Those of you who remember my past from last week about my friends who's wedding planning I halted my own planning for mere weeks before my own big day.
I designed her invites, ordered her paper for her, researced prices, vendors....well I did everything. Because she was a very good friend who was having a short engagement and needed help.
When I didn't get an invitation to her wedding I was really mad. Even if an explanation of "We're over budget, would you mind swinging in to the reception later?" Or whatever would have been fine but I got nothing. I found out today that I was intentionally not invited - her reason was "Something happened"
So not only did she take over my planning time, not show up to my wedding whenshe RSVP'd to and stuck me witht paying for the food she didn't eat, and then didn't even bother to give me an explanation as to why I wasn't invited....
I sent her an e-mail letting her know that I really would prefer to no longer be friends with her, thay she took advantage of me and she needs some insight into what being a friend is. I told her if she coulnd't invite me because of money issues (which by the way I know there isn't.....trust me) then a quick e-mail or phone call to let me know would have been nice since we were such good friends and because we discussed my atteneding the wedding several dozen times....
People really are rude sometimes you know that! I suppose in the end I should be happy to not have a mooch of a friend hanging on me.
Thanks to all of yo uwho commented on my asking if she was rude last week!
I've been engaged for about 2 months now, and in the past 2 months I have been continuously shocked at how something like a wedding can make people act absolutely horrible. It really brings out the worst in some people!
It seems like the best advice is to not let this come between you-- let her know how angry and hurt you are, but don't let that get in the way of forgiveness.
That being said, I'd probably be pissed! I don't know if I could even bring myself to take my own advice there.
You were right to speak your mind. You called her on her behavior and I think you were correct to do so. As time passes, hopefully she will realize that she treated you badly and owes you a better explanation than "something happened". Although I really wonder what this mysterious "something" is she is referring to - because it just seems SO odd that she wouldn't invite you to her wedding and also bail on your wedding without warning.
What a you-know-what! How could she ask a friend to design her invites for her and don't invite you When and where's her wedding again? I think it's time for a Bee meet-up!
Those of you who remember my past from last week about my friends who's wedding planning I halted my own planning for mere weeks before my own big day.
I designed her invites, ordered her paper for her, researced prices, vendors....well I did everything. Because she was a very good friend who was having a short engagement and needed help.
When I didn't get an invitation to her wedding I was really mad. Even if an explanation of "We're over budget, would you mind swinging in to the reception later?" Or whatever would have been fine but I got nothing. I found out today that I was intentionally not invited - her reason was "Something happened"
So not only did she take over my planning time, not show up to my wedding whenshe RSVP'd to and stuck me witht paying for the food she didn't eat, and then didn't even bother to give me an explanation as to why I wasn't invited....
I sent her an e-mail letting her know that I really would prefer to no longer be friends with her, thay she took advantage of me and she needs some insight into what being a friend is. I told her if she coulnd't invite me because of money issues (which by the way I know there isn't.....trust me) then a quick e-mail or phone call to let me know would have been nice since we were such good friends and because we discussed my atteneding the wedding several dozen times....
People really are rude sometimes you know that! I suppose in the end I should be happy to not have a mooch of a friend hanging on me.
Thanks to all of yo uwho commented on my asking if she was rude last week!
posted by Sweeney2Be 1,488 posts 2 months agoI've been engaged for about 2 months now, and in the past 2 months I have been continuously shocked at how something like a wedding can make people act absolutely horrible. It really brings out the worst in some people!
It seems like the best advice is to not let this come between you-- let her know how angry and hurt you are, but don't let that get in the way of forgiveness.
That being said, I'd probably be pissed! I don't know if I could even bring myself to take my own advice there.
posted by amandopolis 27 posts 2 months agoYou were right to speak your mind. You called her on her behavior and I think you were correct to do so. As time passes, hopefully she will realize that she treated you badly and owes you a better explanation than "something happened". Although I really wonder what this mysterious "something" is she is referring to - because it just seems SO odd that she wouldn't invite you to her wedding and also bail on your wedding without warning.
posted by carly7215 67 posts 2 months agoWhat a you-know-what! How could she ask a friend to design her invites for her and don't invite you
When and where's her wedding again? I think it's time for a Bee meet-up!
posted by NorCalBride 307 posts 2 months ago