Post # 1
I have a pinterest board. I have a circle of married/engaged friends. I have a fiance. I have a $40,000 wedding budget. Am I the only one in the world? Yeah, that’s a lot of money. Yeah, I plan on putting my future kids through college.
Most of my friends are yankees but southern belles at heart. They had those rustic barn/burlap/lace/buffet wedding with a $5,000 budget and 225 guests. I don’t like that. I want an elegant hotel wedding. I can afford it.
Tons of people (you, bridal party!) are giving me shit because of our budget. I’m so upset and confused. It’s my (our) wedding. I (we) should do what I (we) want, right? I feel so alone that I have a big (moderate) budget.
So tell me…. Any other brides out there with a nice sized budget?
Post # 3
And here I thought $40k was on the low end. Don’t let your friends get you down, and try to ignore their criticism. Chances are that once they attend your lovely wedding and see how YOU it is, they’ll understand.
Post # 4
Woah! Can’t believe you’re hearing it about your budget! Do what you want… spend what you can afford, it’s YOUR money! Just FYI.. in my group of friends, a $40,000 is on the lower end of what couples are spending. I think it differs with regions. I know that where I grew up, most of the weddings are in halls or backyards and those people would have a heart attack if they knew our actual budget!
Post # 5
@SomeoneBeautiful: why does your bridal party know your budget? That would be considered very rude in my circle.
Post # 6
our wedding was about 40k. we own a house and have good jobs. its the wedding i always wanted and it was perfect, dont let anyone get you down. its your day!
Post # 7
Mine isn’t near as big as yours and it’s still under the “average” spent for weddings at about $21-$22k I could easily spend $30-$40k if I was able to! But I don’t know why people would give you shit about it. More power to you! Hell if you’re doing it in NYC that won’t go near as far there as it would here (or in the South!).
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Our budget was originally $30, now it’s pushing (probably has exceeded… we’re not great at keeping track) $40 😉 I know a LOT of our friends would not nor have the means to spend that much on a wedding, but Fiance and I both agree that this is one of the biggest events/parties of our lives so it’s worth spending the money, plus we can comfortably spend it. I haven’t gotten a lot of (or any) criticism because I haven’t told anyone how much we are spending altogether, and I’ll probably keep it that way!! It’s no one’s business but yours and your future husband’s!
Post # 9
Yea, 40K is average in my area. I’m spending (or rather my parents) about 125K (without rings, honeymoon, etc.). None of their business.
Post # 10
Mine was $30,000 but we’re comfortable enough financially that I would have increased that if I found something that I wanted. I have uncomfortable moments where someone goes “omg so an so spent $25,000 on their wedding… Blah blah blah.” I don’t get why other people care, it’s not their wedding. I’ve always had a picture of what I wanted in my head. We are lucky enough to have well paying jobs and parents who chipped in so we can afford to do what we want while still saving over 10% for our emergency fund and retirement.
I’m sorry that people are giving you crap. That is extremely rude. I’ve had to put up with snarky comments about others (because people don’t realize how much our budget is) but no one has the guts to say it to my face.
Post # 11
@toothfairy910: +1 I have not discussed my budget with my bridal party (except my sister who is the MOH).
It is your money, your decision. But honestly, if you don’t talk about your budget, people cannot criticize it.
Post # 12
Just don’t discuss your budget or how much stuff is costing with them. And if they comment on choices you are making (‘gee, that venue would cost heaps of money’ etc) I would just reply and say ‘we actually found it quite reasonably priced in the end’ and leave it at that. It’s none of their business what you are spending and rude of them to make these comments to you.
40k where I am from is a decent amount of money for a wedding but not unusual if you are having quite a few guests and all the trimmings etc.
Post # 13
There are plenty of us out there. A $40k wedding where I live and in my social circle is the rustic/burlap/lace wedding (rustic does not automatically equal inexpensive). So, don’t let your friends get you down about doing a wedding your way. Point them to the show “Platinum Weddings,” and remind them that the spending could be much worse.
And remind them that your budget is none of their business.
Post # 14
Get what you want girl! You can afford it so go for it. I am like you. I don’t want a 5,000 dollars vintage burlap mason jar farm flowers wedding :(. We are heading for 45k here. and we don’t have a budget. it’s just that what we want amounts to 45K (and we got 2 professional photograhers and DJ for free because they were friends!. So real cost is more like 50 and over.) let’s just hope I will not find anything else that I like before the wedding. 102 days to go!!!
Post # 15
Spend what you want — it’s y’alls money. Don’t let them get you down.
Post # 16
Why are you discussing budgets anyway?
Most of the Southern weddings I’ve been to were country club weddings – we do have those in the South – or ones with no sort of a rustic vibe to them, just saying.