Post # 1
hello bees i have a question for you ladies i have went dress shopping a dozen times once i went by my self and had a great time but ive only brought my mother. is that weird. she makes me feel bad if i even think about bringing someone else with us. i guess she wants me to find “the dress” with her first and then show everyone else Future Mother-In-Law,SIL etc….
Post # 3
I think it’s odd your mom is giving you a guilt trip about wanting other people around. Does she think you’ll listen to them over her? I’d talk to her more about it and see if you can understand where she’s coming from… and also be able to tell her why it’s important to you to have others there.
ETA: My mom was NO help at any of my dress trips and I ended up having a better time going solo. I didn’t even think about having my Future Mother-In-Law along because she wouldn’t have been much help.
Post # 4
i have only taken my mom….. my Future Mother-In-Law really wanted to go, but she has wayyyy too many opinions. i really just wanted it to me my mom. i will take Future Mother-In-Law to a fitting, but no one else will be there to help pick out the dress… i have emailed friends pics of the dresses that i tried on to make them feel included, though.
Post # 5
I think its a mom thing. My mom didn’t say anything about other people coming with us but only 2 of my friends came with us and neither of them were there at the same time. However, when I happened to finally find my dress, at the 9th store, it just so happened that it was just my mom and I there and she refused to send or show any pics of me in the dress that I got b/c she wanted it to be a secret. haha
Plus, I wouldn’t take too many people until you’ve decided on a couple that you like and then show them those. Too many people means too many opinions!
Post # 7
I’m only interested in taking my mom. Her opinion matters the most to me more than any of my friends. Plus, she would never put me in a dress that would make me look ugly or didn’t flatter me. I trust her judgement, as we have similar tastes.
We get to have that special moment together, and there’s no drama with everyone throwing their opinion at which dress looks better.
Post # 6
I went with my Sister. My mom was out of town so I texted her a pic. My future Mother-In-Law didnt act interested…I wasnt going to straight up ask as I know she’d say no anyways as usual. She is very strange to me!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I only went dress shopping with my mom and niece (they were visting me from FL). I ended up finding the dress during those shopping trips! I did wish my two sisters were there though, but they couldn’t afford a trip to visit me and had other things going on. My Future Mother-In-Law also lives out of state and wouldn’t be able to afford coming to visit for dress shopping (although I have always believed the wedding dress shopping experience should just be bride’s mom, sisters, and a best friend)…if I were closer in my relationships to FI’s family and they lived closer, I may have entertained it. But the constant is my mom.
Post # 9
@oracle: i have she says its tradition to find the dress with your mother first ; ( i feel like shes being so selfish with this but at the same time i don’t want to hurt her feelings and take away that moment for her i’m her first daughter to get married and probably the last for a long long time. my sisters are very young 22,20 years old and heading no where fast dating wise.
i love my mother and shes my best friend the last thing i want it to make her feel like I’ve taken something away from her. when my brother got married she was left in the dark about everything. she offered to help with what she could with there wedding but they said her moms got it ; ( she was so sad we never said anything to them about how we felt and then they finally asked my mother if she could throw the rehearsal dinner we were glad to and we threw a nice intimate party. but it seem like they asked Caz her mother felt she did enough but they never told her mother that my mother wanted to help with some costs which made my mother feel really bad she felt like they made her look really poor to her family and we are but damn we could have paid for some stuff if given the chance. they left her out of everything Caz they automatically assumed she cant help. so wrong!
Post # 10
While I don’t think it’s weird to do most of your shopping with your mom (I did as well) I think it IS weird that your mom doesn’t want you to bring anyone else with you. I had my mom, and occasionally my sister/bridesmaids, Future Mother-In-Law came once, my dad came once, etc.
Post # 11
@Torrid: that’s what i dread everyone going crazy ive seen yes to the dress too many times to admit lol i want to find the dress and then when i go for my first fitting bring the gang ; ) too late to throw opinions around its paid for and done!
Post # 12
@sleepyhead22: thank you! thats the same thing ive been doing ; ) but its been just me and my mother i took my sister once and she acted as if we were going to the dentist lol shes 20 years old she could care less ; (
Post # 13
I only went with my mom, it just happened that way because I bought one on my first trip….and I didn’t expect to. I think I’ll bring some more for when it comes in though and I get to try it on.
Post # 14
Mine went to both and was the one who talked me into getting my dress. I don’t regret it one bit. Sometimes I need that little push to make it happen! Even though I didn’t take her with me to every shop, I definately made her some with me when I found a dress I really liked so she could see it on me in person. I took her to 3 different stores after the fact to show her a dress. She was insanely helpful.