Post # 1
I posed this question to the Honeymoon board and got very negative responses. I’m hoping I will have better luck here. My fiance and I live together, we purchased a house together and are pretty much set up in terms of “home”. We decided to do a Honeymoon Registry because we have everything we need and we want our friends and family to contribute to our memories rather than buying us china or punch bowls that we will never use. (Fun fact: he has a toddler from a previous marriage…..any fine china or thoughtful ceramic dish would be broken fairly quickly). I’m not asking if people think a Honeymoon Registry is a good idea. It IS what we are doing. I want to include a little tidbit about the registry along with the webpage in our invites (pocket-style invites so one whole card would be dedicated to just the registry). Just wondering if anyone has any wording they can suggest to let people know that we have everything we need for our home and we would like people to purchase things from the Honeymoon Registry. I want to be polite and not sound like we are asking for money (our registry is set up so people actually buy us activities or meals or upgrades or travel items, not just money….). Any suggestions on wording for the card??
Post # 3
I think if you include the wedding website in the invitation and then the honeymoon registry is the only registry on the website, people will understand. I guarantee you won’t find a single bee who will agree with you mentioning it on the invitations :-/
ETA: Oh.. I see you don’t have a wedding website, I misread that. Then I don’t know :-/ I guess if you do one of those invitations that have inserts in them, one of the inserts could be FAQ and that could be included as a FAQ?
Post # 4
Sorry no ideas, but just a warning. There’s a good possibility that more sentimental, old-school people will still get you china or punch bowls, whether you say you don’t need them or not.
I do think some sort of rhyme would be cute though!
Post # 5
So what you’re doing is generally going to be frowned upon in the etiquette board since it doesn’t follow a few of the guidelines that etiquette sets out about gift & registries.
However only you know your situation and your guests – so you know better than anyone else whether this will ruffle any feathers or people will feel it’s great.
I can tell you about my reaction. I think if you’re doing this on a separate card in your invitation, the only way you can pull it off is using one of those “cutesy” poems especially include that you want people to contribute to memories. I would open your invitation and read it and laugh a little to myself / think it was a little weird to mention gifts in an invitation for about 30 seconds. Then I’d make sure I went to the website to check it out and I would purchase my gift for you from your honeymoon registry.
Basically – net positive reaction – you get what you want and I didn’t feel you were just asking for cash. If your family and friends are more uptight and etiquette focused than me – they might be a little offended and they might just buy you gifts that you can’t use anyway.
Post # 6
@loving_life: There is no polite way to mention gifts in any capacity (even to say no gifts) on an invitation.
So if you decide to do so, do so knowing it is impolite, and that at least some of your guests will not like it.
Putting it in an invitation is a kin to saying that gifts are required.
Please do not use a cutesy poem. They are cheesy to the max, barely rhyme, and makes it seem like you think your guests are stupid, and will fall for a stupid poem. If you are going to be ballsy enough to ask for gifts, at least ball up and do it outright.
Post # 8
No. Just don’t. On any of it.
Post # 9
@andielovesj: I think you linked to the wrong post… I definitely don’t think it’s polite either, though I did try to be helpful and offer a suggestion…
Post # 10
I think your best bet is to have your family spread by word of mouth about your Honeymoon Registry. That way you don’t upset anybody for not following etiqutte. Plus, people will likely ask your parents or other relatives where you are registered anyways and will get the idea through them. I would just make sure you give your parents and others your rationale so they can convey your sentiments. Those who don’t like the Honeymoon Registry will likely give cash but you will get some gifts. There are some people that really would rather give a something than cash or gift cards.
Post # 11
You guys win. No registry in the invites. I’mnot a traditional bride so these things escape me. Especially etiquette, because I’m not easily offended and I don’t know what offends others.