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Hmmmmm...I've been on the pill for almost ten years. I'm always attracted to beefy linebacker types. I've never been attracted to a feminine type guy in my life.
I've been on BC for years....years....I don't find feminine men attractive. I might like their fashion sense, but attracted to them? Negative.
I want to be the woman in the relationship =]
Sidenote: I'm taking "feminine" to mean like an Ed Westwick (Chuck Bass) or Pete Wentz type.
Maybe this explains why so many girls loved Leonardo Dicaprio and Johnny Depp back in the day!
this is funny. (good point Mr. Bee)
i didn't start on BC until marriage, so the study probably doesn't work well on me.
Yeah, I'm not too sure about this. FI is no pretty boy and I'd like to think he's more of a man's man.
Pretty cool though, the article goes into more detail about menstral cycles and ovulation and how it changes attitudes towards the opposite sex. It said their study found lap dancers who were ovulating made $20 more an hour compared to their non-ovulating counterparts.
My FI has a good sense of style, but in no way is he "feminine." He just likes to look good, and there is nothing wrong with that. He works a job outside, where he gets dirty, and sweaty, and lets his roughness (haha) grow out all the time, and I've been attracted to him way before I got on birth control.
I've been on BC for over 5 years now and have always been attracted to manly-looking men. FI is hairy and stocky and a MAN lol. However, he is also sensitive and in touch with his feelings. So I guess in that sense he has "feminine tendencies" or something. But while I think metro guys are nice to look at sometimes, they just don't do it for me.
Note that the way to compare here is to assess what sort of guy you are attracted to when you are on the pill versus not on the pill. So if you have been on the pill for the entirety of your relationship with your partner, then you do not have a no-pill standard to compare to for this partner.
Personally, I found myself more sexually attracted to my husband once I got off the pill. (I met him, got on it almost immediately, and got off it several months later and stayed off.) I chalk it up to how the pill can dull your libido, though.
I was intrigued and worried by this finding as well (which I have read about in other places too, see, e.g., this article): "when a woman meets a man while on the pill and then goes off it, it is possible that she could become less attracted to her partner and realize she craves someone a little more manly." I really worried about this at the beginning of my relationship with my husband! It would be awful to get off the pill because you wanted to have children only to find yourself less sexually attracted to your husband. I was relieved when I did get off and things got even better.
even before i was on bc (17, 18) i didn't find femimine men attractive. It's engrained into my head that "men should be men and spit and chew and fight wars"
=]
There was a doc on Oprah talking about this kind of. Not that women liked more feminine men necessarily, but that it affects your choice. The doc on Oprah said that women who are NOT on bc have a tendency to be naturally attracted to people who are good genetic matches for them, but when you're on the pill you don't gravitate necessarily to those people.
I've been on the pill since I was 16 so I dunno who I would be attracted to off of it I guess! My guy isn't really my "type" anyways though so I guess it doesn't matter. :)
I was on the pill for a long time before getting the IUD. All I was attracted to were men old enough to be my father - but I had daddy issues. I like men who are men and can be a man.
Even when I was on the BC, I was always attracted to feminine men, hah, and FI is no exception :P My standard type: tall, extremely skinny, not athletic, hates sports, unique features, frequently nerdy, usually more emotional than most men
Interesting. I have been on the pill for almost as long as I can remember and if FI were anymore manly, he'd be Cro-Magnon.
Since i started on BC, I stopped going for the bad boys.. but in all reality i attribute that to lessons learned from dating the bad boys.
I definitely don't agree with the study. My man is not feminine at all. I've been on and off the pill while with him and it hasn't changed my view at all. I agree with most of the others and prefer my men manly.
:) I read Chuck Bass and just cut down here to smile :)
I don't like feminine men though...AHH! I don't think I do? My soon to be hubs is uber manly :) LOL
(CorgiTales) There was a doc on Oprah talking about this kind of. Not that women liked more feminine men necessarily, but that it affects your choice. The doc on Oprah said that women who are NOT on bc have a tendency to be naturally attracted to people who are good genetic matches for them, but when you're on the pill you don't gravitate necessarily to those people.
This is the study I've basically heard. Like it was some sort of pheromone thing or something. That the men you select while on the pill are not as compatible for you, when you are off the pill. I wouldn't know too much else about it, but if that was that case, I'm not sure if many people would just be able to tell the differences in the men they were attracted to, comparing the times they were on or off the pill.
I like my men like I like my cake-- delicious.
Har har har.
I was on the pill for most of our relationship, but not all. I had to get off of it for a few months due to a massive series of steriod treatments. (Sick lady!) I was just as attracted to him on roids as I was on bc.
FiftyFoot - Roids huh? That's hot - (jk)
Anyway, they were talking about this on the radio this morning and the one lady said - well maybe that's why some women are attracted to men that turn out to be gay. I mean, I guess most women have been attracted to guy (or at least thought he was cute) and then turned around to watch him hug is b/f, signficant other, etc?
Lol. Oh, you know me. I'm practically Ahhhnold.
I had some pretty ridonk 'roid irritation (not rage... lol) towards the end.
Im with hotchildinthecity - Ive been on for 10 years and all my guys are big and beefy. My husband is 6'3'' 240lbs and former all amerian athlete. I dont believe that study at all
I've been on them 10yrs and always liked tough, manly men.LOL. I've always HATED pretty boys. Don't get me started on my dislike of the Kappas at my college.Just turned my stomach.
Wonder where they got this study from....LOL
My sweetie is a man's man, for sure. That's one reason I love him. And he's a big strong Army man.lol
wow that is so funny because my guy is a tad bit feminine and I love my gay guys friends to death so idk.
I watched a show on the science channel recently (The Science of Attraction, or something like that). Anyway, one of the studies featured on the show discussed women's attraction to men during fertile (ovulating) versus non-fertile (not ovulating or already pregnant) periods. The study basically stated that at fertile periods, women look for more "masculine" men (i.e. very pronounced facial features, giving off more testosterone, the "protector" type, maybe more bulked up on muscles and willing to show off his power or physical abilities) as the biological incentive is to find a mate that will physically take care of a woman after impregnating her and to find a mate who will pass on genes for physically strong/healthy babies. During non-fertile periods, women tend to gravitate to more "feminie" men (i.E. softer facial features, more interested in conversation, willing to discuss sentimental or emotional issues, etc...) as biology during non-fertile periods prompts woman to look for good daddy-figures for their young and as an emtotional support during pregnancy.
I think this is the same basic concept as the op. Basically, on the pill, you are in a continuous non-fertile period, so you would tend to gravitate toward more "feminine" men. Biologically, you're seeking out someone who can be a good emtional supporter and/or a good daddy to your future children instead of a physically domineering man who will ensure your physical safety/comfort.
The last time I found a girly guy cute was when I was six or seven. Shaun Cassidy. My grandma took me to see him in concert. (yea you are so cool having grandma take you to a rock concert right?) I googled him too see what he looked like back in the day and I cannot believe it. I was attracted (my first crush mind you) to this guy. Geez? What kinda kool-aid were they handing out in kindergarten or second grade?
Since then I've liked my guys to look like manly men! I always want one taller than myself, kinda muscular, and with light eyes. Dark hair a bonus. Like this guy:
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Interesting article regarding how taking the pill has been found to affect your selection of men.
http://www.healthzone.ca/health/yourhealth/women'shealth/article/707513--pill-puts-women-off-macho-men-study-shows#
"Upon reviewing seven recent studies, the researchers found that when women take birth control pills, and are not fertile, they are always attracted to the same type of guy – the more feminine one."
Anyone care to comment?