Post # 1
Today has been going great….
But then I got home and heard this wonderful news: FI is going to need to get braces. For 2 years. They are almost $4k.
Where in the hell are we going to get the money? We are paying for the whole wedding ourselves, and right now I’m working full time and Fi part time. Our wedding is in November and while we have a huge chunk of the wedding saved up, we still need around $1-2K (cake and vendors). The dentist says he can get them after the wedding if he likes but all of this apparently stems from a wrong bite (which ultimately caused the excruciatingly painful TMJ FI had been struggling with–which made his jaw’s cartlige pop out of place). I know I can trust in my faith to help us get by, but this just plain sucks. We live with Fi’s parents right now to save money and I feel horrible saying this but I don’t want to even THINK about living here after the wedding. I feel so bad for FI. He’s already had braces once in his life and to go through all of this just plain sucks.
I need to finish up school after the wedding so we can get our bachelors. And I really wanted to move and get on with our lives. I know I’m young but this is getting to be overwhelming. Everything for me has been hard.
Post # 3
I’m sorry you are struggling today. ((HUGS))
Post # 4
Does he have any kind of dental insurance? Mine covered some of my orthodontia. And the rest, I financed with the orthodontist. I made low monthly payments.
Post # 5
@Theresa90405:yes he does have insurance. We’ll be able to use that to help though I don’t know how much that will cover. We will be able to make monthly payments too but it’s just stressful.
Post # 6
Aw – that’s rough. At least you have each other to lean on and help each other. Stay strong and clever and love each other a lot, and I think things will work out somehow.
Post # 7
Relax, It is not a life and death emergency that he get the braces now. It almost never is with braces. Yes, his TMJ will likely improve with the braces, but even that will take time as his teeth are shifted into new positions. It will not go away just because the braces are applied.
Let it go until after the wedding. You may even get some cheques as wedding gifts that you can jointly decide to put towards the braces.
Post # 8
I feel his pain. I have stress-induced TMJ and its HORRIBLE. I am sure he is in constant pain and that wears a person down so badly. I really feel for him. If there is any other little corners you can cut to save up the money (which I am sure you already are) then do it. Just have as much patience with him as you can (I know I get ridiculously cranky when I’m in pain) and help with any pain reducing stratagies he has.
Post # 9
@SweetRose2011: I would check with your medical plan in addition to your dental. TMJ treatment is sometimes covered there because it’s considered a medical problem. It might not cover, but it won’t hurt to check.