Post # 1
Has anyone else had the luck/misfortune (depends on how you look at it) of having NO wedding drama? And by “drama,” I mean anyone really…caring at all about the wedding prep. My parents are very laid back about the whole thing, my FI’s family are the same way, and my friends are not in the marrying mindset at all, so Weddingbee is pretty much my only social outlet for this outrageous desire to share the details of the wedding!
It’s been pretty depressing lately since I’ve been digging in and getting really excited about little things like finding the ring pillow, picking fonts for the invites and STDs, and choosing the flavor of the cake. When I try and tell my friends these things they’ll smile and nod and immediately change the subject to something more…interesting to them, I suppose.
Anyone else dealing with the problem of no drama, no interest, and no concern for thw wedding plans? How are you handling it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think people will start expressing more interest when the date gets closer. You’re still six months out, which is getting close as the bride, but not as an attendee. You’ll probably find in the new year that people won’t leave you alone about it!
I blog and post to Weddingbee to get it all out of my system so my friends don’t think I’m a boring turd in the meantime who can’t talk about anything other than her wedding. 😉
Post # 4
Give it time–my family was no drama b/c they were so out of touch since they weren’t paying. My friends were no drama b /c they’re just not drama! Then they all got engaged and got busy w/ their own wedding planning.
The drama will probably come later =]. It hit a couple months before my wedding but up utnil then it was easy peasy!
Post # 5
I have a lot of single friends and they’re really not interested in the details of the wedding. They tend to just ask stuff about the open bar or the after party, haha ;o) I think people who have never planned a wedding before just don’t realize how important all the little things are, or are just not interested because they’re not in the mindset.
I’m sure your parents will get more excited/interested as the wedding gets closer :o)
Post # 6
I did have to deal with this for awhile and it was rough. My family was having issues dealing with a younger sibling and it zapped my parents attention. So, at the end of the day when I finally got the chance to talk to them, they were too tired to really listen to wedding stuff. And I totally understood that it wasn’t really a lack of interest on their part, just exhaustion due to a “wayward” child so to speak. So….to deal with it, I buried myself in projects. My wedding is 100% DIY, so I had TONS of projects to do. And honestly, I started spending a ton more time on weddingbee. While other people may not be as interested in hearing about your wedding, at weddingbee, we all LOVE to hear about weddings…that’s why we’re here.
I can sympathize with you in feeling like you’re the only one that cares about your wedding…It’s not fun 🙁
Post # 7
I agree with others. The drama happened up front and then now towards the end…not too much in the middle when it was just a far off date that everyone knew about. Now that it’s real, there’s more input.
And I look back on the days with no input with longing…LOL!
Post # 8
My MOH and FMIL are the only ones realy interested rihgt now. I only had the one drama with my Mom asking to wear the same dress she wore to my 1st. Hopefully she will spring for a new dress since it has been 10 years! Other than that no drama. After reading some of the posts on here, I think I can appreciate no drama and not a lot of input. We are so far out that I don’t expect a lot of questions or excitement. My FMIL is coming to visit in Oct. and is going to want all the details while she is here.
I am completely wedding obsessed and I’m super grateful for all you Bees!
Post # 9
I was feeling the same way you did. Not necessarily wanting drama, but wanting enthusiasm, interest, something! Then, I made a series of decisions and -boom- ENTER DRAMA! Seriously, if you can get through this entire engagement period without drama, you should give your family and friends presents on your wedding day. That is such a tremendous gift.
re: interest -I do think some people need to be asked to be engaged in the planning or details. There could be the assumption that x, y, or z person is helping you and you’d ask them for something, if you wanted their input, help, etc.
Post # 10
My mom went from “Oh it’s your day … don’t get me involved in your madness until you know exactly what it is you want and decide and not change your mind.”
to “I will call you everyday to tell you which R.S.V.P. came in, I need to know all the details, what are we MISSING, Oh.My.GOD. my baby is getting married … ”
Lol. So all of a sudden like 3 wks ago my mom suddenly changed and got wedding fever and is now getting prepared to become a grandma … hello I didn’t even have my first fitting yet – settle down grandma =) lol.
My fiances family was excited but kept their distance because I think they just knew I wanted to do my own thing … my sister is 16 and she is not really into it .. haha
Wedding bee is really my only wedding outlet too (besides my mother the past month!) …
Post # 11
Ohhh, the drama WILL start! I was the same. There was no drama about 6 months back, but just wait until you send out those invitations….parents will want to invite friends, etc….then rsvps will start coming and will have extra guests that YOU didn’t invite…then in general people will be more vocal about what they think a wedding should be.
I’m going through it right now and I’m only thinking it’ll get worse the week of. My advice? ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN! Let those calm months be the time where you put in YOUR ideas to your wedding…because by the time everyone gets excited and want you to do something a certain way, it’ll be too late! Good luck!