about them at all. Thats when I knew I would probably never find a better match.
forgot to add... i looked for this topics and it is on the boards but the only one I could find was 3 years ago. thought there might be new bees who want to share thier story now :)
We both admitted that when we were on our first date we had a strong feeling that this was it. I wouldn't say "love at first sight' but definately had 'the feeling' that everyone talks about.
It was after our 3rd date. We fell asleep staying up talking late (no hanky panky or anything like that) and I woke up with his arms around me. I usually hated being touched when I slept, but with him it was totally different. I knew then he was different and it actually scared the crap out of me.
I can't pinpoint a moment that I knew, but I just got a very strong feeling after a few months. Like, I had never felt happier or more at peace and I just knew this was it. Not a very helpful or interesting story, I suppose, but I had certainly never had "that feeling" before (and I was with my ex for more than 5 years)!
like your friend I didn't know in a moment. I liked him a whole lot, but liked lots of guys a whole lot. I crushed and dreamed hard doodled my name with his last name think gr. 9. It wasn't until about 6 months in it was "serious".
The night after our first date the next morning I called my best friend and told her "This is the guy I'm going to marry." And I did!
There wasn't really a moment, but there was this instant click and from the beginning we were joined at the hip. But after we'd been dating for about 4 months, we were at a friend's wedding and dancing, and he said "You know, I think I'm going to marry you some day." I just smiled and said "I think I'd like that." I moved in a month later and we were engaged 4 months after that.
@KatyElle, That is adorable! My guy just recently admitted to doing a similar thing with me calling his family! I thought it was a little over the top (he has a tendancy to over react emotionally some times) but I guess love at first sight does exist :)
I can't really remember "the moment" but I always think about the first time I saw him. We were in college studying musical theater and I was watching him sing in a class. I just knew there was something special about him. At the time I didn't know it was because he was going to be my husband someday!
oh we BOTH know the exact moment. We had been friends and starting to get really close with knowing eachother, texting, emailing, phone calls, constantly. The first time we went out together alone, not at a party with a bunch of others, we went out with just us two and my best friend and her man. It was supposed to be as friend but the MOMENT we got to the location (a comedy club) and we were sitting next to eachother, all we could we talk and laugh. We kept getting sshh'ed because our friends couldn't hear the comedian. We then went to a local bar to meet some friends and I couldn't take my eyes off him. He held my hand under our table and this sounds so corny but I felt a shock wave through my body. The moment that happened, I was like OH LORD!! lol Because trust me I wasn't trying to get into a relationship. But it would've happened anyway. After he dropped me off we were recapping our night and he told me he knew I was the one and he wanted to marry me. That was 3 years ago :-) That's my heart and we still aren't engaged but I can taste it in the air :) hahaha any moment now!!!! <3
I just remember how our first date turned into a weekend together. We had such a great time on a Friday, so much so he asked me to brunch the next day and spent the whole weekend together. If any other man tried that I would think stalker or desperation, but with him we instantly clicked and I needed to get to know him more.
@globalmargaret: It was very out of character for me, so she was like "Uh, hi could you put Katy on the phone please?"
I was always very cynical about men.
It wasn't a specific moment. I just sort of knew after a few months.
We had been friends for several years before he asked me out. We even went to Prom together. But just as friends. We started dating in college. I'd say after about 5-6 months of dating I just kind of knew that no matter what happened, we were going to work through it and be together for the rest of our lives. I don't believe in fate or destiny and neither does he. Love takes work, and I realized that he was worth the effort. I suppose after that realization that I knew I would marry him.
He will actually tell you that he knew I was the one for him a lot sooner.
There wasnt a moment really for me. We clicked and got along really well at the beginning, but it was a rough start due to external circumstances. He actually sort of backed off, but I pursued. I would say I didn't really think about him being 'the one' until about a little over a year into the relationship.
I know he was the one realllly early into getting to know one another. It was only our third or fourth date, but he was over an hour late without a phone call, and I thought he was standing me up. Then, I get a phone call from his cell phone and it's a man's voice I don't recognize (turned out to be his stepdad) telling me that he couldn't take me out on my date, because he was in the hospital with what they thought was a heart attack. Since he was 23 and healthy, I thought it was a cruel joke.
