- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
How do you know when he’s the ONE?
How do you know when he’s the ONE?
I don’t know, i just never questioned it. i know that isn’t a helpful response. It is a million things that make him into the man i know I want to spend the rest of my life with. It is the fact that I feel like the luckiest girl alive, that i won some sort of relationship lottery.
Our worst day together is still loads better than my best day without him.
Because it’s easy. It isn’t a struggle for us to be in love. While we are both very aware that there will be times that we will have to work through things, the foundation we have is built on mutual understanding, respect and loyalty. Personally I had never had a relationship like this before, and it’s wonderful. Finding a person who brings out the best in you while allowing you to just be YOU is a hard thing to find – once I realized that’s what I found, I knew it was forever
Oh boy, you made me all cheesy this morning!!
I just knew after spending a week with him, I can’t really explain it. Before I met my husband, I never believed in soulmates, but that changed. Our relationship felt very old and very new all at the same time, and it still does. When a holy palladin rushes in and saves your rogue, you just don’t question it 😉
I thought I met “the one” once, years ago… fell head over heels, but it turned out that guy was only interested in manipulating me. He was a grade A jerkface – we may have been soulmates (maybe – who really knows?) but I decided that I didn’t need that kind of asshole in my life, hahaha.
So after that, I learned to stop listening to my (rather inexperienced) heart and use my brain and my intuition instead (which were both telling me: run!)
So I don’t like saying “the one” or “soulmates” or whatever… I think it puts too much pressure on a relationship, and I think it negates the work that you have to do sometimes to maintain your love.
Not all relationships can be smooth sailing (for their own individual reasons) but there’s a difference between work you love to do and work that makes you miserable. Being with my FI makes me LOVE doing the work I do to keep us going – it’s hardly work at all to me, it’s all fun. 🙂
My FI is everything I’d want in a partner – he’s kind, loving, he takes care of the people who matter and stands up to the people who don’t, he is always striving to learn new things, he loves my quirkiness and is quirky himself, he makes me laugh more than I ever thought I could, and he’s just over all amazing.
Oh, and maybe I should mention we are both workaholics, and are constantly taking up new projects at our job and aat home… we love to keep busy (hance the “work” in our relationship – it’s just how we roll!)
I love him and he loves me, and while we may not be perfect puzzle piece soulmates, our relationship makes us both want to become better people – and we love doing that!
I think I knew from the beginning, but after being together for a few years before getting engaged I became absolutely sure. From the time I met him I always thought “Wow, that is just an excellent one (as in, human being)”. There was a point at the start of our relationship where it could have not happened, and I remember this really strong sense that I just wanted to be with him, and I listened to my heart on that. So glad I did!!
I just knew. I knew within about 2 weeks. It’s hard to describe.
Yeah, I think you just know. For me, love is a mix of utter comfort and happiness about 95% of the time, and extreme irritation 5% of the time but still a feeling of “there’s no one else I’d rather be pissed at.”
I think I had dated so many “not the ones” that what I noticed with H was that it was so differen ( in a good way) from the very first week.
@sarahroby: I don’t believe in “the one” or soulmates. I’m already a whole person and I think long term love is a choice and an action that has nothing to do with what Hollywood defines as romantic love.
I do know that I love my fiance with all my heart and that he loves me back, we are compatible and have similar goals and beliefs, we are both passionately dedicated to the relationship and to each other, and coming home to him at the end of the day makes everything better. I think we could be happy together for life.
Wanted to add: We both came into the relationship with a LOT of baggage. We’re a bit older, had been around the block a few times, experienced a lot of life, and got pretty screwed over in the process. I knew I was very “damaged”, and when I realized that he accepted my damage and was totally willing to work with me to move past those hurts and build my trust…. something I had never experienced with any of my previous relationships, I knew he was the kind of partner I could build a very happy life with. He was willing to work to make me happy, I was willing to work to make him happy, and we worked amazingly well as a team. That is what made our relationship “the one” that I wanted to commit myself to for the rest of my life.