Post # 1
Based upon a recent thread that’s been commented on, it sounds as though a fair number of Bees knew that their SO was “the one” early on. I thought there’s probably some fun stories out there and encourage you to share about knowing your SO was The One. So post away about:
* HOW you met your SO
* WHEN you knew s/he was The One
* WHY you felt that way
I’ll go first. I met my FI through a friend — she moved into a house with three guys when she broke up with her BF, and my FI was one of the new roommates. I don’t actually remember meeting him the first time, but we both remember the first night we realy took notice of each other, probably about a month after that first meeting. I tried to give him my number at a Thanksgiving party a couple months after that (exact line was “but you don’t have my number” and his response was “there’s always Facebook.” We weren’t even FB friends! ) but it took him another month before he actually got my number and asked me out. I would say my “when I knew” was from the start, because it felt different, maybe more optomistic, partly just that gut feeling, but I think a big part of that was probably also my mindset. I’d recently decided that I was ready for marriage and I’d been saying for years that I just wanted to meet someone through friends and then, finally!, I did. But the why is all him — he’s really funny, smart, hardworking, and genuinely nice. No one has anything bad to say about him. And he takes good care of me, which is a nice treat after flying solo for so long. He also adopts my goals as his, ex: I want to buy a house, he’s helping to save money for a downpayments, and who wouldn’t value that in a partner, right?!
Post # 2
cbgmtx: I met my husband when I applied to work at the place he worked at. He was friends with one of the managers who’d dropped that they had hired someone new. And already he was asking about me before he even met me. When we met, he was very friendly and helpful to me. It took a whole month of him hitting on me before I realized that he may like me. We met in February, but I don’t remember until March when we started talking. We went out for the first time in the middle towards the end of March and that’s when I knew he was the one. I was always attracted to him despite the fact that he smoked (he’s since quit since our daughter was born), had four well placed tattoos (not big all over his body tattoos, small ones), and had a beard – all qualities I didn’t like but didn’t care that he had. I knew he was the one because even with those things that I normally don’t like I wanted to be with him.
He fell in love with me a not even a week after we started dating. It was april 5th that he fell in love with me, and a week later I realized I was seriously in love with him. And now over a year and half later we have a beautiful daughter and a wonderful marriage.
Post # 3
mrs.joiner: My FI has a beard, too! I love it; I find it really manly. He’s totally not allowed to shave it off.
Post # 4
What a sweet story 🙂 Mine is somewhat similar. I met my husband in 2008, shortly after graduating college. My girlfriend was bugging me to go out for drinks with a group of people that I didn’t know too well, and I was resistant. Something told me to go. One of her female friends brought my husband, whom my girlfriend had never met, so I guess I met him through a friend of a friend! I assumed he was taken, because he had shown up with another girl, but as the night went on, I realized most of his attention was on me. We spent a couple of hours getting to know each other in a bar, while our friends were around but seemed to know to give us some space! At the end of the night, I knew he wanted to ask for my number but didn’t. I later found out the girl who brought him was interested in him and super jealous, so it kind of made the situation awkward, even though he had made it clear to her that he was only interested in a friendship with her.
I ended up tracking him down on Facebook, which was no easy task as he has a VERY common name. I messaged him my number and he called me later that day. We had our first date a few days later. I’d say that was when I knew how much I liked him, being willing to put in that effort. But I’d say it was about 2 months later that I knew he was it for me. Our relationship progressed quicker than any I had ever been in- we said “I love you” 2 weeks in, which was crazy fast for me. The fact that it moved so fast and that didn’t scare me, that was what told me he was the one. And I can’t imagine being with anyone else. We are currently in the process of buying our first home together and hope children are in the near future for us. And to think, I didn’t even want to go out that night!
Post # 5
I met my FI online – plentyoffish.com. He messaged me asking why I didn’t messaged him after viewing his profile. I told him I wasn’t sure he was OK with the age difference (14 years apart) and he didn’t so we met up for a drink that night.
I wasn’t sure it was going to go anywhere serious because i hadn’t dated that much older either but we just kept going out and seeing each other and after about a month i realized it was sgoing somewhere. I fell in love about 2 months in and he told me on my birthday 🙂 He just truly cared and loved me and was there for me. He always cheers me up and always put me first. We’ve been together almost 4 years now 🙂
Post # 6
Kay1126: I love that! Sometimes you really do just have to follow your instincts, even if it means not getting to lounge in your yoga pants on the couch.
Post # 7
sweetdee89: That’s so sweet!
Post # 8
how i met him: i chipped in on a trip to a festival in a couple towns down. i just got to college. met him in a bar when i was 19.
when i knew he was the one: this is hard. DH knew i was the moment he met him. i took a lot longer. i would say one christmas he brought me a cup of coffee without asking me just the way i like it. i remember thinking hes the one. i had never been with anyone who was remotly that thoughtfull. it was like a got a flash or us as two old people. and him bringing me the same cup in a futureistic christmas, just the way i like it. also i have a weird guilty pleasure, i like my back scratched. not something i share with everyone and the first time ive mentioned it on weddingbee. but DH would scratch my back for me.. and i knew i had to marry him 😉 its been 9 years since we met so its hard to pin point the exact moment i knew. it was more gradual for me then a BING like it was for him.