Two minutes later, I got a phone call from a woman stating she was a nurse at a local hospital and there was a very, presistent young man in her ICU unit that was waiting to talk with me. I was floored. He got on the phone and told me how sorry he was and how he felt bad he couldn't take me out tonight. Considering how serious the situation was, I couldn't believe he even took the time to call. I later called my best friend and told her the story, and all she said was "oh damn, you're totally going to marry this guy" lol
I saw my husband walking down the hall at our work; I'd never talked to him or seen him before, but I knew he was my husband. After work, I called two friends and told them I saw my husband, but I didn't know his name. The next day, I asked my old roommate, who worked there, who he was. We both figured out how I could introduce myself. I did and now we're married.
@leebaby711: My husband had a heart attack June 2011 at 36 even though he's healthy looking, exercises, and doesn't eat poorly. Heart attacks have a whole new meaning to me now.
@TheFutureMcBride: I'm so sorry to hear that! Me too. The doctors never gave him a solid reason for why it happened, so it was scary that it can be so random.
oh wow, I guess I never knew heart attacks could affect people so young and healthy. I am sorry to hear both of you had to go through that.
@theFutureMcBride, your story is very cute, I am glad your friends didn't think you were crazy and were able to help you figure out who he was.
My 1st moment was when he said he doesn't like to watch football but loves to watch the super bowl, wait for it, ONLY for the commercials. We blew through our 1st TIVOed super bowl in 20 minutes and saw nothing but commercials. It was amazing. Then I figured it was silly to assume he was the one just because he was the 1st guy I've been with who wasn't obsessed with football. But since then he's continued to prove he still was the one. :)
I think I have written this somewhere before, about the first time you told your other half you loved them. I was working away for a few weeks and SO came to visit. We went a quiz night and I looked at him, heard him laugh and just knew.
Perhaps I knew before them. But this is the moment I remember vividly.
FI and i met on eHarmony, so we had messaged back and forth for about 3 or 4 weeks and then the first time he called me, i got off the phone and told my mom, "i just got off the phone with my soulmate."
it was crazy how much we had in common. we literally finished each other's sentances and understood each other so well in our first real conversation. i felt it. :)
I remember the moment I first realised I loved him, and the time I first told someone I wanted to marry him, but not the moment I decided he was the one. I think that was a gradual thing that I felt after we'd been together a while.
The moment I felt like he was the one was the moment I first met him. The very moment he walked into my home and we talked, i just couldnt be any more happier. The way he looked at me and the way we were around each other just makes me wnt to cry right now when I think back at it. I miss him very much, And with this whole LDR thing going on -- It makes me more certain every day that hes the one.
I lik this thread btw, im sure it brings a smile to every ladies face (:
Everyone's stories are so cute. I love them!
It wasn't a love a first site type of thing or something I knew right away but I still remember the exact moment and every detail about it when I knew I was going to marry him. After we got together I had a death in the family very early on and then got sick. He was there for me the whole time and I didn't know if I was in love or just lucky because he stayed by my side. Well after all of the craziness I decided to study abroad. I hadn't seen DH in 3 months when he came to visit and when I saw him I was rushed with emotion and knew right then and there that any guy who would literally go to the end of the earth for me I couldn't not marry him. He is my biggest supporter and best friend and even through the rough time I thank god he came into my life.
I had been friends with DH for a few years so I already knew him really well, but on our first official date we both knew this was it. Neither of us wanted to call it a night...so we didn't. We stayed up all night talking to each other, and the next day as well, and the date pretty much only ended that night because we both had to work the next morning.
I had been dating the mister for a couple months and while I was at work a couple weeks before a friend's wedding, I was thinking about her wedding which led to me thinking about my own future wedding. Whenever I thought of my own wedding, it was always just the ceremony with me in a white gown and a faceless groom. So I had this generic wedding thought and suddenly saw his face on the groom's usually blurry head. And then was flooded with a warm feeling. I was shocked since this was the first time I ever saw myself getting married to someone.
