Post # 1
ok..soo.. i need to vent here a little..i just did it on my lunch break with my coworkers, so im kinda ok now…but i have a question…
LOOONG story short
so the day before the wedding i was supposed to spend the night at the hotel, where we are having the reception, with my 2 bfs aka bridesmaids, extra time to bond and to have fun like old times…but they both bailed me bc one of them is travelling from Fl and she is broke so she cant afford 2 nights at the hotel (since we were staying at the hotel the night of the wedding day too) so she will be staying with the other girl at her place.. well they messed up my plans, but i guess at this point it works better for everyone so we can save money on one night..so i was thinking to stay at home the day before the wedding with my family, but i have no clue where Fiance could go..i suggested him to spend the night at his mom’s but he is not really excited about that, then my mother just came out with the idea to have Fiance staying with me at the house the night before….really??? this idea came from my mother?? the italian and VERY traditionalist lady?? her answer was”well you guys have been leaving together for 2 years so it wont be a big problem” really mom???? when we come to visit you you wont let us sleep in the same room, but it is ok to sleep together the night before the wedding?!?! whatever… no words!!! anyways, my question is: “is it ok for me and Fiance to spend the night before the wedding together or not?” we will be making sure we wont see eachother the day after, once we will be getting at the hotel though…
Post # 3
My husband and I stayed together at our house the night before the wedding. We didn’t care about the not seeing each other before the ceremony thing since we have seen eachother for years! We had a first look before the ceremony to get most of our pictures.
Post # 4
I too am up in the air about this…although my mom hasn’t suggested that…I’m just not sure what we’re going to do! I’ll have to talk it over with Fiance. Good luck!
Post # 5
I think its fine! Fiance and I are staying at our place the night before and the next morning (after breakfast) he is leaving to his parents house to meet up with the groomsmen.
Post # 6
I don’t really think it’s a big deal if it doesn’t bother you. I plan on staying at my parents and him at his parents. I also vetoed the together pictures before the ceremony. But that’s what I wanted and him too. I have seen it done the other way before and honestly, do what you want 🙂
Especially if your mom doesn’t care than I think it’s ok!
Post # 7
i dont think it bothers me at all, but i wanted to do it in the traditional way..well i guess i need to talk over his with Fi and see hwat we end up doing..
Post # 8
We had planned to stay apart the night before, but couldn’t figure out where we’d go, and at that point, my husband didn’t want to spend the night apart. So we stayed together, and very early in the morning, he left and we didn’t see each other all day until the ceremony (even if we were getting ready in the same apartment, just not in the same room – we managed not to see or speak to each other).
Post # 9
If you don’t feel comfortable then maybe you could stay at your BM’s house.
Don’t worry too much. It’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I don’t think it’s a big deal. The boy and I are going to spend the night before the wedding in our home, in our bed, together.
Post # 11
I’m renting a suite the night before so my girls can stay with me and the next day we can get ready together. I’m paying for it so the ones who are coming out of town wont have to worry about a hotel fee that night. Well unless they have a bf then they might want to have their own room
Post # 12
My man and I are spending the night together and plan to go for coffee first thing in the morning before the chaos starts just to ensure we have a few minutes to just “be us” before the wedding. After coffee, we will go our separate ways to get ready and not see each other until our first look.
I understand the tradition of not seeing each other, but for us, having the comfort of each other the night before and a few quiet moments to connect that morning trump anyone else’s idea of what should happen.
Post # 13
KIKI~that was my original plan, but unfortunately i cant pay for the suite by myself we were going to split in 3 or 4 ways…i am already paying my parents room for the night after..
what upsets me the most is that they both knew over a year ago how it was going to be, and now 2 months before the wedding they are messing up everything!!!
the BM from FL is getting married in 2 weeks as well and it kinda annoyes me that she got her way with me but i cant get mine with her?!??! she moved her wedding 5 times IM NOT KIDDING!!!! before she was supposed to get married in feb 2011 then sept 2010 then finally march 21 2010..then in february she tells me that they cahnged the venue and they moved the wedding to march 27…OOOKKKKAAAAYYY!!! so i asked my boss for days off for her wedding first in march21, then march 27..not to mention we are really busy right now at work and he was really nice to me about this giving me the opportunity to go to her wedding for a long weekend, but he had to turn down other people vacation.. then beginning of march she tells me that she moved the wedding to april! WTF!!!!! so at this point i couldnt ask my boss to switch dates for a third time and jeopardize work and time off for MY wedding, so im just gonna leave after work, get down to florida at midnight and listen to this..she wants me to go out with her and bridal party as soon as i land!!!!?!!? doesnt she relaize that i will be up a long freacking whole day from 5 am to 12 am?!?!? and of course i said YES, cause im a friend, yeah they are “shitty” friends like my Fiance loves to talk about them..but i love them sooo, yeah..i just think is unfair that my wedding is not working out the way it is supposed to be and im not experiencing all the things the bride supposed to experience, and of course i can not re do it bc i am getting married once in my life,im hoping! everything is messed up, im not having a bridal shower or bacheloreet party bc my frinds are broke and it feels like they really dont care… sorry..i kinda went out of my way..but basically this is what is going on right now..i guess i still needed to vent it out!
Post # 14
The night before the wedding I was supposed to stay at my sister’s house. She was my Maid/Matron of Honor, my bestfriend and other sister would be there too. All was set. My husband was going to stay in the apartment we have. We the night of the rehersal ended up being very emotional just with everything coming together and I cried a little bit. The thought of spending the night away from my husband when I was feeling so emotional was horrendous so I changed it all up that day and stayed with him. It was absolutely perfect and I was up and out in the morning before he woke up so he didn’t see me, and we didnt’ see eachother again until the alter. I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
Post # 15
I was planning to stay over my mums but we’re having famly from Out of Town staying there and I just want a peaceful me-night so im staying in a small Inn right down the street from my mums house that way Fiance can come tuck me in then I can have my beauty sleep then head to my mums in the morning to get ready
Post # 16
I think if you don’t have a huge problem with it, then go sleep with your man. You could wake up and say “morning!! we’re getting marreid today!!!”
BUT if it does bother you, (I think you said in the first post) you could stay over at the friend’s house that the Bridesmaid or Best Man from FL is staying at that way you girls can still bond the night before it just won’t be at a hotel.
Good Luck!!! I hope everything works out in the end!! **HUGS**