The planets *might* align and our parents could possibly meet? BUT!…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

sienna76: That’s a tough situation, but I think I would try to make it happen. That way you can at least not being blamed for not trying! Hopefully your parents can also entertain each other a little bit, so that you and your husband don’t have to babysit them all the time. They are adults after all, so I don’t think it’s your job to keep them occupied non stop. They should be able to get around just fine if you just provide them with a list of things they can do while in town.

Post # 4
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

sienna76: Nice to see you too! I took a break from WB for a while, but now I’m back as we’re expecting a baby in December. Didn’t realize how much I had missed it until I got back into conversation with people!

It’s too bad that you’ll have to give up on your own trip though, but if this is the one chance for them to get together I would swallow that pill. Just to have it over and done with. And should your mum say that, why can’t you just reply with exactly what you just stated here: that you’re only doing it because it’s such a special occasion!

Post # 6
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1259 posts
Bumble bee

I remember reading some of your posts when you were wedding planning a couple years back and remember some of the drama and stress your mom (and sister I believe) caused you guys. I think you and your hubby should look at the vacation time as, “what do we truly want to do with our vacay days?” 

Yes of course it would be nice for his parents to meet your mom, but sometimes it just doesn’t play out that way. A wedding would’ve been the perfect place for that to have happened but your mom kind of put a kibosh on that plan. 

If you really want to have the parents meet, I feel like the plan for her to fly down when his are there is a good one. OR she takes the Thurs- Mon that you offered her. And acts like a big girl. She is supposed Also – were you paying for the trip for your mom? Is that what you mean by it’s a ‘subtle expectation’?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Does it really matter that much to you if your parents know each other or don’t know each other? Just curious, because it sounds like a lot of stress to you to try to make that happen. I’m frankly not that worried about it myself. 

Post # 10
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1259 posts
Bumble bee

sienna76:  I haven’t been as active on the bee in a few months (and also with the website overhaul) but thank you! Haha, I remember a few bees by some of their posts and I remember you had fabulous photos from your private elopement that made me jealous and want to elope! 

Guilt is one of those totally useless emotions…but it creeps up on us anyway. I’ve had to do that with my fam over certain things…like us always travelling towards them. 

That’s nice that you do roadtrips with your mom – I can see how it could get dicey at times but it’s good too that everything is split…I was thinking from your post that perhaps you paid for the whole thing or something. That would add an extra layer to the whole shebang!! 

Do let us know what you decide to do in the end. 

Oh, and my parents have never met my FI’s family either. They have spoken on the phone once or twice after we got engaged and once before that, but that’s it. And they are only about 3 hours driving distance apart….so don’t feel too bad about it. 

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