Post # 1
This is my first post and I had considered not posting it at first; I’ve been pretty private about it since it forces me to be vulnerable. However, my New Year’s resolution was to help people, so, if it helps one person it was well worth it. If you are a member of the November POAS board you know that I got my BFP that month. We were so excited. We had only been trying for a few months but it felt like an eternity.
I had been lucky and not had too much morning sickness just horrible constipation and bloat. But, I could not shake this feeling that I was going to have some sort of horrible news when I arrived for my first doctor’s appointment. A few days before the appointment I called the advice nurse at my doctor’s office to ask about some uncomfortable cramping, what I thought was gas, and weird spasms I was having. I asked if it could be ectopic and she told me everything sounded normal and was probably just gas.
On December 20th we went to our 9 week doctor’s appointment. We saw the heartbeat (169), the baby was already moving, and everthing appeared great. Our baby was measuring exactly what we thought and our due date was July 31st. Our world came crashing down around us the next day. I was fine all day until around 7p when I started cramping, throwing up, having diarrhea, and eventually passed out twice. My husband decided it was time to go to the urgent care. After 18 hours, a few different facilities, 4 doctors, blood tests, and a sonogram, we found out that my pregnancy had been ectopic. My tube had ruptured and our baby no longer had a heartbeat. I had lost so much blood that I needed to have a transfusion. I was given blood and then rushed into surgery (laprascopy) to have the blood, part of my right tube, and the baby.
I am honestly not looking for anyone to feel sorry for me. I have healed physically and continue to heal emtionally. I know it will take a while and I am prepared for that journey. I really wanted to share for others who may go through this experience in the future. If you have any questions or just need someone who can relate, feel free to message me. Looking back there were a few signs that something just wasn’t right. As much as it sucks and I get sad sometimes, I know everything happens for a reason.
Post # 3
I don’t have much to say other then if im reading right… you had an ultrasound at your doctor before the rupture occurred? They should have caught it being ectopic. I’d have some hard questions for them and maybe consult a lawyer. I certainly would find a new doctor to. Best wishes that you go on to have a healthy little one soon.
Post # 4
@Mrs_Em: It’s really brave of you to put your story out there in hopes of helping a stranger.
Post # 5
@Mrs_Em: Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 6
@Mrs_Em: I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and the pain you had to endure, emotionally and physically. Thank goodness you are alive and well now! I know that it will take time to heal and be ready to move and I pray that you will find peace with what has happened.
Can I ask how did the doctor not see the ectopic pregnancy at your appointment at 9 weeks? Did they explain this possibility to you?
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing your story!
Post # 8
@lovemygsp: I agree….someone must’ve let this slip by them. They should have seen the baby in the tube. I’m so so sorry, OP. Losing a baby is a horrific experience! My heart goes out to you and prayers!
Post # 9
@Mrs_Em: I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. 🙁
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear your story, my heart is aching for you.
It’s been 6 months since I had a MC, and my heart is still heavy. Please take your time healing.
Post # 11
im wondering the same thing !
so sorry OP that is so scary to hear. 🙁 was it possibly a twin ? what was your pain like if you don’t mind me asking (i have sharp random pains to the right of my bellybutton up a bit but when I press down it feels watery or gassy I guess.
Post # 12
i was told that the weight of the baby had cause my tube to drop down by my uterus. This didn’t allow for much distinction. my husband wanted to talk to a lawyer but I know that going through that will not help me heal. I did speak with another doctor post op and she was very helpful and informative.
Post # 13
i thought it was bad gas; it was an occasional sharp stabbing pain. They say it favors one side but I felt like mine was all over so I thought I was fine. Some of the symptoms i had were very common for pregnancy.
Post # 14
@Mrs_Em: I am again very sorry.
In looking online it seems that extra-uterine pregnancies at 9 weeks are typically located on the u/s to the side versus the middle of the uterus. I wonder if this was true of your u/s image? Again, if you don’t want to discuss that is fine and totally understandable.
Post # 15
I am so, so sorry for your loss. How devastating. Thank you for sharing your story, and I hope you continue to heal. For those of us who are newly pregnant, if you can, would you mind sharing how you knew something wasn’t right? Sometimes I get little cramps on one side or the other, but nothing I’d call severe or even moderate. It’s so hard not to worry.
Post # 16
@Mrs_Em: Thanks for sharing your story – it took a lot of courage. Thinking of you…