The One Who Thinks YOU Got Away

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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2455 posts
Buzzing bee

Unfathomably:  Block him, as it seems you already plan to. I don’t think he has any interest in more than a booty call from you. He probably even finds it entertaining that he can get your attention when you’re with your FI.

Just ignore him.

Post # 3
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5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

 

Unfathomably:  I dealt with it by ignoring him completely. It’s hard to not reply and try and be a jerk in some way because let’s be honest here, it’s common to want to feel like your ex’s regret losing you. It’s flattering in some weird way to know that you are still on their mind. It has nothing to do with wanting them or regretting leaving the relationship. Something to keep in mind though, ignoring someone is the worst thing you could do. Acting as if he doesn’t exist will hurt him more than  you responding, even if the response is not nice.

Post # 4
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5002 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Unfathomably:  Definitely block him and if you don’t, ignore him completely. By texting him back, even if you’re saying leave me alone, youre still giving him attention. 

Post # 5
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5997 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

Unfathomably:  just block him. You told him not to contact you and he hasn’t listened.

Post # 6
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Unfathomably:  I have a similar ex who seems to have a radar for when “big” moment’s happen in my life and tries to worm his way back in to see if he can manipulate me again. When FI and I got engaged he attempted to friend request me and message me on facebook (after no contact for over 2 years – I changed my # so facebook was all he had). 

Like other bees said, I just ignored it. You probably should too! But I do understand feeling a little satisfaction at hurting the feelings of someone like that (even if it is immature). Just enjoy your wonderful FI and ignore the ex 🙂 

Post # 8
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2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Unfathomably:  STOP REPLYING. 

I had an ex like this, very similar sounding situation.  The last I heard from him was last August to the tune of a 3AM facebook message asking me what was up.  WHO DOES THAT?  I had also just gotten engaged and resisted the urge to tell him.  

Silence speaks volumes.  

Post # 9
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85 posts
Worker bee

Unfathomably:  Stop replying.  Block him.  Unless you have contact with him regularly, it probably won’t hurt his feelings.  Right now he gets what he wants (your interaction with him) and if you stop giving that he will move on to less engaged pastures.

I had a guy that I saw for a couple of months (during which he asked me to move 1 hour away from where I lived to be with him) and he texted me on my birthday and major holidays for YEARS after.  He didn’t stop until I blocked him on my phone and facebook.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My ex-husband used to send me similar emails from time to time. (We divorced because he had an affair, and he ended up marrying her not long afterward.) I always replied and asked him not to contact me anymore. Once I finally ignored him and didn’t reply at all, they stopped. I think he got some sort of satisfaction out of hearing from me, even if it wasn’t friendly. If I were you, I would quit writing back and just block his number.

I have gotten an apologetic email from an ex who seemed to sincerely regret things and didn’t have ulterior motives of getting back together or meeting up again. I did send a short but nice reply in that case.

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