Post # 1
Im really sad and hurt. One of my VERY best friends (we have been friends since 6th grade) backed out my wedding. At first she accepted my offer to be one of my bridesmaids (and she knew it was going to be a destination wedding). I knew that her financial situation wasnt the greatest and we were willing to help her. But, before I could tell her what my fiance and I were willing to help her with she backed out on me!!!!! I acted like it was no big deal, but in reality it was a HUGE deal. I never imagined I would have to get married with out her there with me. Im hurt and upset and I havent really talked to her since. She calls me every once in a while but I really dont have a whole lot to say. She also wants to be kept “in the know” about other things, like the bachelorette party. I dont think I should tell her because it will be out of town too … MIAMI, to be exact. I hate the recession, eventhough I thought it was over???!!!!!!!!! I know I have the right to be upset and I know I need to get over it (one day) but, Today is not that day !
Post # 3
if you are willing to help and didn’t tell her yet, why don’t you ask her if she would consider rejoining with your financial assistance?
Post # 4
It sounds like you are not communicating very well with her. Why not just TELL her that you are willing to help and put the offer out there? Don’t expect her to be a mind reader.
Post # 5
Awwww. That is terrible. Did you ever mention that you would be willing to help her? I would work on getting over it because it sounds like it is ruining your friendship. She would be there if she could – imagine how she feels. Probably just as guilty and sad that she can’t make it.
Post # 6
I agree with Ms. Meowerson It doesn’t sound like she backed out because she didnt want to do it, but that it was financially too difficult. If you help maybe she will go. All of my BM’s will have to travel for the wedding and I’ve tried to make it very clear to them that if money becomes a problem they don’t need to feel bad about having to back out. I’m just really hoping none of them do!
Post # 7
I don’t understand why you didn’t let her know that you and your Fiance would be willing to help her out. I also don’t understand why you don’t want to keep her in the know. It seems like you are not wanting to be friends with her because she is unable to afford to be in your wedding. I don’t think that is fair to her. Even if she can’t go, if she is your friend and wants to show interest in your wedding, I think that as a friend you should be willing to share that with her.
Post # 8
Call her and tell her how you feel -from the heart. Maybe she isn’t keeping up with you (once a month phone call) because she feels guilty about not being able to go to your wedding. Perhaps if you explain to her how you really feel about wanting her at the wedding and then let her know that you and your Fiance would like to help her to be there, she will accept. Tell her that this experience won’t be right without her!