Post # 1
Hey Bees. I have been getting a lot of questions about this week’s Waiting List (where is it??), and I wanted to answer that the best I can. I also think it’s worth starting a chat together about what the new site means for the Waiting List, short term and long term.
This Week’s List: The 3/3/14 Waiting List was posted on Monday. The spam filter flagged it, as posts heavy with markup sometimes are. A moderator corrected this on Tuesday, but shortly after that the new site rolled out and it reverted to spam again. There is a post in Support to rescue the list, but I recognize that it’s not a priority amid the new site snafus, so that’s out of my hands. In the meantime, I have uploaded the current list to Google Drive, and it’s available here.
This Month’s Clean-Up: Clean-up is still in full swing, and the post can be found here. It will still continue through the end of March. I commented with a list of those who had not responded as of Monday, and I will try to update with a comment each week to remind anyone who has not responded yet.
Looking Ahead: The site update is going to make being listkeeper a much bigger chore than it has been until now. What it really comes down to is that Weddingbee is a blog first and foremost, and the updates are oriented to that purpose. Coding is being adapted to accommodate the discussion boards, but ultimately I do not see the new site as being conducive to the level of traffic and activity that these boards see. As someone who never visits the blogs, but checks the boards daily, this new Weddingbee simply isn’t for me.
Where do we go from here? I think there are a few things to consider.
- Who will be the new listkeeper? I will continue to do my best with the list and clean-up over the next few weeks, but I will be stepping down in April. If you are interested in being considered in the selection of the next listkeeper, please get in touch with me! I don’t want to understate the time commitment that I foresee increasing on account of the new site, so consider me an open book when it comes to the issues I anticipate with maintaining the list on the new site, and evaluate for yourself whether it’s the job for you. Being listkeeper has been fabulous, and I had every intention of sticking around until I could write my own proposal blurb. It’s not a thankless or miserable task, but it does demand time, and you have to love the forum that you’re putting that time into.
- How does the list change, if at all? Perhaps the new Weddingbee calls for a new Waiting List. The next listkeeper could be creative about how to proceed from here. Maybe the weekly duties are shared among two or three people. Maybe we do away with the spotlight. Maybe new posts are made monthly instead of weekly, and the list is updated weekly with comments on each month’s post. I don’t know, and ultimately it’s up to whoever wants to take it on. I am happy to weigh in as the current listkeeper, and I think it would be great to brainstorm a bit to provide some options and input from the group.
- What can we do to set the next listkeeper up for success? Over the next few weeks, the new Weddingbee bugs will be worked out and improvements will be made to form and function. By advocating some of the improvements that make the Waiting board and Waiting List work better, I’m hopeful that the new listkeeper will find a smother transition and fewer frustrations. One in particular that I think needs to be re-implemented is the ability to close posts. This makes it so that the listkeeper can close old lists as the new ones are posted, and it serves as a benchmarking tool for rounding up the proposal announcements for the week. I submitted this as an idea and hopefully it will gain enough support to be reinstated. If you have other ideas that you want the waiting Bees to rally in favor of, this is a good place to share them.
- Keeping in touch off of Weddingbee? I know several of us are drifting away from Weddingbee, and a suggestion came up that we create a Facebook group and keep a mini waiting list for ourselves. Obviously, it would be a little different because a closed list like that would only shrink and not grow, and Facebook is not anonymous, but maybe that’s an option for those who want to keep in touch with their Bee buddies. Just some food for thought.
That’s all I’ve got! I’ll post in here as any more relevant news comes up. Fingers crossed that next week’s list goes up without a hitch. I’m interested in hearing from you all — thoughts, ideas, whatever. It has been a crazy week and I feel so out of touch without the list to check!
Post # 2
shaka: This all makes me so incredibly sad. When I was a waiting bee, I loved climbing up the list week by week. As an engaged bee, I loved returning to the list posts to read all of the happy engagement announcements. The Bee was special to me because of the waiting community and it is really disheartening for that to be diminished.
Post # 3
I’m hopeful that the new site will be smoothed out soon and that creating the list will not be as difficult as it is at the moment. If possible, I think that keeping it in its current form (one keeper and a weekly list) is the best option but I am interested to hear other’s suggestions.
Thank you for all that you have done for the list during your time as keeper, it is very much appreciated.
