Post # 1
The “Mommy” syndrome has slowly crept into my life and now I am getting sick of it. Example: this morning, my FI has left all of his dirty clothes (socks, underwear, shirt and pants) on the bathroom floor, left the wet towel on the bed, had the last of the milk and left the container out on the counter, left the empty bowl of cereal in the sink, (with cereal still in the bowl) So who cleans this up… shouldn’t it be the one who made the mess in the first place? Come on guys! When did we switch from SO to become your mommy? SHEESH! And, come on girls, why do we let THEM do this to us? LOL Sigh
Post # 3
No, I’m absolutely not his “mommy.” His real mommy is wonderful and did a great job of raising him; he doesn’t need another one. The mommy thing is so not sexy! I wouldn’t be able to handle it. We’re both adults and we both take care of our home, etc., equally well. I’m lucky! I would hate it so much if I had to do that.
Post # 4
@Sunfire: pretty much this! DH is probably more of a neat freak than me. I don’t think I’ve ever had to pick up his clothes before! And that’s fine with me 🙂
Post # 5
Yeah, no. I’m not his “mommy” and I won’t act like I am. We are both equally responsible for cleaning the house.
Post # 6
Yes, it should be the one who made the mess. Tell HIM to clean it instead of doing it for him.
Post # 7
@happyface: i can relate for sure. When SO comes to visit, he makes A MESS everywhere he goes. He has been getting better about it (after many a freak-out on my end lol) but still…don’t behave like a perfect gentleman out in public and then let it all hang out around me. Ugh!!! Lol can you imagine if us women did the same??
Post # 8
Ohhh boy do I relate to this. My SO and I have had a few discussions about this. He was doing reallyw ell about taking his clothes to the laundry basket out of the bathroom and then stopped….I reiterated. He almost started doing it again. So now, when he leaves his underwear in there I hang them in the window. He promptly puts them in the basket lol.
Post # 9
It’s not what I signed up for but yes. I hate it. I’m not at all a nurturing person so I don’t ‘feel warm inside knowing I’m looking after him’. His mum did everything for him when he lived at home. He didn’t even know how to put a doona cover on until I asked for his help a couple of months ago.
Being a housewife is number one in the list of ‘jobs I do not want to have’, and yet that is what my job essentially is.
Post # 10
Nope, not at all. It is part of why I am happy I went back to work post-baby because being me a housewife wouldn’t be good for our dynamic as a couple.
Post # 11
@Sunfire: I’m with you. DH is often more considerate with this stuff than I am. He certainly is the one who takes care of me most of the time!
Post # 12
I work from home doing data entry and can make my own hours, so I essential am a housewife. I like being the one to scour the house, cook large meals, and make sure all of the daily chores are done. I am a bit anal about the level of cleanliness in the bathroom and kitchen, and only feel like it’s done right when I do it (OCD much?), so being the one “in charge” of the housework doesn’t bother me in the least.
This does NOT mean he treats me like his mommy. My FI is a grown man who can put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket, hang his wet towel on the back of the door, and clean up kitchen messes he makes. If he makes a mess, he’s expected to clean it up!
ETA- I admit that our room is almost always messy, but I’m usually the one who leaves dirty clothes on the floor for a couple days at a time, not him!
Post # 13
I’m currently not working, so I do all of the cooking and cleaning for us. However, I will get mad if he leaves dirty clothes on the floor or leaves empty glasses around the house. There’s a difference between being a housewife and a maid.
Post # 14
I can relate. It’s not sexy. It grosses me out. I do not want to be his mother. He’s gotten better, but it’s still something I’m working on with him.
Post # 15
That’s kind of creepy lol. Thank goodness FI cleans up after himself. He even cleans his own bathroom!
Post # 16
Luckily my FI is actually neater and cleaner than I am. But if he did that, I would take a page from my mother’s book and do what she used to do with my brother: collect all the mess (wet towel and cereal bowl included) and leave it on his side of the bed for when he comes home!