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So far mine has been the guest list...keeping it under 150 but over 100 and keeping budget with that. I would say that flowers are a second biggest stressor for my wedding because I know absolutley nothing about them or what they cost, and I really don't want to spend hundreds of dollars on them at a florist. or anywhere.
i swore i wouldn't let this stress me out, but i can't say that this is an easy task. 6 months is going to fly by!
what has been the most difficult for you?
A lot of FI's design tasks have been really stressful, b/c things end up taking way longer than we originally think. Our wedding website took AGES for him to put together... but it came out beautiful. Same with the invitations. I'm freaking out b/c we have SO much to do on them still, and they need to be in the mail in a couple of weeks...
Planning my wedding from Texas, when it's in California! I'm so thankful for my sisters and my Mom... without them I'm sure I would've ripped all my hair out by now! It's been a stressful thing not being able to see things in person and having to go just off of pictures.
The FI REALLY does not want a videographer and my mom booked one anyway, so I just change the topic a lot.
The most stressful thing about our wedding planning has been the budget. The amount of money we've spent, I've lost track of... I mean my parents are paying for the catering, but we are paying for the rest. It's all about money for me. We work a little more each month just to pay for something.. It's driving me nuts.
If I had the money I would hire a wedding planner.... so she could deal with everything for me...
But, I guess over all the stress it's been a fun ride....
One of mine has been the guest list also. Now, I am worried about finding a good caterer.
Money. Definitely money. I recently lost my job, and my parents have stepped in to help out with a lot (and seem happy to do so), but even a "cheap" wedding seems VERY pricey when you're still job searching.
Definitely money. I have remained calm and even enjoyed all of the planning, the booking, the phone calls, the snafus so far... it's just when I look at the budget (even though we are staying within our relatively modest budget), it boggles my mind that we're spending so much.
I was going to say venue, though my trouble finding one is a function of a giant family/guest list and budget. Finding something in the city close to our church and affordable has been near impossible.
So far, plans for the night before have been most stressful, surprisingly enough. My parents are paying for most of our wedding (a total shocker -- we didn't ask for or expect this) while FI's family has done nothing to contribute. My mom said we should hold off making plans for Friday in case FI's family wants to host something, but meanwhile time is ticking away. My overbearing aunt made a few attempts to plan and host an event "for us" on Friday. We definitely don't want this and it's been very difficult to back her down.
We'd like to have a very small gathering Friday night, but my family considers it rude not to invite all out-of-towners (50+ adults plus kids). We don't want everyone at our small house and we can't afford to take a group this large out to dinner, so we are renting a local social hall and doing much of the cooking for that evening ourselves. We're already doing a lot of our own wedding cooking and baking, so it's more stressful than fun to add this to the list.
It feels exhausting: like we have to host a mini wedding the night before our wedding. I'm hoping that when all's said and done, we'll manage to relax and enjoy the evening. It will be fun to see everyone before the wedding (and 2 days later we'll be lying on the beach in St. Martin :-)
I think for me it was planning the logistics of the budget. I never set a ceiling, I just kept track of what I was spending. And then his family basically needed us to pay for ALL of them to attend! It really broke the bank! (STRESS!!!)
Ugh! It's pretty crazy, but I guess we (mostly) put ourselves up to this. At least we can take comfort in the fact that we're not alone in this. I'm trying to keep it fun!
Short and Sweet...MOB dress....AGH. Can not find one for her.
@missbubbles, oh man! i wouldn't even consider going down that path for my mother. i just told her to pick whatever she wants because she is the most difficult to dress, however, she always picks well.
Deciding what coast to get married on. Family guilt trips vs the stress of spending all our vacation time between now and then on wedding planning. ARGH.
Budget is my biggest one. Everything exceeds the budgeted amount for it and anything BM related since all my girls have different personalities and make decision making extremely difficult.
Dealing with people is by far the most stressful part. In all my life, I have never experienced such rude, selfish, and downright hurtful behavior from my close family and friends. Its as if by getting engaged, we opened a flood gate for people to dump thier nasty opinions and demands. We invented a new term for it: family +godzilla = famzilla!
