Post # 1
I was engaged Christmas morning and wondering when it is okay to start talking dates!? We have not talked about a date or when we are going to start planning. When poeple ask us he says he is not thinking about that right now. Am I jumping the gun? Of course I am enjoying the engagement and am not is a rush but thought a little planning or figuring out a date can be started?
Post # 3
Congrats on getting engaged. I think that the first thing you need to talk about is the date. You need that in order to start planning. It isn’t too soon to start!
Post # 4
I think the first things to discuss are what type of wedding and reception you envision and what sort of budget you have, and from there start researching sites. Once you find a site you can set your date. Don’t book any vendors before you have your ceremony and reception contracts signed!
Post # 5
Thanks! Thats what I thought! I figured when you ask someone to marry you it means your going to get married lol. For some reason i get the hint from my fiance he doesnt want to talk about it yet. I dont get it.
Post # 6
Eh, do things as they feel good to you. If you feel like basking in the engagement glow and not worrying about planning, so be it! It’ll be like sleeping in – eventually you feel like getting out of bed and starting your weekend. For us, we were pretty sure about our location the second we got engaged, because we were already there! So once we figured that out, we asked them what they had available and they gave us a date and we gave them a deposit. After that, we really didn’t do anything for at least a month, and that was picking out an engagement ring. We were lazy and loving life! No need to rush. There are guides that may tell you there is a timeline, but really, there isn’t.
Post # 7
First think about what month you want to get married based on the weather, prices and everyone’s schedules then think about how long you want the engagement to be. So let’s say you choose June (no reason ;)), well 2010 would be way too chaotic to plan all that right now, but June of 2011 will give you 1.5 years. But if I can give you advice, decide early and at least book your venue now b/c they get booked a year in advance sometimes and you don’t want to lose out on your date just b/c someone else was more organized than you.
We got engaged last NYE, decided right away it had to be June 2010 and were down in Philly a week later looking at venues. So we signed a contract maybe 3 weeks after getting engaged. It was very exciting!
Post # 8
People were jumping on my case about why I didn’t have anything planned like the week after I got engaged! My mom promptly set up appointments to check out venues the week after I got engaged. So, no, I don’t think you’re jumping the gun 🙂 Happy planning! and congrats!
Post # 9
Congrats!!! We picked a date, went to look at venues, and bought a wedding planning book all the next day. It’s never too soon!!
Post # 10
The sooner you can decide on a date the better. Talk about what kind of wedding (spring, summer, fall, winter, etc) you want. Once you get a date, you can start deciding what type (casual, formal, outside, inside, etc) you want so you can narrow down a venue. But I don’t think its ever too soon to pick a date! 🙂
Post # 11
I agree that the sooner the better when picking a wedding date. Venues, photographers, makeup artists all tend to book up pretty quickly especially when you hit the 6 month – 1 year mark. We picked out a date after a week of being engaged for 8 months later. But we also wanted to get married pretty quickly because we’ve datd for almost 7 years. So it really depends on how quickly you’re wanting to get hitched!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
It really depends on your situation! Before you got engaged did you guys talk about marriage or timelines at all? You should have the conversation with your FI to at least see what he is thinking as far as the timeline goes.
Post # 13
When you get engaged, it means you are getting married. What is the point of being engaged without planning an actual wedding? I’d talk to him about it.
Post # 14
@Melissabegins thanks! I am enjoying the moment! I guess I am ready to talk about a budget or possible venue and time frame where he doesnt.
Post # 15
@Rosiegirl- I wish I could decide on the date! It is wierd because before we were engaged he couldnt wait to be married and i told him I really wanted to be married next fall which is now this fall. We would really have to start planning now and all of the sudden he isn even thinking about it! He also mentioned to my parents he wants to by a house first which can take a long time. I really didnt want a 2 year engagement! A year would have been enough.
Post # 16
I agree that it really depends on when, date wise, you plan to get married.
I had to start planning right away because I was engaged in November and my FI and I decided we wanted to get married this July! If I hadn’t started planning right away, things might not get done in time. Especially since we are also planning for our college graduation in May as well.