(Closed) The ONLY one…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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145 posts
Blushing bee

I know how you feel but luckily it’s been three people in the last six months, not three days. I can’t imagine three people getting engaged in three days! And unfortunately, I have no tips to pass the time/distract yourself. Good luck finding some!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Whew! That is a lot of peope! Just know he’s got his own timeline and it’s gonna happen eventually! (hopefully sooner rather than later).

SO MANY of my high school friends are popping up engaged and some pregnant! (I’m 23, so it’s “that time”, lol) so I can relate.

To help me, I’ve set a mental deadline, and promised myself I’ll be fairly cool with all of it until then. It is the 4th of July. After that, bf and I are sitting down for a serious heart to heart about why he hasn’t done it yet. Like, I will take him in the car and force this conversation on him (lol). There will be no excuse for him by then!! So, just having that in the back of my mind deters me from saying much to him.. I tell myself, he’s got 3 months. I can totally wait that long.. 3 months is no big deal! It makes it easier because I can visualize a time rather than just being in the unknown and  I have no clue. I realize it’s not HIS timeline, but it makes it easier nontheless 🙂

Being on here also helps!!!! I love it, my bf will still be totally uninterested even after we’re engaged, so WB is all I have

 

Post # 6
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50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I totally know what you’re going through.

My BF is quite a bit older than me, and so whenever we go over to any of his friends’ houses, everyone there (and I do mean absolutely everyone!) but us is either married or engaged. (I just graduated from college, so this also seams to be a new trend with all of my friends–I think 3 were proposed to at graduation). When I hang out with the “wives” at my BF’s friends parties and things, all the engaged girls can do is ask all of the married women about wedding stuff. Now, in their defense, I imagine I’ll ask lots of questions to married people once we finally get engaged too, but it just makes me feel very left out. So believe it or not, I know exactly what you’re going through.

The thing I like to think about, though, is whether we’re engaged or not, I know for a fact that I have the greatest man in the world, as I’m sure you think as well. Just think about how much you love him and how much he loves you. Whether you’re engaged or not, remember that you get to spend every day with the one person that makes you feel better than anyone else.

I like to think that the reason my BF is waiting so long is because he really wants to make sure it’s the right time. He wants to make our engagement special and not overshadowed by everyone else’s that have gotten engaged recently. Your situation sounds similar. Remember that once your BF finally does propose, you’ll be happier than all those other women ever seamed and you’ll have your greatest man in the world to thank for it…not to mention that there will be plenty of other people you’ll make jealous in the process. 🙂

Post # 7
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474 posts
Helper bee

I often feel like the only one too. It wasn’t too bad right out of school, as very few of our friends were getting engaged and married (we were the couple in the serious relationship) and since then (4 yrs.) a large number have met, dated, gotten engaged and married and we are still just hanging out in boyfriend/ girlfriend land… I just keep telling myself that it will happen!

Post # 8
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

That’s a lot of people in a couple of days! I get that many in a year’s time. LOL

I feel that way sometimes since I am at a certain age (I’ll be 29 this month), but then, truthfully, I have 1 married friend. If I counted Facebook “friends” it would be more, but I mean friends I actually talk to and spend time with, not just send a message to.LOL.

 

 

Post # 10
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Ohhh yea I know how you feel. What makes it worse is that the majority have been dating their BFs MUCH less AND are younger then me. The new thing for me is alot of my friends are gettting PREGNANT now..so now that Im surrounded by cute little ones and baby showers it makes me want to get married even MORE (didnt know that was possible lol). Its TORTURE I say!! Oh well, it will come soon-ish hopefully, I know Mr. FS is saving and just got a second job in which he will be making double what he makes now. Just think of it like this: Saving the best for last! 😉

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

I hope you don’t mind that I am responding to this because I am no longer waiting, but I feel like I have insight because I was waiting once too!

Before I got engaged, ALL of my friends were getting engaged, which was frustrating because my then-boyfriend and I had been together the longest! But just try to remember that it isn’t a competition or a race (I had to remind myself of this a lot!); it’s about the love you share with your boyfriend. And that love is so special, and the fact that you aren’t (yet) engaged doesn’t make it any less special.

So don’t just see these days as “waiting” days, because these days, too, are a really important part of your relationship.

And I promise that when the day comes that he proposes, it will be SO worth the wait.

Post # 12
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I felt that way when I was waiting too!  The weird thing is that it couldn’t have been true because we have more weddings this summer than we did last summer.  It just felt like everyone was getting engaged before me…

The worst was when people got engaged after us but married before us.  It was our own doing, but it still always felt weird!

Hang in there!

Post # 13
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, Facebook does make it worse. A LOT worse.LOL I jsut try to stick to my daily friends and see their updates and such. It helps!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Im right there with you.. I feel like everyone I know is getting married, engaged, or having babies in front of me and I am STUCK here in waiting world.. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! ok Im better now lol.

Post # 15
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1297 posts
Bumble bee

I can totally relate I’ve had three people close to me get engaged and two of the three are getting married this year.  I know that when he decides to do it that it we’ll be special and well worth the wait.  I just have to keep reminding myself of that.  It doesn’t help tha his older sis is getting married this month and his younger sis got engaged last month.  Now everyone is looking at me and I’m like we’ll ask him I have no idea. 

Post # 16
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Newbee

Yeah, it totally rings that, ‘these girls got more wife material than you’ bell in your soul… even though it shouldn’t have any of those implications whatsoever!

Facebook feeds the fire so bad, too… it’s such a downwards spiral

=(

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