(Closed) The Movie- Jumping the Broom vs. Real life *might be a touchy subject*

posted 7 years ago in African-American
  • poll: Do you think the portrayal of Single Mothers in Jumping the Broom is true?
    Yes-Totally True!! : (6 votes)
    22 %
    No- Not true at all : (6 votes)
    22 %
    Yes- But over-exaggerated : (15 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    1489 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Ms.Blutiful: I do Agree with you. My Fiance is my Future Mother-In-Law only child and was the only man in her life for a long time. When we first started dating, it was some adjustment because she was use to having him around alot and being that man but as time went on, things got better. She is now dating a man for almost 2 years and that was a change for the good as well. 

    Post # 4
    1750 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Ms.Blutiful: I agree somewhat. My brother treats my mother and I better than his wife. My SIL has always been insecurity about it. However, my mother  raised him to take care of his little sister and it did not change much after he married.

    Post # 5
    17 posts
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I thought it was one of those movies that combined all of the stereotypes and ezaggerated it a bit. I agree that when there’s a single mother, your man thinks and acts so much differently , as he should. But just as the movie showed your man has to be willing to put her in her place if necessary

    Post # 6
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I’m not AA, but had to comment. Darling Husband and I watched this movie last weekend and actually talked about the same subject. His mother and I don’t really get along, which makes life tough, and at one point in time she even mentioned that he was “abandoning” her for me. My Darling Husband started taking care of his mom as soon as he could work and was even supporting her being a stay at home mom for his much younger siblings when he started working. It can be crazy. Darling Husband has attempted to make her understand the relationship and how things have to and are changed since our marriage, but it’s a daily struggle with my Mother-In-Law.

    Post # 8
    1543 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Ms.Blutiful: Just wanted to jump in completely off topic and say “Hi, fellow A-U-G, Bee!” Smile I think there’s only four of us on here, lol. 

    Post # 10
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m not AA either but Darling Husband and I watched this movie and I loved it. (Not sure why it got so many bad reviews btw).

    On to your topic: Single mothers, widowed mothers (or fathers  if you want to get down to it) should have one goal in mind: To see their child happy and with a good person.

    ****Spoiler alert*** I think that’s why it all worked out in the end. To show that marrying someone dosen’t automatically dismiss the parent. If the parent respects boundaries and is happy for the couple, the couple will just enrich their life and are not out to “destroy it” as was comically portrayed in the movie.

    Post # 11
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t think it is just a single mother thing. I know mothers who behave this way with their sons that grew up in 2 parent households. I think it totally depends on the parent and their individual personality.

    Loved the movie by the way, and by no means was it an exageration. It was extreme but it is definitely a reality for some men.

    Post # 12
    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yeah I am trying not to over react to OP because I get what she is asking and I know it was triggered by the movie.

    But that is a hellish stereotype that single mothers have to overcome and as a single Mom of two successful good teen-agers I get tired of the stereotypes.

    My son mentioned when my ex moved out that he was man of the house – I explained NOPE there was an adult of the house and it was me.

    I have worked full time, supported my kids extremely well both financially and by being an active part of their lives.  I have baked cookies, done school projects and never complained that life is not fair.

    Kids are the greatest gift and I recognized that and treasured it.

    Bad parenting does not know any group. It does not matter your ethnicity, marital or relationship status, socio economic class etc

    on the other hand neither does good parenting.

    Oh and biology does not count either.  I know fabulous parents in the forms of aunts, uncles, grandparents, stepparents etc.

    So are there men that are raised that way – yes

    Is it AA – nope

    is it single moms – nope

    it is just poor parenting period

    Post # 14
    127 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I somewhat agree. I have had this experience before, but not all mothers do this to their sons. nor are all sons going to accept that their mother is this way.

    It is the new womans part to communicate to that mother she is there to enhance the life of her son and it is the sons part to let the mother know he loves her very much and she will never be replaced but its also time for him to create his own family.

    I was a single mother and I made it my point for my son to know that no other woman will love him more than his mother BUT that does not mean that the woman in his life is due any less a love than he gives me.

    Everyone has a part in this sort of situation…its all in the way everyone chooses to handle themselves.

    Post # 15
    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Does anyone else think this bride got what was coming to her? The bride overextends herself by picking out dresses for the mother and not including her in the planning. She really does step on toes assuming her new Mother-In-Law will go along with all of this. But it’s not entirely her fault. I pretty much place the whole fiasco at the feet of the groom. He presented his bride in such a poor manner to his family. He made excuses so his mother and bride never met before the wedding weekend and they never bonded and the whole experience was strained.  

    It reminds me of that Cosby episode where Vanessa brought home Dabness Brickey for the first time, either after they already wed or were shacking up together or something. Bill said Vanessa’s presentation of him to the family was poor (using the analogy of presented on a trashcan lid) so the family did in fact look poorly on him. It was all in her disrespectful presentation. 

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