Post # 1
Let me first say that my fiance and I have been living together for the past 2 years and we are NOT traditional at all! We are having a destination wedding next year on the beach. I am trying to figure out whether we suppose to stay in the same suite the night before our wedding or not. In the morning of the wedding, regardless, i was getting ready on my own and only seeing him for the first time as i walk down the isle.
I don’t know why, but i started getting paranoid about the idea of what “we should do” (some stupid arbitrary superstitious reasons) vs. what i really want, which is to stay with him the night before because i will find it most comforting and it would calm my nerves down A LOT!! My ideal night/day was to stay with my fiance night before wake up in the morning, have a breakfast together and possibly a couple’s massage and then i was off to getting ready and he was going to hang out with his male friends/family.
Somehow i heard someone say that they are staying separately and that is what people do and its a tradition, blah blah and that somehow freaked me out. Perhaps my nerves are getting the best of me with all this planning and stuff! 🙂 I would love to hear some feedback please !!!
This topic was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by diana11206.
Post # 2
diana11206: My husband and I threw that tradition out the window. We stayed in the same hotel suite the night before but I did kick him out at 7am the next day and I didn’t see him until I was walking down the aisle. Do what makes you feel comfortable!
Post # 3
We stayed in the same suite but had separate bedrooms. We ended up falling asleep together anyway and then around 2am, I crawled into my own bed, lol. Then when we got up the next morning, we went for a walk together and had breakfast together. We had all these bigshot plans for staying separate before the wedding, but we completely gave up on it. We stayed separate while we got ready so it was still a nice suprise when we saw each other at the wedding.
Post # 4
It’s up to you guys. I am spending the night before with BMs. He will be at home with his groomsmen and our son. I don’t want him to see me the night before until I am walking down the aisle. People stay together the night before and/or have first looks prior to the walk down the aisle. That’s not my thing, but to each their own.
Post # 5
diana11206: I know tradition says that you do not stay together the night before, but we scrapped that! We had a DW and stayed together the night before the wedding. It was pretty nice actually, calmed our nerves down alot and it was nice to be able to talk about how excited we were for the upcoming day before separating and getting ready.. Personally, I really enjoyed it!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2015 - Jellyfish, Punta Cana DR
Do whatever makes you happy! 🙂
We too are having a destination wedding. However, we will not be staying in the same suite the night before. Not because I don’t want too, but because my bridal party and I are having a BP part 2. LOL
Post # 7
diana11206: We’re going to stay together. I would rather look well rested than conform to tradition for no reason that seems good to me (but that may seem useful to others!).
Post # 8
I don’t know what we are going to do yet. I feel like the only incentive in sleeping apart is getting a big bed to myself for once! 😉
Post # 9
Thanks ladies for your feedback! I really wanted to stay with him the night before regardless and then i heard that tradition that made me freak out! I guess i was nervous for superstititous reasons thinking thats its a bad luck, etc. But at this point i am not even certain if that is even true or my mind is playing tricks on me! 🙂 LOL
Post # 10
You, like pretty much every bride out there, want to make sure that you have a fantastic wedding and marriage. So you start to get superstitious and paranoid about the details thinking that those will make your wedding/relationship/marriage better. And because you’re scared you, like everyone else, are falling back on “traditions”. However, I’d like to remind you: your relationship already works. You guys are not traditional at all and it totally works for you. And THATS what’ll make your wedding awesome and your marriage a strong one. Sooooo…do what works for you since that is clearly the “smart” move.
Post # 11
@Soon2ElopeBee- Thank you for your words!!! I really needed to hear this, and you are 100% right 🙂
Post # 13
We are staying in the same room, and our rehearsal/welcome party is the night before.
I do plan to have him move to the guys room early in the morning so the girls can get dressed.
Post # 14
My fiance will have been living together for 5 1/2 years when we tie the knot! He’ll be staying in our apartment and I’ll be staying in a hotel room where all of our guests are staying.
We aren’t super traditional but I still want to not seem him until I walk down the aisle on our wedding day! It makes me feel excited just thinking about it!
Post # 15
do what you want and what makes you comfortable
DH and I lived together before wedding. my wedding was on a saturday, so i went and stayed with my mom (30 minutes away) because best man was staying at our house and decided it was best to be away for a few days. let the boys be together since he lives on the opposite coast.
friday night, my mom and i stayed at the hotel. i saw DH at the rehearsal dinner and then did not see him again until our first look photo session.
this worked for us, do what works for you.