Post # 4
shaka: Sorry to hear the sad news. I was not on the list, but ever since I saw your first list with a featured bee, I looked forward to opening the list. Thank you for bringing something refreshing to the boards. I know it must have taken so much time.
Post # 5
LoveBugBee: I’m pretty bummed too. I held off on writing this for a couple days to let the emotional reaction subside, but I was positively giddy to find I would be the listkeeper and now I am not excited about being here at all. Womp womp.
It’s funny you’re the first to comment, because seeing the engaged (and even the married) Bees pop back in every once in a while is such an unexpected treat! Easily one of my favorite parts of being on the list. There is a community here for the pre-engaged that lasts as long as you want it to, and that’s a special thing.My feelings aside, Weddingbee isn’t going anywhere, and for the people who “fit” in the new direction of the site, it will continue to be a great hangout.Everdeen: I’m glad to see someone hoping it can continue more-or-less as-is. I am optimistic too that the next few weeks will be good to the boards.
beemyname: Thank you. Having posted finally is a relief, because I know it’s the right thing, even though I was reluctant to say so.
It’s bittersweet, but I am looking forward to putting that time and energy towards my relationship, towards my other pastimes, towards my new business, and towards my new home.
Post # 6
I hope we can keep the list every week! Its what I look forward to every Monday as a waiting bee. Seeing yourself move up on the list and seeing that we are not alone in waiting! I’d hate to see it get pushed back to once a month and not know our current place so to speak. 🙁 the new site is very frustrating, but I hope it can be fixed soon! The waiting community is amazing and I’d hate to lose the support here!
Post # 7
shaka: this new site is awful. I don’t think there’s a single person that likes it. I have loved Mondays, getting home from work, and seeing where I’m at, and who of my ‘list buddies’ have gotten engaged. This new format is a nightmare. I will miss you, Shaka!
Post # 8
shaka: Thank you for all your work on the list it is always a high point in my week and it would be such a shame to see the it dissapear because of the site upgrade. I spent quite a bit of time trying to find this weeks list as I was sure I’d seen it and commented but couldn’t find it anywhere.
I would like to see it continue in it’s current form (weekly) and hope that someone with more time and technological know how than me volunteers to take over.
Post # 9
shaka – Thank you for all of your hard work! Whatever happens with the waiting list I’m sure the waiting boards will still be friendly, helpful and a nice place to visit.
Post # 10
We’ll be sorry to see you go, Shaka. Thanks for all the hard work you’ve put in.
Unfortunately, I’m still genuinely confused, haha! Is it just the new format you don’t like? Aside from the obnoxious spam filter, of course. What else would prevent the Waiting List from being produced every week? (or did I totally misread that?)
Post # 11
shaka: I’m sorry to hear you’ll be leaving as listkeeper, but it is not a surprise with this new site! You are a great list keeper and we so appreciate all of the time and energy you put in to make the list so fantastic! Even if you don’t remain listkeeper will you stick around? I’d hate to see you leave all together!
Post # 12
winstonchurchill: I think it’s the fact that the boards seem to be infinitely harder to navigate and posts seem to be harder to find.
shaka: You know what I think might actually work in terms of posts being hard to find? If people who are on the waiting list are responsible for posting a link or an update on the most recent waiting list after they get engaged. I feel like this might be a bit more effort/something to remember for the waiting bees, but it would allow the list to continue as-is without more effort piled onto the listkeeper.
Post # 13
It’s weird that I don’t seem to be able to edit my post 10 min after posting, but I just wanted to add that I don’t think it’s unfair that someone should post on the thread or PM the listkeeper to get on the list and also to get off of it.
Post # 14
shaka: As the PPs have mentioned, I have really appreciated all your hard work and dedication to the Waiting List. I will miss you as well.
Right now, I do not have any suggestions to make it work better, as I am still learning to navigate the new WeddingBee. As you mentioned, I do not read the blogs as much as I am on the boards, so I hope there is a way to resolve the problems. I am sure we just have to get used to it, and iron out the kinks.
Post # 15
shaka: thank you for everything you’ve done! And I’ll be sad to see you go. Hopefully there is an ultra techy bees here waiting toto step up and keep the waiting board alive. It’s one of the few things keeping me sane! 🙂