@JennHasFeet ~ I would love to stay away from it, but since my parents are paying for most of the wedding and I am the only daughter, I get guilt tripped into it. I really dont mind, except it is taking her longer to pick out a dress then it took me, the bride!! All of the dresses I have seen on her either look hootchie or great grandmotherish. We get to go again this weekend!! FUN FUN
@missbubbles, i guess if she wants you to and they are paying for it, you've gotta! my mother would just never let anyone pick something for her, lol.
Totally, totally the guest list. I hate it! It's stressful and emotional and I hate having to leave people off of it!
All of the early decisions were hard for me: Location, invitations, guest list, decor... those decisions are getting easier now.
The most stressful thing (so far) has been choosing a venue. We are on a really tight budget so we are having a hard time finding a place that fits all of our criteria, isn't more than an hour drive from our parents' places, and in our budget. Plus, since I'm in school out of state, it's been really hard finding the time to call these places and visit. I passed that job off to FI and he said he would call and visit them and give me the top 3 choices. But he is also the king of procrastination. I told him I wanted to choose a place by June, but we will see if that actually happens...
Definately family drama on my side, people are just so damn negative in life I cant stand it!
My wedding is next saturday and these last little details have been the most stressful up until today when my FH's grandfather who he is close to died. The funeral is this saturday. So we are going to put everyting aside until after the funeral - its going to be crazy next week. I just hope FH is doing ok.
I think the most stressful thing so far was some friend drama that occurred after sending out invitations that resulted in said friend ending our relationship.
What's been the most stressful since that point is waiting for our RSVP cards to come because I'm sort of at a stuck point where I can't do anything else until we have our final guest count.
Planning it without my FI. He's deployed to Iraq and actually really wanted to be involved:( Plus, I'm finishing my last year next year and planning out of state. Thank God for the planner...
Vendors who try to talk you out of what you want just because they don't know how to accomplish it but somehow they keep the same (high) fees.
Originally budget. We were paying for the whole wedding ourselves and after meeting with the venue we realised we couldnt afford it. My parents then kindly offered that they would pay for the reception. What an absolutel relief.
We went through 6 months of tight budget every dollar counted for and put away in thinking we were paying for everything and come to the realisation that we couldnt that was pure hell.
Now the pressure has been taken off alot, but I still think that was the most stressful, when I think of problems i encounter now it seems trivial to the stress we went through before.
Flippin' bloomin' guest lists. The invention of a singularly nasty devil.
Don't fret about flowers: not unless you want fussy complicated stuff.
Our (nearly) florist wanted 800 euro (ca. $1000) for church altar & pew stuff, bouquets, bouts etc. So, I've been watching tutorials and it looks SO easy. And my FMIL is more than willing to help. I'm goin to flower market next week, to price stuff and get ideas.
Plan is to order what I actually want about 2-3 weeks before wedding, collect day before, then spend an easy 2 hours doing all except altar flowers. Getting church helper ladies to do those, will prob give them 50 each or so.
If you're not doing the whole baking carry on the day before, then you can totally do bouquets, bouts, pews & flower girl baskets yourself.
If that's just way too much stress, just hire it out. It's def not worth fretting over!
Guest lists and family stuff (e.g. a mom who shoots down everything I suggest, even if she once suggested it herself, just because that's how she rolls when it comes to me, so I've just been sort of not talking to her about the wedding). And the interaction of guest list and family drama. Not a good combination.
@shelbs, my heart goes out to you and your family. that has to be extremely stressful and sad.
Setting the date and finding the venue! We got engaged in December and wanted to marry the following August. Plus, we wanted to marry in the Catholic church and all of the churches only had "wedding info night" once a month! Luckily, everything fell into place.
Finding my dress! I had a really hard time finding the right wedding dress. It took me 7 months, probably 150-200 dresses and buying the wrong dress to find it. Also, the guest list was at the beginning. My mother and I had several blow-out fights about it. I wanted less than 80 and she wanted 120+. I won.
My biggest challenge has been finding things that are me. I have so many ideas and I'm having trouble making it all mesh/editing myself.
Family/place our family live in two different places and either side wants to travel
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