Post # 1
My Fi was supposed to move here this month, after 6.5 years of long distance (both of us going to college + him getting a master’s degree) but he was offered an amazing internship in San Antonio for the summer, which is roughly a 5 hour drive. Anyway, I was happy for him, because now he will have a little money when he moves up here, so it won’t be as stressful for him trying to make ends meet, plus it’s a great thing for his resume.
So now he’s supposed to move up here on August 21st, if he doesn’t get a job elsewhere before that. Right now he’s still looking for a full time job, and it may or may not be in Dallas. He’s definitely looking at Dallas, but he’s also not ruling out other cities. We’ve always discussed that he would get a job and I would move to be with him because his job will make at least twice what I make, so I have to sacrifice. It’s all okay discussing it, but I’m really getting annoyed with the uncertainty. My lease ends at the end of October and I’m sure my apartment complex will be asking me around the end of August if I’ll be renewing.
I’m not really sure what I’m asking in this thread more of just a vent at how annoying ending the distance part of the LDR can be. I thought for sure that the distance would be over in June, but now the internship and after that I’m realizing that if he gets a job outside of Dallas, it might be months before I can find something in that place too. And what’s most annoying is the jobs he finds online seem to be in locations that are terrible for my job. Most of the jobs he sees are in smaller cities over an hour from the closest large city…which would lead to us living somewhere in the middle of suburbia (not ready to give up city living yet), and both of us would have long commutes.
I just hate not knowing when it’s all going to end so we can be a normal couple! And not knowing where we will end up is frustrating too. 🙁
Anyone have some good stories about ending the distance and how things miraculously came together in the end?
Post # 3
I know how you feel…in a way. I’ve only been doing this 2 years and you’ve been going at it for 6.5 years. Props to you for being so strong. My DH was supposed to be moving home in September (I’m in Colorado and he’s in Louisiana) but he found out the other day it will be sometime in October. It’s only a month, but when you’ve been waiting for this day for literally years, sometimes one extra month can feel like a year!
I guess one comfort is he’ll only be 5 hours away (I know, it’s no comparison to having him there with you). My family lives 5 hours away and I can easily make that drive home and spend the weekend with him.
Just try to stay focused that the countdown is on. Our countdowns until our hubbies are with us are pretty close together, so it should be under or around 100 days 🙂
Post # 4
Thanks @JsDragonfly: I think it will be soon, but I’m not sure since if he gets a job it could put him in a different city. I’m trying to focus on other things so I don’t think about it, but ofcourse I’m counting down too! 🙂 I just don’t want to get let down if he gets hired in some other city and then it may be a few more months since I’ll be the one having to move. I want to know if I need to be looking for a job in a few months or not. Frustrating.
Post # 5
We had to wait until our careers let us be in the same place – 6 years. FI is finally moving in and we’re getting married. We both agreed that if one of us had to sacrifice career possibilities we’d spend the rest of our lives being annoyed (the person who sacrificed) and guilty (the person who forced the sacrifice). Hang in there. Do the best for yourself and your career so you can be a strong, happy, independent person, which is hopefully the person he wants you to be.
Post # 6
I know it’s so tough to be in a LDR. Also, we had to move with shortish notice last summer. It’s hard with the economy being so slow right now and you have to jump at whatever jobs you are offered. Do you have a better chance of finding a job anywhere than he does? That is what played into us moving over the summer because I could fiind a job easier than he could.
Post # 7
I’m okay with sacrificing a bit, I don’t want to wait that much longer to be with him and if he will make more money then I should be the one to sacrifice. I hope I can find a job I like where he will be, but my job currently is very limited to large cities…NYC, LA, Chicago would be nice and would be better than where I am now, but I could do well in Dallas, Atlanta, Minneapolis, Denver too. Just that jobs he finds seem to be in Cincinatti or Connecticut or places like that (nothing against those places, just wouldn’t be able to find a job easily there).
I want to be with him more than I want to do my job though. I guess I can find a new career path if it ends up being a place that isn’t as good for my job. I just wish we had more definite plans, but it’s truly impossible to plan anything right now. I could say we’ll probably be together in 1 year, but with the economy still sucking right now who knows. 😛