My future in laws have caused soooooooo much stress!!! To the point where I am currently off work with depression because of them.
I’ll start at the beginning:
we got engaged on xmas day, middle of jan we went round there to tell them our plans.
1. Me and FI are only having 50 people at our day ceremony, due to us paying for the day all ourselves. So we called the line at cousins, it was fair that way for both me and mr Loubie. His parents didn’t see it like this, they actually counted how many brothea/sisters/aunts etc I had compared to them ( I only hav a small family too). And they couldn’t understand why we were inviting the FIs oldest friends GF, because the MIL hates her……!!!
It was actually mentioned that we shouldn’t have friends at all at OUR OWN wedding…
2. mr Loubie is having his best friend as BM, not his brother. His dad got angry about this cause its ‘not what he did’. Even though BIL has no idea where we live, how we got together and I have only met him 3 times! And FIL started screaming at FIN(FI is 30…not 3!)
3. FI and I don’t have kids and neither of us like kids at weddings ( our opinions), and our venue is a 15th century Cambridge university hall, so not suitable for kids at all. we told this to the IL’s and they went ballistic. They have one child in the family (FI nephew), whereas there are 4 nieces/nephew from my side. But no one from my family minded.
They used emotional blackmail, threats, and the FIL physically punched the FI and threw him threw a door….(nice or what from your own dad!!!)
9 months on, and its still going on! BIL is refusing to come at all because his son isn’t invited.
FIL is being a **** and won’t give the FI a straight answer as to whether he’s coming or not!
I feel so much for my FI, it must be awful being put in this position but the MIL told me that ththinking its their day!!!
it’s now got to the point where I’m dreading the wedding!!