Post # 1
Hi everyone! I’m a long time lurker but now our engagement conversation is getting more serious and I want some input!
My wonderful long-term boyfriend brought up engagement tonight and said “I have lots of notes about things you have said you like and I think I can pick a ring you will like based on my notes!” I thought it was super sweet that he has taken notes but I mentioned that I thought it would be fun and easier for him if we picked one out together. He seemed semi-interested in that and said “Of course, I still have to ask your family for permission first and once I do that, I need to propose so…” Anyway, my hope is that he’ll bring me with him to pick the right ring. That said, I don’t know what the “right ring” is!
Can you gals help me? I’ve looked at so many of your beautiful rings but I can’t decide what I want. I expect the budget for the ring will be significant, so I’m not very concerned about price. I have some important criteria though — I want something that is sparkly and beautiful (maybe large) without looking gaudy or osentatious. I want something “tastefully substantial” if that makes any sense. Maybe around 2 ct depending on the setting. I love sparkle and am interested in a thin pave band. I can’t decide what shape center stone I’d like, or if I should get a halo or not. I’m interested in Moissanite because it’s so sparkly but I have never seen one in person so I don’t know what they’re truly like. All of your pictures of them are beautiful!
How did you all decide what type of ring you wanted? How do you balance a LOVE for sparkle and a value for tastefulness?
Post # 2
Well, my fiance did ask me to choose my own engagement ring.. It felt less romantic but at least I know I’d get exactly what I want.. lol
The size of the center stone would depends on your ring size, if you have a small finger then 1 carat solitaire should be enough.. But if you have a full kind of finger then maybe you should go for 1,5 – 2 carats with halo setting.. Also you have to consider whether you want to wear this ring everyday or not.. A big bling is usually not practical for daily use..
I personally have a 1,1 carat solitaire with a paved diamonds setting.. Good luck with the ring hunting!!! 🙂
Post # 3
I didn’t do much ring or diamond research beyond browsing some jewelry websites. I just wanted a simple ring that was slightly unique but not too blingy and low set so that it wouldn’t get in the way at work. We went to the jeweler to look together. I gave him a few options on settings and left the stone to him, so it was still a surprise for me. It seems like your guy has been taking notes and will do a great job!
Post # 4
It’s the right ring when you look at it and feel like it’s ‘you’. I have a simple princess solitaire. If I were a ring, I’d be this one. Perfect size, good quality stone. Simple and elegant. Also when I was young, I always thought my e ring would be a princess solitaire :p there’s just something about lines for me
Post # 5
redmeow: There are soooo many threads on here that I’m sure you would find exactly what you are looking for. I’m not a fan of big rings (big for me is >1ct), so I’m biased. You have to decide what to go for – carat or clarity/color. If you want something bigger, I’d probably sacrifice color (they are usually almost colorless up to color H/J) or clarity (you can find a really beautiful SI1/2). I’d never sacrifice the cut, because that makes the stone sparkle.
Post # 6
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
redmeow: I didn’t know it until I saw it. If you’re not sure about size, find out your finger size, there’s probably a thread with people posting pics around that size with different sized diamonds. Whilst gaudiness is in the eye of the beholder you may find that with your finger size 2ct is too much or conversely not enough.
If you’re interested in Moissanite check out the new Amora Gem, they look out of this world!
Post # 7
Honestly, I was all over the place! My FI though wanted me to have a three stone. So we went together and looked at a ton of rings. The first setting we picked got messed up in the setting process so we picked my current setting, which I love! It has a ton of sparkle, but isn’t overwhelming on my smallish hand.
I recommend going and trying a bunch of different rings on, and you’ll know what styles feel more like you. It is way too hard to tell from pictures!
Post # 8
I agree with what PPs have said: It’s best to go and try on lots of different rings. Different sizes, different stone shapes, different types of settings. As much as possible.
When DH and I were getting engaged, I just knew I wanted a solitaire in a classic, simple Tiffany-style setting. It’s what I absolutely had my heart set on and had always seemed the perfect ring to me. We went to try on different styles, and it turned out that solitaires in the stone size we could afford looked terrible on me. So I ended up getting a five stone setting –large center round, with a smaller baguette and round on either side — for my original engagement ring. My anniversary ring has a round center with princess cuts on the setting.
Neither of these rings are what I would have thought I wanted or ever imagined having. But, as soon as they were on my hand, I knew they were the “right” ones for me.
Good luck and happy ring hunting! Just remember to enjoy the experience and excitement.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
I didn’t have to decide. DH picked out the most perfect ring for me on his own. 🙂 the only think I told him was no yellow gold and I mentioned that I really liked princess cuts. But that was it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I think trying them on is important. Even if you just want to go to the mall by yourself or with a girlfriend some day and browse. That’ll help you get an idea on size/style/cut. I completely changed my mind once i tried stuff on.
Post # 11
You gals are so great! Thank you for all of the input. You’re totally right — I need to go try things on, for sure. I also love hearing your individual stories 🙂