And that was the moment I knew.
@tea: Awe Tea, that is super sweet, I am glad to know I am not the only one who imagined thier wedding with the faceless groom YEARS before anything was going to happen.
About a month after we started dating, I started to panic to my girlfriends. Why? Well, although he kissed me and held my hand, he never tried ANYTHING else. No groping, no trying to get me into bed...even though I felt chemistry. I was terrified, thinking he wasn't attracted to me. It's sad really, but I was so used to men wanting to get physical within a few dates that I was utterly confused.
One night, I drank a little too much and pretty much attacked him. I basically tore off my clothes (not my finest moment) when all of a sudden, he puts his hand on my cheek and goes, "Hey...hey...you don't have to do this."
Of course, I felt super rejected. But then...we talked and he admitted to me that he had been with a lot of women and felt that he'd disrepected them by never getting to know them. He told me he wanted to know me and treat me with respect before the physical stuff. Yeah, I was in: hook, line and sinker.
There was another moment, maybe 2 years in. We were being goofy and ended up on his floor laughing hysterically, with tears rolling down our faces. I don't even remember what was so funny, but the fact that we could be so silly together was special for me :)
I knew he was "the one" about 4 months in to our relationship. We were at a concert, but I was with my friend and he was with his. We were sitting seperately, but at any break, we would meet up and talk. He even missed one of his favorite bands play because we were wrapped up in conversation.
At one point during the concert, I looked down on him from my seat and thought "I want to be there with him. Hell, I want to be there with him every day from now on." I hadn't even told him (or came to the realization) that I loved him... but I knew that this was a forever-and-a-day situation.
There was a moment, a clear moment, when we were friends and decided to be more. We were reminicing about what it was like when we dated at age 12...and I was like wow, I forgot about all that. he did SO much for me even way back then! I called him a couple days later and told him my feelings had kinda changed and he admitted that in that same conversation he had started to see me differently too. Since then I have had a million more moments that it's him. It's always after I question "Am I doing the right thing?" that he shows me he's IT.
we weren't even dating yet, we had been friends for about a month our freshman year in college. We walked to a frat house to go to a party, but when we got there we realized there wasn't a party going on that night. So for some reason we decided to sit on the back porch of the house (we had no idea who lived there or anything haha) and drink by ourselves. We drank and had one of the funnest nights we have ever had. I realized how we could enjoy the simple things in life, and that if we could have so much fun just sitting on a porch somewhere together that I was ready to spend forever having this kind of fun with him. We had our first kiss when we got home and he held my hair while I puked all night :) lol.
I thought very early on that he *could* be the one. But the moment that sticks out as me knowing is almost a year later when he stayed the night and stayed at my house for a while after I left for work. When I got home he had left a note on my fridge, drew a picture of my cat on it, and signed it "Love, X"
I just remember thinking it was so sweet and cute and that I wanted to marry him.
Oddly (or not?) enough we broke up for about 6 months not long after that. I didn't feel like he was progressing at a reasonable speed and that he needed to know what he was missing.
This is such a sweet thread!
I don't know of an exact day, but when we first started dating, we would spend every night together (we lived in the same apartment complex, so we were neighbors!). One night after I got off work, I was tired and I didn't call him (which I usually did every night that I worked, and he did the same when he worked late). I got home and changed, sat on the couch, and turned on the TV, all without thinking of calling him. (Ok, I definitely thought about it. I think I just wanted to see if he would notice) Then he called and asked, "Are you coming over tonight?". And from that time, we've been inseparable.
The first night we talked on the phone after meeting at (gasp!) a bar!
The conversation was so effortless, fun, and 2 hours felt like 2 minutes... and I couldn't wait to talk with him again.
As a dating divorcee I had made a list of what I absolutely had to have in a mate (must haves and wants). About 4 weeks into dating I looked down on the end of my couch and suddenly realized he was the guy from my list!
When I dated with him the first time and I knew he was the person I was waiting for. Then everyday we spoke to each other on phone and I missed him so much even we stayed together. Everything in my life I wanted to share with him. I just had the feeling the guy was MY RIGHT!
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