Post # 1
Last year my SO surprised me by taking me to design a ring together. It was fantastic and very exciting. Soon there after he took a break from his super stressful job and I knew that the engagement wouldn’t be happening right away. No worries. I know that the ring was paid for because he had told me and I know he was waitng to pick it up. He wouldn’t tell me any other details for wanting it to be a surprise. Well 3 weeks ago I was doing laundry and saw the box in his dresser. It was in a bag from the store but I didn’t open the box. I also know that he called his mom last weekend. He shared with my yesterday that he was nervous about talking to my dad even though they love him and he knows my parents are thrilled and are awaiting his call. I told him not to worry and so on. Anyway, the issue is I am freaking out on a daily basis knowing it is right there. I know it will happen prior to Thanksgiving, we discussed that.
My question is, and I know numerous posts like this have been done, but how the heck do I not dwell on this every single day and think anout it and mention it!? It is like word vomit and I can’t help myself. I am wondering if anyone has any tips or tricks that helped them when they knew that the ring was in the house and they were just waiting and trying not to look. I’m trying but failing miserably and I don’t want to peek in the box and I don’t want to pressure him but I am losing it.
Post # 2
Just keep busy! The waiting period will drive you nuts especially if you know the ring is physically in the house. I remember when I was waiting I knew FI had purchased the ring. He was dropping hints all the time. I was going crazy thinking about it. Finally when I least expected he propose. Now my problem is being anxious about my wedding which is 8 months away. Im currently in school so that’s been keeping me distracted from the wait. ( lol) It will happen just keep busy.
Post # 3
Thanks Dreambee! I know I have to keep myself busy but I can’t think of what to do in my free time other than weddnig things haha. I shall try harder : ) thank you!
Post # 4
There’s nothing wrong with starting some wedding things while you wait 🙂 my fiance told me when he bought my ring, and as soon as I knew that he got it, I started looking at wedding colors, themes, possible dates… I even made up my family side of the guest list!!! Haha. It’s understandable that you’re really nervous and anxious to see the ring and become a fiancee, but just think: he wants to see the look on your face when you see that ring for the very first time, and that will keep you from looking 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria
ejfuller: Yeah, get out of the house. Hang out with girlfriends, pick up OT at work (you’re going to need extra money anyways, right?! 😉 )
If it really comes down to it, tell him you saw it putting away laundry and he needs to move it somewhere else. I’ll admit I looked for mine. I was actually looking for my Christmas present, I had no idea he was actually going to propose right before Christmas. I looked in his computer tower, didn’t see it, but later he told me that’s where he had hidden it. Just try to keep busy. I PROMISE it will be worth the wait.
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation. We bought the ring together and it’s been in the house for nearly a month. I keep thinking, this weekend? And then it doesn’t happen. I know it will happen soon and eventually so I keep busy with work and looking up different destination wedding stuff (since that is what we are going to do – already talked about it). And I’m trying to keep my nails pretty!
I agree with FutureBride625. i don’t see why a little heads start on planning things is bad. Especially if you and your SO have already talked about it
Post # 6
ejfuller: Ask him to move it. Say you saw the box and it’s driving you crazy. You already know all the details about him getting the ring so the fact that he has it isn’t surprising. It’ll help you sleep better knowing it’s not taunting you! haha.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
ejfuller: I started my wedding board on Pinterest, did Google searches, nailed my theme and colors down. That “waiting” time was actually a blessing in disguise for me. I had a very clear vision by the time we were actually engaged. It helped me organize my guest list, preliminary vendor list, and the million other lists I made!
Post # 9
ejfuller: We have the EXACT same story – mine kept the ring in the sock drawer, and I found it while putting away laundry, too! I have no advice (I was a horrible, miserable nervous wreck while waiting), but I just want to let you know that you’re not alone.
Now that I think about it, knowing the ring was there may have helped me a bit: it gave me concrete proof that we’d get engaged pretty soon. Maybe you could try to think of it that way?
Post # 10
ejfuller: I’m in a similar situation.
Honestly, the only thing that really made me chill the eff out, was having something else amazing to look forward too. I’ve been offered some amazing career opportunities lately, and in order to profit from them I have to be very focused and exerting all the energy I can into fueling those projects.
Now engagement just feels like the cherry on a very delicious sundae and I’m enjoying my day to day SO much more now.
Post # 11
ejfuller: Get a hobby? Make some friends? Do things?