- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2020
My SO is trying his hand at politics.
When we started dating he was not involved in the political scene. A few months in, he decided to run for a certain position and although I was unsure of how I felt about it, I supported him fully. Obviously, the political scene is one that involves fundraisers and other such social events. I attended one event recently and my experience at the event is the reason for this post.
My SO and I are what I would consider serious (although only dating 6 months), we have exchanged “I love you’s,” we have discussed the future, met eachothers family… we are by no means just casually dating. To get to the point, at the recent event I attended, I felt that I was treated like I was just another guest. He didn’t really talk to me or introduce me to anyone for the first hour, he mingled completely independently (which obviously is expected to an extent.) He wandered up to me at one point and I quietly (and in a semi bitchy tone, I admit) mentioned that I was disappointed with his lack of interest in my presence there. I did not make a scene or start an argument, I just made that comment. He said, ver batim, “I told you that you shouldn’t have come.” Interesting thing is, he never told me not to come? I pointed that out to him and he mumbled something and walked away. I proceeded to order a cocktail and FORCED myself to continue to graciously mingle with everyone at the event. A large part of me wanted to storm out.
As the night progressed, he began introducing me to people a little bit more, also, to be honest, the wine kicked in and I just sort of continued my rounds and chatted with people in an attempt to distract myself from how annoyed I felt. I know I might sound self centered, because it WAS a big night for him, but I just wanted a little bit of recognition from him. I stay at his place nearly all of the time, he has told me I am “the one”… so why did I feel like just “one of the crowd” who wandered in off the street?
At the end of the night I expressed my feelings and my frustration. I made it clear that I didn’t appreciate the “you shouldn’t have come” comment at all, that I was there to show support and I KNOW he was nervous and trying to mingle but I still refuse to be a background decoration. He appeared genuinley sorry after he heard me out.
So bees… give it to me straight. Am I a drama queen or do I have a valid point? I know it is kind of hard to get the full picture in a few paragraphs, but he just seems so wrapped up in all of this and now I am questioning if I will be able to handle the lifestyle. I am pretty damn sad and disappointed, because he can be a pretty wonderful guy…albeit a little self absorbed at times.