(Closed) the only one?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: only mom dress shopping?
    thats fine : (18 votes)
    64 %
    selfish of your mother you should bring your FMIL as well : (6 votes)
    21 %
    i looooove polls : (4 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I think it’s odd your mom is giving you a guilt trip about wanting other people around.  Does she think you’ll listen to them over her?  I’d talk to her more about it and see if you can understand where she’s coming from… and also be able to tell her why it’s important to you to have others there.

    ETA:  My mom was NO help at any of my dress trips and I ended up having a better time going solo.  I didn’t even think about having my Future Mother-In-Law along because she wouldn’t have been much help.

    Post # 4
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    i have only taken my mom….. my Future Mother-In-Law really wanted to go, but she has wayyyy too many opinions. i really just wanted it to me my mom.  i will take Future Mother-In-Law to a fitting, but no one else will be there to help pick out the dress… i have emailed friends pics of the dresses that i tried on to make them feel included, though.

    Post # 5
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think its a mom thing. My mom didn’t say anything about other people coming with us but only 2 of my friends came with us and neither of them were there at the same time. However, when I happened to finally find my dress, at the 9th store, it just so happened that it was just my mom and I there and she refused to send or show any pics of me in the dress that I got b/c she wanted it to be a secret. haha

    Plus, I wouldn’t take too many people until you’ve decided on a couple that you like and then show them those. Too many people means too many opinions!

    Post # 7
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m only interested in taking my mom. Her opinion matters the most to me more than any of my friends. Plus, she would never put me in a dress that would make me look ugly or didn’t flatter me. I trust her judgement, as we have similar tastes.

    We get to have that special moment together, and there’s no drama with everyone throwing their opinion at which dress looks better.

    Post # 6
    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I went with my Sister. My mom was out of town so I texted her a pic. My future Mother-In-Law didnt act interested…I wasnt going to straight up ask as I know she’d say no anyways as usual. She is very strange to me!

    Post # 8
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I only went dress shopping with my mom and niece (they were visting me from FL).  I ended up finding the dress during those shopping trips!  I did wish my two sisters were there though, but they couldn’t afford a trip to visit me and had other things going on.  My Future Mother-In-Law also lives out of state and wouldn’t be able to afford coming to visit for dress shopping (although I have always believed the wedding dress shopping experience should just be bride’s mom, sisters, and a best friend)…if I were closer in my relationships to FI’s family and they lived closer, I may have entertained it. But the constant is my mom.

    Post # 10
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    While I don’t think it’s weird to do most of your shopping with your mom (I did as well) I think it IS weird that your mom doesn’t want you to bring anyone else with you. I had my mom, and occasionally my sister/bridesmaids, Future Mother-In-Law came once, my dad came once, etc.

    Post # 13
    9414 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I only went with my mom, it just happened that way because I bought one on my first trip….and I didn’t expect to.  I think I’ll bring some more for when it comes in though and I get to try it on.

    Post # 14
    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Mine went to both and was the one who talked me into getting my dress. I don’t regret it one bit. Sometimes I need that little push to make it happen! Even though I didn’t take her with me to every shop, I definately made her some with me when I found a dress I really liked so she could see it on me in person. I took her to 3 different stores after the fact to show her a dress. She was insanely helpful.

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