Post # 1
I am currently dress shopping for my gown. (Wedding is Jan 3, 2015) and no many how many I try on and no matter how many look good, I just can’t see to find the one.
Did all of you who have bought your dresses just “know”, or did you go with a crowd favorite?
Post # 3
@rhiannonzdanowicz: I think it varies for each person – some women seem to fall in love with a dress. I never expected to fall for a dress, I took a very methodical approach to the whole dress shopping experience. But, then I saw a dress and fell head over heels mady in love with it.
You’re newly engaged, your wedding is a year away, give yourself time to try on more dresses! At this point there is no rush!
Post # 4
I didn’t have that “omg” and cry moment. I tried on an obscene amount of dresses, narrowed it down and bought the one I liked best. I didn’t bring a crowd. I didn’t even bring another person the day I ordered. Everyone has very different taste and I did not want other people skewing how I felt about it. If you’re not finding something you like, keep looking. Try on other styles you may not have considered before. Go in wearing proper underwear and shapers. Your dress is out there, don’t worry.
Post # 5
Definitely not stressing about it (just yet), but when I watch Say Yes to the Dress and even just being in the bridal shop, and I see all these women who get the teary eyed, squealing reaction. I’m not an overly emotional person, so I don’t expect to cry or squeal, but I always thought I would have a “this is it” reaction.
I’m going to continue on the dress search until I at least find the “this isn’t so bad and will do”….lol
Post # 6
@rhiannonzdanowicz: I am an emotional person but I didn’t cry when I found it. For me, it was more of a feeling of never wanting to take off my dress. You might cry, you might not but when your wearing your dress, you’ll know!
Post # 7
I didn’t cry in my dress (and I tried it on 3 times in the end). What told me that it was the one was
a) it was a game changer in terms of the way I viewed wedding dresses. I did not understand spending so much money on a dress to wear once, until I tried on that dress. Suddenly I was prepared to do anything to have that dress.
B) I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I compared every other dress I tried on to that one.
C) It was the only one that made me think “squee I’m getting married!” and I felt fabulous in it.
Everyone has a different shopping experience and not everyone will react the same way! Hang in there. Think about what elements of dresses you have liked eg necklines, sleeves, skirt shapes and go from there. Good luck!
Post # 8
I tried on about 12-15 dresses. I knew the third one was the one for me because I kept thinking about and envisioning myself in that one. There was just something about that dress. The others that were contenders – they were nice and I liked them but just not as much. When I went back to try on my dress again, so that I could show some people who were not there the first time – I looked in ther mirror and knew for sure that it was the one. I didn’t cry but I blurted out to everyone “omg, I love it.”
Post # 9
@Audrey2: Your first one really got me, you’re right. I tried on my dress on a whim, it looked nice on the girl who was having an appointment at the same time as me, so I tried it on before looking at the price. It was $500 over my budget but I didn’t care. It was gorgeous, and I would sell a kidney to get that dress(thankfully, I am just cutting back on my spending for two months instead!)
Post # 10
@rhiannonzdanowicz: I didn’t squeal or get teary-eyed, but I had tried on probably 60+ dresses and knew I found the one because I had an instant reaction to it. I felt like me in it, but me as a bride. I guess that’s a weird explanation, but a lot of the dresses I tried I on didn’t have that certain je ne sais quoi I demanded and I was always saying “it’s nice, but maybe if we did this, or did that…can this be changed?” And then in other dresses I felt like I was playing dress up — the dress was gorgeous but not exactly me. So yeah, I knew it was the one because I instantly said yes with no hesitation, unlike all the dresses before it.
Post # 11
I was lucky–I “just knew”!
But a LOT of women never get that feeling.
Post # 12
@rhiannonzdanowicz: Nah I didn’t get emotional either. I was so ready to be done shopping, I hated the whole process. I picked the dress I did because it was the most comfortable one out of those I was considering, it was the right price, and it made me happiest. I was like “ok done, thank god”.
Post # 13
@rhiannonzdanowicz: I wouldn’t put too much pressure on yourself chasing an elusive feeling that may or may not come. You don’t want to take the fun out of it. Wedding gowns are made to be beautiful so as long as you choose one that flatters your body type and you feel pretty in it, then I’d say you’re good to go.
Post # 14
@rhiannonzdanowicz: Have you tried going on your own? Not sure if you have had people with you each time you went dress shopping but I found that looking for myself really helped. Also doesn’t leave any room for anyone else to pick apart the dress while your standing there…the sales lady will more likely draw you to the lovely features!
Post # 15
@rhiannonzdanowicz: I didn’t get emotional when I found my dress, but I’m not really an ovely emotional person either.
Mine was the crowd favourite and my bridesmaids were always really honest with me about their opinions, which was really helpful. I still remember my MOH pointing out that my dress combined things that I had liked from other dresses.
I went back a week later to try it on again and put down the deposit. I loved my dress and what really sold me was that it was the only dress where I loved the train (had lace edging and was sparkly) and how it looked when bustled – there also wasn’t anything I didn’t like about it that wasn’t fixable (changed neckline and added cap sleeves).
For me, I knew if it kept looking it would just get more confusing and difficult. They all blend in after a while! Maybe try narrowing down the style and what features you really want and find a dress that ticks those boxes for you.
Post # 16
I thought I would have that “moment” when trying on dresses or even cry, but that didn’t really happen. I had my mom, aunt, sister, best friend, and 6 year old daughter with me. I tried on about 8 dresses and out of the 8 I did find my one, but not right away. I knew what I didn’t like right away and the others I was on the fence about. But the dress I ultimately chose, my friend made the comment of, “You are wearing the dress, it’s not wearing you.” That made me give it another look and I realize “Damn, I do look good!” I ended up going back a couple days later to try it on again just to make sure, and ordered it that day. Another thing that made me realize that was the dress, my FI wanted to see pictures and I wouldn’t show him “the dress” because I didn’t want to spoil the surprise, but I happily showed him the others I wasn’t a fan of.