Post # 9
cbgmtx: My FI and I have known each other since 3rd grade. He had fire-engine-red hair and was super popular. Being the new girl with curly, frizzy hair, I got picked on a lot by the popular kids and he was one of them. So, I returned the favor by picking on him and calling him “carrot top” and such.
Throughout middle school and high school we ran in similar circles and had a lot of the same friends, but we never really talked or hung out. Senior year of high school, I got dumped by a long term boyfriend (almost three years) and then again by a short rebound (2 months), so at that point I had stopped looking for dates, and decided to enjoy being single and being myself.
My FI and I ended up having several classes together, and he sat diagnol from me in piano class, so we could easily look at each other while playing our keyboards. I noticed he would always play songs from Mario and knew the Mortal Kombat theme, and he appeared very impressed when I pointed it out. We started talking which eventually lead to flirting, exchanging of numbers, and interest. We started dated in March of our spring semester and I was afraid of falling hard too fast.
A few weeks, maybe a month, later, I called him upset because my best friend that I go to for everything was working and I couldn’t call her. My mom and I get into really nasty fights on occassion and she resorts to verbal abuse. I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and the fight triggered an attack and I honestly felt like I was going to die. He talked me through my attack and told me all the things that made me beautiful and special. After about an hour, he told me that he loved me and that he wouldn’t let anything happen to me. In that moment (and our first kiss), I knew I loved him back.
We graduated high school in June, he proposed in August (THAT’S a whole other story in itself!). It’s been a little over 3.5 years now, and while we aren’t exactly the same people that we were in high school, we have both matured and grown together and still love each other the same, if not more, than before. He bought my official engagement ring and is going to my parents to get their blessing since we didn’t do it right the first time.
We hope to set a date in March 2016 🙂
Post # 10
FI and I met on craigslist, hence the name. I’m not sure there was a definitive “the one” moment though there were several events that confirmed his quality. He wrote the sweetest emails, but it wasn’t until our first month anniversary dinner that I could tell that even in person, he was an upstanding guy. I had a very busy few months of work during our dating time, and he spent SO much time at my place despite my encouraging him to stay at his place because of my late hours.
Post # 11
souza_2005: My FI isn’t a huge toucher, but he likes having his back scratched, too. And I like to make him give me back massages near constantly.
peacock0320: And then little ginger babies! (If y’all want kids.)
craigslistgirl: During my brief stint with online data, I was such a stickler for grammar and spelling. It’s sweet that you have correspondence from that time that you can look back on, if you want.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Antique Rose Emporium
These stories are heartwarming 🙂
I met my FI online…but not on a dating site. I was 15 and he was 16. We met on an RPG game (no, not World of Warcraft lol) and we immediately hated each other. By that I mean I had met someone wittier, smarter, and funnier than myself. I was put off. I tried to play hard to get. He saw right through me, told me “Don’t go falling in love with me.” How cocky, right? Well it worked…I fell in love.
We had such a deep connection..and that was all before I had even seen what he looked like..he was a very shut-in, pessimistic kind of guy until I got him to open up. I llove that being together helped us both believe in something, gave us something to live for, taught us to be selfless. He lived in Texas and I was in SC. We were young. None of that mattered. I knew I had found my soul mate, my honest to God partner for life. I think I knew it from the beginning.
I was deeply depressed for a while doubting if two people our age could actually make this a real thing. We did get to visit each other about twice a year. I think the pain of leaving him behind on those visits confirmed for us both that we HAD to be together. I remember crying in his bedroom the ENTIRE night before my flight back home. I begged him to let me stay, my heart was aching in pain…he promised me he would marry me some day soon. That got me through our long distance. It was a HUGE lesson and test on Faith and trust. He was so confident we would be together. When I was 19 I got my chance…I made a decision to transfer colleges and moved across the country to be with him. Best decision ever. We have been through SO much and it made us so strong! I love our relationship 🙂 Can’t wait to marry this man next May!
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2005 - 1880's Chapel
My husband’s sister and I worked together. She thought he and I would get along and passed my number to him. She was right! 😉 We both knew after a few months that it was it, but we waited a year before moving in together and another six months before he proposed. It was lovely and perfect. We just always clicked. The most important thing that keeps our relationship strong, in my opinion, is that we always put the other first.
Post # 14
I met my SO through a mutual friend the day I had finally broken up with my ex who had a controlling persona. When I met him I felt an instant attraction, but did NOT want anything serious. So we started just talking and had a FWB type situation (first and last of those, ugh.) and eventually he convinced me to give it a serious go. When I realized he was the one, we were in the middle of our first somewhat major arguement. I realized it, because as a very competitive person, I used to like to argue. My ex and I were ALWAYS arguing and it was not very constructive, which is terrible. But with my SO, mid argument I literally kissed him and realized I couldnt stay mad at him. I didnt want to argue with him, just wanted to resolve the issue. Two and a half years later, and we still do the same thing. Kiss, and talk through things instead of arguing. He keeps me calm. I love him to the moon and back.
Post # 15
2YorkiesMama: How great to have a story where picking up and leaving what you knew to be with your SO worked out. And he lived in Texas, so you didn’t have to move anywhere with snow, at least.
keepitsimple: Absolutely! I’m a big believer in putting each other first and clear communication.