The Registry

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if you include the wedding website in the invitation and then the honeymoon registry is the only registry on the website, people will understand.  I guarantee you won’t find a single bee who will agree with you mentioning it on the invitations :-/

ETA: Oh.. I see you don’t have a wedding website, I misread that.  Then I don’t know :-/  I guess if you do one of those invitations that have inserts in them, one of the inserts could be FAQ and that could be included as a FAQ?

Post # 4
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry no ideas, but just a warning. There’s a good possibility that more sentimental, old-school people will still get you china or punch bowls, whether you say you don’t need them or not.

I do think some sort of rhyme would be cute though!

Post # 5
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420 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So what you’re doing is generally going to be frowned upon in the etiquette board since it doesn’t follow a few of the guidelines that etiquette sets out about gift & registries.

However only you know your situation and your guests – so you know better than anyone else whether this will ruffle any feathers or people will feel it’s great.

I can tell you about my reaction.  I think if you’re doing this on a separate card in your invitation, the only way you can pull it off is using one of those “cutesy” poems  especially include that you want people to contribute to memories.  I would open your invitation and read it and laugh a little to myself / think it was a little weird to mention gifts in an invitation for about 30 seconds.  Then I’d make sure I went to the website to check it out and I would purchase my gift for you from your honeymoon registry.

Basically – net positive reaction – you get what you want and I didn’t feel you were just asking for cash.  If your family and friends are more uptight and etiquette focused than me – they might be a little offended and they might just buy you gifts that you can’t use anyway.

 

 

Post # 6
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

@loving_life:  There is no polite way to mention gifts in any capacity (even to say no gifts) on an invitation.

 

So if you decide to do so, do so knowing it is impolite, and that at least some of your guests will not like it. 

 

Putting it in an invitation is a kin to saying that gifts are required. 

Please do not use a cutesy poem.  They are cheesy to the max, barely rhyme, and makes it seem like you think your guests are stupid, and will fall for a stupid poem.  If you are going to be ballsy enough to ask for gifts, at least ball up and do it outright.

 

Post # 8
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No. Just don’t. On any of it.

Post # 9
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@andielovesj:  I think you linked to the wrong post… I definitely don’t think it’s polite either, though I did try to be helpful and offer a suggestion…

Post # 10
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think your best bet is to have your family spread by word of mouth about your Honeymoon Registry. That way you don’t upset anybody for not following etiqutte. Plus, people will likely ask your parents or other relatives where you are registered anyways and will get the idea through them. I would just make sure you give your parents and others your rationale so they can convey your sentiments. Those who don’t like the Honeymoon Registry will likely give cash but you will get some gifts. There are some people that really would rather give a something than cash or gift cards. 

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