- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
So I took all of the HIVES’ advice and this is what came about…
The FI and I had yet another big fight about our Pastor and the church venue only because I told him my feelings (for the 100th time) how I wasnt comfortable having a man that I despise marry us in front of God, family, and friends. I wasnt trying to hurt his feelings, but just trying to express myself that although I am willing to compromise and get married in HIS (FI) faith and not my own, I just dont think that I can bring myself to get married by his Pastor due to his rude comments and his view of the world (see previous post for details)
So it was my FI’s birthday and we were at the bar having a few drinks with his mother, brother and sister in law. After his Bro and SIL had left we inevitably got started talking about the “ordeal”. I am happy to say that my FI totally stood up for himself and I to his mother saying that he isnt all that fond of the pastor and really doesnt want to get married by him (I almost fell out of my chair in shock as he has never expressed his feelings liike that to me) Needless to say, his mom was almost in tears because she felt so bad that this wasnt a positive experience for us, so she vowed that she would get ahold of the pastor she had growing up (same church) who is now retired to ask his advice and if he would either marry us, or at least be a co-pastor when we are at the altar. This makes me feel MUCH better. She even suggested that maybe we get married outside the church in the tent that will be set up for our reception.
Thank you bees for all of your advice and I will keep you all updated 🙂